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Originally Posted by Lux
So the children can be removed until the abuser is removed but are they placed back in the care of the parent who didn't report it? Can that happen?
For atleast two of the cases I'm thinking of in regards to custody, it was imposed by the court. For one of them, the mother is a tad nuts and the child has expressed that he wishes he could live with his father. For another it's a matter of the father's wishes basically being ignored.
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Lux, try not to judge the non reporting mother too harshly, many times she is a victim of abuse too. its not unusual for the abuser to make threats such as "you'll never see your kids again if you say anything" or they become even more violent if the mother attempts to leave or get the children out. The kind of abusers I am talking about are bullies and control freaks. they like the power they get by keeping their victims in a constant state of fear, and they need to keep their victims close at hand so they can reinforce the fear factor on a regular or semi regular basis. There is mental abuse as well as physical abuse that can go on, and even financial entrapment. many of these mothers are poorly educated and know they cannot support themselves or their children and are unfortunately dependant on the abuser's income. Welfare does NOT pay enough to live on.
re: the two cases you mention, I cant comment because I dont know the other side....but the one boy who wants to live with his father, how old is he? is he old enough for his wishes to be considered? if so, maybe the father can have a modification of the current arrangement.