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Originally Posted by Phoenix
Listen, I get all that so don't think that I do not. I just PERSONALLY believe that cheating especially with someone who is married is wrong. And I would like to believe. That "we've. All done it" is NOT the case. Apparently I am in the minority. I get everything else and did not say STEVIE should be boring or a "moral compass " I just do not think cheating should be defended or encouraged. Hopefully this clears up what I meant.
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I agree. I appreciate your posts too.
Cheating seems like such a strange thing to defend. It happens, but it always hurts someone, sometimes many someones, especially when the couple have children. It's a topic you would think people would want to keep their nose out of, not feel the need to add their two cents publically. What a weird thing for Stevie to make comments about.
Stevie can act like "it's all good" but look at the emotional state her love life has put her in throughout her life. She lived the rock n roll life and thought nothing of drinking, doing drugs, partying, and cheating, but she was miserable a lot of the time too. I never bought her act of still being such great friends with her ex's. Maybe now, because it's been so many years, but I think she tried to cling on to having the "friendship" back then to save face and try and make herself really believe it didn't hurt. She was not always the one doing the cheating, she was often cheated on by her lovers, including married men who then dropped her after they had fun with their little fantasy and then went back to their wives and kids. She'd have to be dead inside for none of that to never have hurt her. And she was not always the one doing the dumping, she was often the one being dumped. She can act like it's so magical, a fairy tale, and was all worth it, but she is the one maybe who shouldn't throw stones. Acting like cheating and affairs and dating married men is all good and fine, and doesn't hurt any0ne, and that everyone does it. Let her steal your husband away and see how much you are still thinking it's just dandy. I love her music and I love her as a celebrity, but I never have enjoyed hearing about all her love issues, from sleeping with married men to pregnancy issues, and so forth. It all just wreaks of saddness to me.
She is definitely that stereotypical rock and roll star. She gave the men a run for their money. And I love that very fun, amazingly musical, talented rock and roll star. But I don't have to like everything about her life and the way she chooses to live it. Affairs happen, fine, she can make that case, but to act like it isn't hard on a relationship is crazy. It never worked out well for her in the end. And to repeat the behavior even after being burned, that is not exactly decent. And for her to not once think about the woman she hurt, the wife. That's one hard soul. Not exactly Stevie-esque, is it? But yet, I guess it was. You could look at her in a lot of different ways, none of which are very pleasant, about a woman who could have any many she wanted, but often goes for the taken ones. Afraid of commitment? Or who likes the feeling of the challenge, the seduction, the feeling of winning when she steals the man away from his wife? Or narcissistic? Or having to prove she can truly have any man? Or maybe a poor self-image and having to make herself feel better? Or no, maybe just an ego boost? A high, a drug in itself? Whichever the reason, none are very happy or pleasant. Between her appreciation of taken men and the drugs, to me that seems more than just the life of a rock star. It seems like it is screams, "ISSUES!" to me. It made me feel bad for her years ago and wish she'd find some happiness. I figured by now, she has. But these comments seem like denial to me. She still only lets herself look at the little moment of fantasy and she blocks out the pain that also was a part of those affairs, the full reality. So once again I feel a bit sad for her. She had to face the truth about her addiction, and publically. She couldn't fairy-tale her way out of that one, although she has put the Stevie spin on it. But seems like there is still pain in her life that she does let long clouds of white cloud her memory.
But it's funny sounding to me, for her to be giving her opinion or advice to young celebrities about such a topic. "Ya, do your thing and then they can forgive you afterwards." What she fails to mention in her advice is that if it starts to hurt, they can turn to drugs. Numb yourself if it gets too intense, kiddies. It's all good.
I think it's sad.