I used to actively pursue friends mainly with gay people. I used to find that with straight people, my gayness always ended up being "a thing", for better or for worse, and that was annoying as you've said, markolas. That seems to have changed a lot over the past few years, and I'm not sure if it's just that I'm older and the people I'm around are more experienced and used to things, or if people are simply different in the place I now live, but I really mainly have straight friends these days. Not by design or anything, that just seems to be how it's panned out.
Sorry about your date, Artemis.
People
are different in messages than in person, and it's something I wonder about regarding how it affects modern dating, which seems to begin with social media more often than not.