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Originally Posted by GateandGarden

Oh my God! You're me! How cool. (Well, not for us). I really hate driving. I haven't been in an accident yet, but I've come close. I don't have a Beetle yet, but that's the one car I want. It's hard to be excited about it because I HATE driving with a passion.

Anyway, I know other people have real problems, but I have to complain about this. Some of y'all know that I've had a crush on this girl in my history class all semester. (Remember, Amber, you said she sounds like she looks like one of your good friends, with the curly reddish hair and the big brown eyes). She was gorgeous. And I could barely speak when I was around her. But she was very nice to me. Until about three weeks ago. She quit talking to me, and for once in my life, I assumed it had absolutely nothing to do with me. I figured she was going through some bad times--she had told me that there had been a death in her family. But she just left the final without even looking at me. And she hasn't looked at me or said one word to me for the past three weeks. A friend of mine told me after the final that she had told the girl I had a crush on her. I was devastated! Absolutely devastated! Sobbing and everything. It must have made the girl uncomfortable. I couldn't believe my friend told her that--she was the one person in the class I told, and I made it clear that it was a secret and I didn't want her to tell anyone! I asked her why she did it and she said, "I was curious to see what she was going to say." I felt like I was in high school, all that crap with people telling other people that other people "like" them. The chick needs to grow up. If Rebekah (that's her name) was going to know, I wanted to be the one to tell her. I wanted to be in control of the situation. I just wanted to walk away from it thinking she was flattered. Instead, it ended on a bad note. She won't even look at me!

This is what I ask of all of you. If you're straight and a gay person had the guts to tell you that he or she has a genuine crush on you and just wanted to let you know, please just be appreciative of that person's feelings. Tell him or her that you're flattered and appreciate his or sincerity and bravery even if you can't return those feelings. Make them feel like there was actually some little something to be gained from the embarrassment of such a confession. It could mean so much to someone to know that it wasn't completely in vain, to think that maybe confessing to having a crush on you might have made you feel better about yourself or something along those lines.

Okay, I just had to get that out. Thanks in advance to all who read it.

Hillary

Omigosh, that's a terrible story. I'm so sorry. I can't believe that girl told. If i was straight and had a crush on someone, i still wouldn't want her to tell!
But also, I think that since your "friend" told the girl, and not you, she probably doesn't really know how to have a dialogue with you about it - if you had told her, there would at least be a line of communication open right then. But your "friend" really botched this one. which is lame and unfortunate. I hope you kicked that girl's a**, even though i know you probably didn't. I hope you're doing ok.