.......go to the nicksfix
 

...a note from Stevie

yes, i'm surprised she has posted so quick about it

Chris

What a handsome man he was. Very sad.

I was taken aback a bit with her asking her father to wait until her tours were complete. I find that a little egocentric! Hmmm... :shocked:

Trust me, when your parents and other loved-ones get older, you start using any means necessary to keep them around longer. You hold out graduations and births and birthdays and all sorts of things they have to yet see as an incentive to try and get them to hold out and hold on for a little longer.

Sad confirmation of this already sad news.

Tears were streaming down my face before I even began to read her entry...I am so glad we have heard from her and that she has chosen to give us a sign that she is ok. This means so much to me, Stevie. I love you...

Regarding asking her father to wait until the tours were complete - Please try to understand what she was saying. Jess was a man with an incredible work ethic. If you've ever heard stories of when Stevie was sick and did not want to perform and he basically said to her "Stevie, these people are here to see you so get out there and do your job" and she did. He WANTED to hold on until the end of the tour for her so she was supporting his wishes and continuing for him. Being the selfless man that he was he did not want the tours to stop on his behalf which they most likely would have if he passed. Stevie said that to honor her father, not to be selfish because that is what he would have wanted.

I hope this doesn't turn out to be another "Stevie is an egomaniac" thread :(.

Oh wow...

I totally didn't expect her to post anything so soon - let alone at all!!! She is such a kick ass lady! Still -she must be feeling so much pain - their whole family is, I'm sure...but I think it's great that she got to be with him in his last days.

I think the fact that she posted about this so soon shows how strong of a person she is... and also, how she cares for her fans... she didnt have to do that.. she didnt have to say anything about it... as many have pointed out, it's her personal family business.. the fact that she would write a note to us, her fans, is frankly, pretty big of her... shows how much she cares.

Wow - how can this woman write a few words & give me chills. So sad.

Totally Agree! Anyone who has lost a parent or a loved one would understand where Stevie was coming from in her note. I don't know how she gathered the strength to write at this very trying time. God Bless you and your family Stevie. Your sadness will turn to happy memories of the times you and your Dad spent together. "If your lost and look you will find me...time after time"!

Rest in Peace Jess.

Rox

If there is one thing in life I've learned, it is never judge someone who is grieving.

The "contract" between Stevie and her father about when he should let go is a very personal one between two people who loved each other deeply. Of course she was not saying don't die because I have to work, and we all know that if he died during the summer tour, she would have cancelled it.

It was a spiritual arrangement between the two of them based on things we will never know.

Stevie was totally devoted to that man. This is a really sad time for her and while I'm always on the side of free speech, I strongly caution against judging her. Just love and support her unconditionally--isn't that what we all want when we are so vulnerable and in such pain?

I haven't been through what she's going through but I can imagine that she felt she needed him as long as she could have him. I can imagine silently saying Please stay with me through this and then Please stay with me through this, too. I think that I would be the same way. :(

I think that's a wonderful tribute she has on the site. It's very unique how public her private life is. I think it can be an invasion in some cases but in others I think it can be a blessing. It's just a belief I have that if a person and a family are going through such an awful time and there is an outpouring of love, support, and well wishes from many, many people, even if they are strangers, that genuine love can reach them in some way and they won't be alone.

Any fan who had followed her career for a good number of years (at least from her solo years) would know that Stevie is EXTREMELY close to her small family: one brother, a mom and a dad (and of course now Lori and Jesse). And that losing any of them would be a shattering experience for her. I also believe that when people are ill or know they are about to die, the will to continue can prolong their lives until they are ready to let go. It has nothing to do with her ego but his love for her daughter and what she does.

I found her note especially the last part of the poem to be absolutely moving and heartbreaking.

"So now I can cry
I can go to his ocean house with him
His dream house on the water
The porch that he loved
And wanted to build here
A place to watch the sunset
And have a little vodka
A couch to take a nap on
While he watched the sun go down"

I wonder what ocean house she is talking about. Last time I checked there was no ocean in AZ. Is this just a metaphor? It sounds like it was a very special place to him.

I am very touched by Stevie's letter and I'm sure it helped her as well, knowing there are many, many people who care about her and her family. My thoughts are with the Nicks family.

That's our Girl!!