cheesy subject
 

Well..
 

I'm from the South--we're serial huggers down here (do you suppose that's what got Bill Clinton in trouble?). Anyway, at least my Mom's family are all huggers. We hug each other hello & goodbye. Grown men hug one another when they see each other in my family with no shame or even consciousness about it. It's just the way we are. Although my longtime SO's family was also from the South--they weren't affectionate with one another in any way, shape, or form. So maybe it's not a Southern thing at all, but just a "my family" thing.

I am not a huggy kissy type myself. :shrug: I really don't like it that much. However now this is going to sound weird but I have given hugs (if you could call it that) in receiving lines at wakes. If it is someone that I know that has lost someone close I usally put my arms around them as I say "I'm Sorry".

I didn't mean to be so morbid. :distress:

I dont mind...
 

giving hugs, But everyone is just too damn short...So I end up using 'em as arm-rests :lol:

Neither Deb nor myself are touchy/feely folk...

Brian j.

I'm a hugger and a kisser. When I greet someone, it's always a hug and a peck on the cheek (or a quick lip kiss). I don't do this to everyone, just my inner circle of friends and people I meet at the bar. :xoxo:

cheesy indeed..
 

I'm not really touchy feely myself... Guess it goes back to a childhood without much attention from my parents. They both worked all the time and although my mother was quite "huggy", my father really didn't show any positive emotions towards me so I guess it's rubbed off on me. Doesn't help being an only child too I guess (I'm trying for the sympathy vote here! :laugh: ).

Having said that as I get older I'm starting to get a little soft and I'm giving in to the occasional hugs 'n' stuff at the right times. ;) :laugh:

sometimes i just don't feel like it when my friend does. But sometimes i'm very huggy. however, i don't really like when men i just met - or sometimes women - get all huggy. Like a third person you get introduced to through a friend? And maybe your friend is huggy, but you're not, so this new person thinks they get a hug from you even though you just met? But that is also based on a vibe thing. However, in the past few years i've gotten much more huggy (used to be shocked and dismayed by hugs :) ) but it's funny, now when i visit my best girlfriend from a long time, and give her a hug, it's kind of weird for her. She's not really huggy, either, although she is nice. And my best girlfriend in town hugs everyone. Everytime i see her she's trying to get some from me. :laugh:
I guess i'm a "moody" hugger. :p

I'm quite the opposite...
 

cause my Mom loved to play with us boys, Especially pinning us to the floor and tickling us until we pissed ourselves...Til this day I HATE being tickled :nod:

My late Father worked so I dont have many memories about him since I was only 7 yrs.old when he passed away...I do remember he gave us hugs/kisses.

Brian "Parents-Can't live with 'em...Can't shoot 'em" j.

Sounds cool Brian, I do have vague memories of my late father giving me a "firemans lift" and carrying me upside down when I was 6 or 7. Thats about it.

Hey, in some states I bet there's gotta be some asshole that would take their parents to court for child abuse if they got tickled as kids... Wouldn't surprise me one bit.. I bet those people could do with a REALLY big hug! :laugh: :laugh:

They either need a...
 

big hug or a high colonic!!!! :laugh:

Brian j.

I'm a huggy person, but not a kissy one. If you hate hugs and affection, don't let the door hit you on the ass on your way out. ;)

:laugh: What if you just met the person, or you don't like them much yet? Is yours some kind of "house of indiscriminate hugs"? :laugh:

I'd never hug a person I had just met or didn't know. For all I know, they were hug-deprived as a child and will flip out. :laugh: Only people I know. If I didn't like someone, I wouldn't hang around them (or let them hang around) long enough.

yeah, really. I'm always randomly meeting these friends of this one friend of mine, cause she is apparently friends with the whole town of Oakland and Berkeley. Anyway, there's been a few awkward moments. :laugh: I'm like "nice to meet you" and stick out my hand as they dive for their hug :rolleyes: :laugh: then they act like i'm really weird and totally insulted them :laugh: then i have to go..."well, i just met you". Anyway, I've had to perfect a bit of a distant stand and air during the whole "wall of hugs" moment that inevitably ensues...sheesh! :rolleyes: But i'd rather give a sincere hug, or no hug at all, dammit!! :laugh:
Amber "witholding affection till you prove yourself" G.

I hug everyone. Seriously. I probably freak my friends out with how much I hug them.

I'm quite reserved so I usually don't hug or kiss people I don't know well. Even if in Italy both hugs and kisses are very very common, our greetings can be very physical.

Romy

:laugh: Hey, Romy, this is for you. Hope you can see it.
http://tinypic.com/p0olg

:laugh:

Thanks Amber, that was great (and absolutely true :nod: ).

Romy

I live in the South too. I think you may be right. Everyone I know, friends and family, hug each other hello and goodbye. We don't hug people we barely know, but friends and family definitely hug. It may be a southern hospitality thing. :shrug:

I am a huggy person. Never use to be as a child or teenager but when I started my own family, I wanted to make sure my kids knew they were loved so I would give them a daily hug and my husband is a huggy person too. My grown kids tease me about the hugging but I think they secretly love it. haha

As for pictures being taken. I enjoy taking family pictures but hate being in them. If I lost 20 lbs they can take a picture of me. haha One day my grandson did mention that grandma needs her picture taken sometimes so he can remember me when I am gone so even though I hate getting my picture taken, I do it for my grandson and my kids even though I am still shy about it.

I am very affectionate, but only with people close to me. I don't hug casual friends, etc.

I think it's, to a degree anyway, a socialogical thing. The French seem to hug and kiss each other all the time, yet us "Brits" are very reserved.. Sure if I know somebody well, at least a female I'll give a little hug maybe, if it's a guy a handshake will be enough for me. :laugh:

Anybody I don't know well gets a smile and the regulation hello, maybe a handshake if I'm feeling generous :laugh: :laugh:

The states seems to have different reactions all over, The good old New York greeting of "what do you want?" springs to mind.. :]

That huggy girl is like my friend. :laugh:
I guess i wish the us was more open, but then i'd have to hug and kiss everyone... :shocked: but i guess that would seem normal to me, if everyone always did it.
by the way, that book is one of the top 5 funniest books i've ever read. ever. If anyone wants it, it's called "Dogberts Clues for the Clueless" it is ostensibly all about manners, but is fricking hilarious.

The people that disturb me are not the ones that hug you indiscriminately on your first meeting but the ones that invade your personal "bubble" when you speak to them for the first time. They come too close, you move back and they follow you.... You move back again and they come too close again, it's like some odd game where they follow you about as you walk backwards.. :shocked:

And is it me or are they always the ones with bad breath that do this? :shrug:

:laugh: :lol:
that's why it's CALLED the bad breath zone, dude! :laugh:

Yeah...

And there's no item on the market to deal with it....

Now there's a product just waiting to be invented, a bad breath detector. Kinda like a smoke alarm. It should vibrate or something to warn of incoming attacks...

Then again if just one of us was honest enough to just tell them about it, there wouldn't be bad breath zones... :laugh: :lol: :laugh:

:lol: Ah, Madformac, my book has an answer for you, too!
http://tinypic.com/p14ic

Mfm...
 

LMFAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thats the funniest thing I've seen for ages!!! :laugh: :laugh:

Thanks :xoxo:

I had somebody at work in mind when I was reading that.. :laugh: :laugh:

LOL

As I recall, we exchanged a hug last year when you left the UK to go home did we not?

So our "not huggy" people approach just left the building.. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Just thought... Me saying "As I recall" arrggghhh I sound like LB!!!! (as I go into a high pitched voice... ) :laugh:

No prob, cutie! Hmmm, maybe now when anyone complains about something, I should have "the book" out. :laugh: Seriously, if you get the chance to pick it up, the whole damn thing is hilarious.

Oh, wow, I should probably clarify. Everyone here's all, "Oh, I only hug family" or, "Oh, I only hug my friends."

I don't go around hugging EVERYONE. It's really only my little "circle of friends." Heh, that sounds lame. I hug other people sometimes, too, but usually it's just to tick 'em off. Woot.

Yeah, I'm gonna have to look out for that book. One to get for sure...

Thanks again... :nod:

I work from home and rarely get to go to our corporate office which is about 90 minutes away. Several more employees work form home like I do and in fact, live out of state, so they're there even less than I am. So when we have a quarterly staff meeting, it's like one long hug fest around there. Probably 95% of our staff are native Southerners though. I'm wondering what the "Yankees" amongst us must think when we all start greeting one another with hugs??? At one job I had, the television station owner was an old southern "gentleman" and his big thing to do was to come in and give all the girls a little hug and a kiss on the cheek. There wasn't anything sexual about it, at least I don't think there was--at least it wasn't for me!!!!

Lol!!
 

Yeah a year... wow.

I'm sure we'll meet again at some point ( as I hear "Say We'll Meet Again" in my head :laugh: ) although I have no plans to visit Texas anytime soon. (thanks George :rolleyes: )

We'll all have to meet up in Maui at a some massive Ledgie party.. :woohoo: :cool: :laugh:

I'm there, dude. Maui? f*** yeah! :]

Woohoo!!