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nicole21290
02-04-2014, 02:39 AM
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/04/booming/stevie-nicks-just-following-her-muse.html?_r=0

by Joan Anderman / The Creative Mid-Life - New York Times / Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Stevie Nicks, just following her muse

During her 40-year career as a member of Fleetwood Mac and a solo artist, the singer-songwriter Stevie Nicks has made more than 40 Top 50 hits and sold over 140 million albums. In Your Dreams, a documentary film about the making of her 2011 album of the same name, was recently released on DVD. Now 65, Ms. Nicks called from a rented house in Phoenix, her hometown. A condensed and edited version of our conversation follows.

You just finished a tour with Fleetwood Mac, a band with a tumultuous personal history. How do you all get along now?

Mick Fleetwood and I are best friends. We were mad at each other for six months or a year after we broke up, and then were able to return to who we were before. My relationship with Lindsey Buckingham is never going to be that. When it’s all said and done and I’m 90 years old, maybe I’ll be able to figure that relationship out. John McVie I adore. I look after him as much as I can [Mr. McVie was given a diagnosis of cancer in October] and make sure he puts ice on his back.

Are you surprised that the band is still together?

Surprised? No. It’s a really great band.

How has your voice changed?

I had a lot of problems with my voice from 1975 to 1998. We were only just starting to use ear monitors, and we’d been using huge floor monitors that blast the sound back at you and you just scream over it. There were many bad nights onstage. Since 1998 I’ve been working with a vocal coach, Steve Real, and I’ve never had a problem onstage since.

Do you have a voice care regimen?

Three hours before I go on-stage I do a 40-minute vocal lesson. We go on at 8, which means I have to be done at 5, so from 3 to 3:30 I do the first part and between 4:30 and 5 I do the second part; 30 minutes and then 11 minutes. By the time I walk onstage at 8 o’clock, I’m ready to do 2 hours and 40 minutes.

So your voice is in better shape than it was 30 years ago?

Oh, yes. I tell all the young people I know that sing to get a vocal coach. You don’t have to take them on the road like I do. They’ll make you a tape, and you’ll become a better singer.

Why the 10-year wait between your last two solo albums?

After I made Trouble in Shangri-La, which came out in 2001, I started realizing that everything my manager was telling me about how the Internet was going to eventually kill the music business was true. Records as we knew them, records as concepts, as 12 songs in a row that were sequenced, where you may not like the fourth song but you let it play because you love the way the third song went into the fourth song and the way the fourth song went into the fifth song, were definitely ending. And that was heartbreaking. I was told that the best thing for me to do as an older rock ‘n’ roll singer would be to tour.

Eventually you made In Your Dreams.

Well, I saw this movie, “New Moon,” in the Twilight series, and I was very inspired by that story so I wrote a song about it called “Moonlight.” And I thought, I can’t just put out this one song so I guess I’m going to have to put out a record. I got off the Fleetwood Mac tour in 2009 and hit the ground running. I called Dave Stewart [formerly of the Eurythmics]probably two weeks after I got home and said I’m ready to make a record now.

You and Dave wrote songs together, which was a big change for you.

That’s probably one of the reasons it was the best year of my life. I always wished that I could write with people. I do write, in a way, with Mike Campbell [a sideman for Tom Petty], who sends me tracks. But he’s not there. So when the thing with Dave happened it was so out of the blue. We wrote seven songs in under three months, and recorded as we went, and my whole idea of songwriting changed. Dave Stewart doesn’t have an ego. He can read your mind. He can read your eyes. If you look the slightest bit like, “Oh, no,” he says, “Let’s go another way.” So you never have to have that pit in your stomach where you’re going, “O.K., when he finishes playing this song I’m going to have to say I hate it.”

You say in the documentary film about the making of In Your Dreams that recording “Soldier’s Angel” with Lindsey Buckingham marked a new beginning for the two of you. How so?

Because he was able to come to my house and walk into the world of Dave Stewart and Stevie Nicks, which is not the world of Lindsey Buckingham and Stevie Nicks. When he walked in the door he was surrounded by cashmere and hugs.

You recently appeared in the television show American Horror Story: Coven. What was that like?

It was pretty nerve-racking. I never, ever thought that I would ever do anything in the acting genre because I was in a play when I was in the fourth grade and I consider it the worst moment of my life. We got the script the day before and when my assistant read it out loud to me at 2 in the morning in New Orleans, I said I think I should get on a plane right now and go straight back to Los Angeles and hide out. I was almost in tears. But everyone was really understanding.

Will we see more of you onscreen?

There was a point toward the end of the first day where I’d sung “Rhiannon” like 25 times and they said O.K., one more time, and I’m like, are you insane? Now we have to get Jessica Lange and now we have to get the fireplace and, oh my god, these people work so much harder than I do. It’s hard for me to sit and wait.

The American Horror Story episode was called “The Magical World of Stevie Nicks.” Have magical things happened to you?

I believe that that first record going to No. 1 and making Lindsey and I millionaires at the end of the summer when I was a waitress at the beginning of the year was magical.

Is it true what you wrote in “Landslide,” that “time makes you bolder”?

I wrote “Landslide” in 1973, when I was 27, and I did already feel old in a lot of ways. I’d been working as a waitress and a cleaning lady for years. I was tired.

How do you feel now?

I’m extremely lucky. I’ve been in a famous band for a very long time and because of that I’ve taken very good care of myself, except for the eight years I was on Klonopin and I got really fat, but that wasn’t my fault. You have to keep yourself youthful. And I don’t mean looking 22 and going to plastic surgery and looking like a caricature of yourself, a stranger that nobody recognizes so that you can’t even get a table at a restaurant because you really don’t look like Stevie Nicks anymore. I wear the right clothes, age-appropriate clothes. But I can still do some of the things I could do when I was really young and pull it off as a 65-year-old chick.

You got a lot of attention in the press when you gained weight.

I just kind of went underground. Understand, I was on Klonopin. It’s a tranquilizer. You’re tranquil. I stayed home in a really beautiful house, watched a lot of TV, and ordered from Jerry’s deli. I went from 125 up to 173 pounds. I did a couple of tours and everyone talked about my weight, but I managed to do pretty good shows so people gave me that. One day I woke up and said, this doctor is insane. He’s a groupie who wanted to have me come in a couple times a month to talk about rock ‘n’ roll I learned a valuable lesson. Never trust doctors, ever. I called up my best friend and said come get me and take me to a hospital. I spent 45 days there and got over it.

You were prescribed Klonopin after completing rehab for cocaine addiction, right?

I had gotten out of Betty Ford three months before I went to see him and I was doing great. But everyone was worried I was going to start using cocaine again. So I lost eight years of my life. Think of what could have happened during those eight years. I might have gotten married, I might have had a baby, I certainly would have made more albums.

You must be furious with that doctor.

If I was driving a car and he was crossing the street I might run over him.

How do you manage your anger?

If I’ve learned nothing else it’s that time passes and anger doesn’t do you much good. Something that seems really bad today is going to be better next week. And things you think are never going to go away soften with time. When things happen that upset me I try to do something that makes me happy.

Like what?

Right now I put on Lady Gaga’s “Applause” and dance around the house.

What else makes you happy?

Writing. When I write I go into my own world.

Do you spend a lot of time in your own world?

I’m single, I don’t have children, and I’ve never been married except for three months a long time ago. And that doesn’t matter; It wasn’t a marriage of reality. I live a single woman’s life and yes, I spend a lot of time by myself. I have a few very close friends, most of them I’ve known forever, and I kind of like it. Would I be willing to have a boyfriend? It would be fun if I could find a boyfriend who understood my life and didn’t get his feelings hurt because I’m always a phone call away from having to leave in two hours for New York or a phone call away from having to do interviews all day long. It’s not very much fun to be Mr. Stevie Nicks. In the last 10 years I’ve just said I’m going to follow my muse. If I want to go somewhere I don’t have to worry about anyone being mad at me. I don’t have to make up excuses on the phone about why I’m not coming home. If it were to happen to me I’d be thrilled. But when I’m 90 years old and sitting in a gloriously beautiful beach house somewhere on this planet with five or six Chinese Crested Yorkies, surrounded by all my goddaughters who will at that point be middle-aged, I’ll be just as happy.

Can you imagine a time when Fleetwood Mac will come to an end?

It will probably become less physical and involve less travel. But I don’t see Fleetwood Mac ever really stopping.

louielouie2000
02-04-2014, 10:00 AM
No mentions of Christine, a new Mac album, WTF? :shrug: Stevie is just in full on denial mode in the press. :mad:

RavenOfRhiannon
02-04-2014, 10:06 AM
No mentions of Christine, a new Mac album, WTF? :shrug: Stevie is just in full on denial mode in the press. :mad:

I seriously doubt that. It's possible the interview was conducted before the announcement, or that the band as a whole have decided not to make any individual comments until they are ready to announce whatever is going to happen, album, tour, both...or whatever the next chapter will be. It's also possible she talked about these things at length and Liz Rosenberg or someone in that office had the NYT excise those comments pending an announcement.

DashingDan
02-04-2014, 10:36 AM
"A condensed and edited version of our conversation follows." Who's to say what was left on the cutting room floor. By all accounts, she's a bit of a chatterbox.



No mentions of Christine, a new Mac album, WTF? :shrug: Stevie is just in full on denial mode in the press. :mad:

BigAl84
02-04-2014, 11:17 AM
What happened to her and Lindsey being in the best place they have ever been!? First it was Mick and I are bff's, then it was Lindsey and I are bff's, now it's back to Mick. Weird.
This is the most bi-polar band in the world.

vivfox
02-04-2014, 01:05 PM
I know it shouldn't, but it has always bothered me that Stevie has spent her whole life defining her acting career based on some embarrassing moment in the 4th grade. The same thing about always mentioning that one show in early 1977 when FM performed new songs and the audience turned away in horror. That's her standard excuse for not performing new songs in concert today.
Besides having cocaine use in common with Ann and Nancy Wilson, the Wilson sisters have always annoyed me with relaying that one moment in 1976 when a man asked them if the two of them were lovers. Like Stevie, they still bring that up today as if it were the defining moments in their careers.

brickney723
02-04-2014, 01:28 PM
What happened to her and Lindsey being in the best place they have ever been!? First it was Mick and I are bff's, then it was Lindsey and I are bff's, now it's back to Mick. Weird.
This is the most bi-polar band in the world.

Right? WHY has this changed-- again?

louielouie2000
02-04-2014, 01:34 PM
I seriously doubt that. It's possible the interview was conducted before the announcement, or that the band as a whole have decided not to make any individual comments until they are ready to announce whatever is going to happen, album, tour, both...or whatever the next chapter will be. It's also possible she talked about these things at length and Liz Rosenberg or someone in that office had the NYT excise those comments pending an announcement.

I just find it so weird that Mick confirmed Christine's return weeks ag0, then confirmed the band is going into the studio in March. With all the press Stevie has done lately for American Horror & such, she's never once brought up Christine or a new album. It's bizarre. When she was asked straight up by an interviewer at the Grammy's, she mentioned she's doing a bunch of different things the next 4 months. Nothing about Christine, nothing about a new album. I just don't get it. :confused:

"A condensed and edited version of our conversation follows." Who's to say what was left on the cutting room floor. By all accounts, she's a bit of a chatterbox.

Yeah, but wouldn't news from Stevie's mouth about Christine rejoining the band & them starting studio work next month trump anything else she could possibly say? :shrug:

What happened to her and Lindsey being in the best place they have ever been!? First it was Mick and I are bff's, then it was Lindsey and I are bff's, now it's back to Mick. Weird.
This is the most bi-polar band in the world.

Right? I get the feeling she & Lindsey are having difficulties again. She's stopped mentioning him in the press, and now she's suddenly extolling the virtues of Dave Grohl, and how she wants to go out on the road with him. Just like the times when she was all about Tom Petty (2006), then Dave Stewart (2011).

All this begs the question- is Stevie not on board with going back to the Mac this year? Does she not want to record with them again, or tour with them again so quickly since they just toured last year? Was Mick's comment about "most of the band going into the recording studio next month" actually referencing Stevie, and not John like we all assumed?

bombaysaffires
02-04-2014, 01:45 PM
"A condensed and edited version of our conversation follows." Who's to say what was left on the cutting room floor. By all accounts, she's a bit of a chatterbox.

I was going to say, these responses seem very un-Stevie in their brevity. Her answers go on for PARAGRAPHS so this is definitely a distillation. I don't think she's ever done a "short" interview in her life!!!

With regards to Lindsey, my guess is that they are in process of determining who will produce, and we know how she feels about having LB produce single-handedly. I think her reiterating how great things were with Dave in the studio (no worries about saying you don't like something, full of cashmere and hugs which is "not the world of Lindsey Buckingham") is a tipoff to where she's at with recording with the Mac and where that relationship (with LB) is currently at.

BigAl84
02-04-2014, 01:47 PM
I think this interview was done sometime after the first appearance on AHS and before the announcement of Christine's return. Hopefully everything is fine between her and Lindsey. Something about this interview is off, across the whole thing. Something tells me it's been HEAVILY edited. I would find it ABSURD if Christine decided to come back and Stevie still didn't want to be part of an album. If that's the case, she's totally nuts....and pretty uninspired at that.

michelej1
02-04-2014, 05:05 PM
Well, I'm glad that John has someone to remind him to put ice on his back.

Michele

pattyfan
02-04-2014, 09:41 PM
sorry, I just saw that this was already posted.

BlueDenimLamp
02-04-2014, 10:16 PM
http://www.nytimes.com/2014/02/04/booming/stevie-nicks-just-following-her-muse.html?_r=0

by Joan Anderman / The Creative Mid-Life - New York Times / Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Stevie Nicks, just following her muse

During her 40-year career as a member of Fleetwood Mac and a solo artist, the singer-songwriter Stevie Nicks has made more than 40 Top 50 hits and sold over 140 million albums. In Your Dreams, a documentary film about the making of her 2011 album of the same name, was recently released on DVD. Now 65, Ms. Nicks called from a rented house in Phoenix, her hometown. A condensed and edited version of our conversation follows.

You just finished a tour with Fleetwood Mac, a band with a tumultuous personal history. How do you all get along now?

Mick Fleetwood and I are best friends. We were mad at each other for six months or a year after we broke up, and then were able to return to who we were before. My relationship with Lindsey Buckingham is never going to be that. When it’s all said and done and I’m 90 years old, maybe I’ll be able to figure that relationship out. John McVie I adore. I look after him as much as I can [Mr. McVie was given a diagnosis of cancer in October] and make sure he puts ice on his back.

Are you surprised that the band is still together?

Surprised? No. It’s a really great band.

How has your voice changed?

I had a lot of problems with my voice from 1975 to 1998. We were only just starting to use ear monitors, and we’d been using huge floor monitors that blast the sound back at you and you just scream over it. There were many bad nights onstage. Since 1998 I’ve been working with a vocal coach, Steve Real, and I’ve never had a problem onstage since.

Do you have a voice care regimen?

Three hours before I go on-stage I do a 40-minute vocal lesson. We go on at 8, which means I have to be done at 5, so from 3 to 3:30 I do the first part and between 4:30 and 5 I do the second part; 30 minutes and then 11 minutes. By the time I walk onstage at 8 o’clock, I’m ready to do 2 hours and 40 minutes.

So your voice is in better shape than it was 30 years ago?

Oh, yes. I tell all the young people I know that sing to get a vocal coach. You don’t have to take them on the road like I do. They’ll make you a tape, and you’ll become a better singer.

Why the 10-year wait between your last two solo albums?

After I made Trouble in Shangri-La, which came out in 2001, I started realizing that everything my manager was telling me about how the Internet was going to eventually kill the music business was true. Records as we knew them, records as concepts, as 12 songs in a row that were sequenced, where you may not like the fourth song but you let it play because you love the way the third song went into the fourth song and the way the fourth song went into the fifth song, were definitely ending. And that was heartbreaking. I was told that the best thing for me to do as an older rock ‘n’ roll singer would be to tour.

Eventually you made In Your Dreams.

Well, I saw this movie, “New Moon,” in the Twilight series, and I was very inspired by that story so I wrote a song about it called “Moonlight.” And I thought, I can’t just put out this one song so I guess I’m going to have to put out a record. I got off the Fleetwood Mac tour in 2009 and hit the ground running. I called Dave Stewart [formerly of the Eurythmics]probably two weeks after I got home and said I’m ready to make a record now.

You and Dave wrote songs together, which was a big change for you.

That’s probably one of the reasons it was the best year of my life. I always wished that I could write with people. I do write, in a way, with Mike Campbell [a sideman for Tom Petty], who sends me tracks. But he’s not there. So when the thing with Dave happened it was so out of the blue. We wrote seven songs in under three months, and recorded as we went, and my whole idea of songwriting changed. Dave Stewart doesn’t have an ego. He can read your mind. He can read your eyes. If you look the slightest bit like, “Oh, no,” he says, “Let’s go another way.” So you never have to have that pit in your stomach where you’re going, “O.K., when he finishes playing this song I’m going to have to say I hate it.”

You say in the documentary film about the making of In Your Dreams that recording “Soldier’s Angel” with Lindsey Buckingham marked a new beginning for the two of you. How so?

Because he was able to come to my house and walk into the world of Dave Stewart and Stevie Nicks, which is not the world of Lindsey Buckingham and Stevie Nicks. When he walked in the door he was surrounded by cashmere and hugs.

You recently appeared in the television show American Horror Story: Coven. What was that like?

It was pretty nerve-racking. I never, ever thought that I would ever do anything in the acting genre because I was in a play when I was in the fourth grade and I consider it the worst moment of my life. We got the script the day before and when my assistant read it out loud to me at 2 in the morning in New Orleans, I said I think I should get on a plane right now and go straight back to Los Angeles and hide out. I was almost in tears. But everyone was really understanding.

Will we see more of you onscreen?

There was a point toward the end of the first day where I’d sung “Rhiannon” like 25 times and they said O.K., one more time, and I’m like, are you insane? Now we have to get Jessica Lange and now we have to get the fireplace and, oh my god, these people work so much harder than I do. It’s hard for me to sit and wait.

The American Horror Story episode was called “The Magical World of Stevie Nicks.” Have magical things happened to you?

I believe that that first record going to No. 1 and making Lindsey and I millionaires at the end of the summer when I was a waitress at the beginning of the year was magical.

Is it true what you wrote in “Landslide,” that “time makes you bolder”?

I wrote “Landslide” in 1973, when I was 27, and I did already feel old in a lot of ways. I’d been working as a waitress and a cleaning lady for years. I was tired.

How do you feel now?

I’m extremely lucky. I’ve been in a famous band for a very long time and because of that I’ve taken very good care of myself, except for the eight years I was on Klonopin and I got really fat, but that wasn’t my fault. You have to keep yourself youthful. And I don’t mean looking 22 and going to plastic surgery and looking like a caricature of yourself, a stranger that nobody recognizes so that you can’t even get a table at a restaurant because you really don’t look like Stevie Nicks anymore. I wear the right clothes, age-appropriate clothes. But I can still do some of the things I could do when I was really young and pull it off as a 65-year-old chick.

You got a lot of attention in the press when you gained weight.

I just kind of went underground. Understand, I was on Klonopin. It’s a tranquilizer. You’re tranquil. I stayed home in a really beautiful house, watched a lot of TV, and ordered from Jerry’s deli. I went from 125 up to 173 pounds. I did a couple of tours and everyone talked about my weight, but I managed to do pretty good shows so people gave me that. One day I woke up and said, this doctor is insane. He’s a groupie who wanted to have me come in a couple times a month to talk about rock ‘n’ roll I learned a valuable lesson. Never trust doctors, ever. I called up my best friend and said come get me and take me to a hospital. I spent 45 days there and got over it.

You were prescribed Klonopin after completing rehab for cocaine addiction, right?

I had gotten out of Betty Ford three months before I went to see him and I was doing great. But everyone was worried I was going to start using cocaine again. So I lost eight years of my life. Think of what could have happened during those eight years. I might have gotten married, I might have had a baby, I certainly would have made more albums.

You must be furious with that doctor.

If I was driving a car and he was crossing the street I might run over him.

How do you manage your anger?

If I’ve learned nothing else it’s that time passes and anger doesn’t do you much good. Something that seems really bad today is going to be better next week. And things you think are never going to go away soften with time. When things happen that upset me I try to do something that makes me happy.

Like what?

Right now I put on Lady Gaga’s “Applause” and dance around the house.

What else makes you happy?

Writing. When I write I go into my own world.

Do you spend a lot of time in your own world?

I’m single, I don’t have children, and I’ve never been married except for three months a long time ago. And that doesn’t matter; It wasn’t a marriage of reality. I live a single woman’s life and yes, I spend a lot of time by myself. I have a few very close friends, most of them I’ve known forever, and I kind of like it. Would I be willing to have a boyfriend? It would be fun if I could find a boyfriend who understood my life and didn’t get his feelings hurt because I’m always a phone call away from having to leave in two hours for New York or a phone call away from having to do interviews all day long. It’s not very much fun to be Mr. Stevie Nicks. In the last 10 years I’ve just said I’m going to follow my muse. If I want to go somewhere I don’t have to worry about anyone being mad at me. I don’t have to make up excuses on the phone about why I’m not coming home. If it were to happen to me I’d be thrilled. But when I’m 90 years old and sitting in a gloriously beautiful beach house somewhere on this planet with five or six Chinese Crested Yorkies, surrounded by all my goddaughters who will at that point be middle-aged, I’ll be just as happy.

Can you imagine a time when Fleetwood Mac will come to an end?

It will probably become less physical and involve less travel. But I don’t see Fleetwood Mac ever really stopping.

I wrote “Landslide” in 1973, when I was 27 :laugh:

PenguinHead
02-04-2014, 11:54 PM
I love this interview! Stevie is so forthright in her answers. There were some good questions that have never been asked. She was particularly intimate and honest about her personal life.

I really loved her speaking "When he walked in the door he was surrounded by cashmere and hugs." That's a cool lyrical line. She should work it into a new song...about Lindsey, of course!

Stevie proclaims Fleetwood Mac will live forever, so I assume she means there is a future for the band. I believe there will be another album. If she was hesitant to make a Fleetwood Mac album prior to Christine's comeback, she is likely more motivated now.

Christine appearing at this time in the band's fragile state (recording-wise) is a saving grace. She is the catalyst ( the chain , or maybe a bridge?) that will bring them back together)!

The sea that divides them is a temporary one, I hope.

PenguinHead
02-05-2014, 02:19 AM
The same thing about always mentioning that one show in early 1977 when FM performed new songs and the audience turned away in horror. That's her standard excuse for not performing new songs in concert today.


Given Stevie's talent to dramatize practically anything, what she describes as horror was probably just indifference. She must not recall that almost every original song she has ever performed was new at one point in time.

michelej1
02-07-2014, 09:17 PM
[The Wire responds to the Stevie interview] by Price Peterson, 2/7/2014

http://www.thewire.com/entertainment/2014/02/ashton-kutcher-definitely-hates-charlie-sheen-much-you-do/357828/

With a career as long, storied, and influential as Stevie Nicks' is, it makes sense that People would focus exclusively on her lack of boyfriend, right? Nothing offensive or awful about that! Just what even is a human being without a significant other? Trash, that's what. Just miserable, lonely junk who should walk directly into the ocean. Anyway, the good people at People recently interviewed Nicks about her mystical career and made sure to ask plenty of questions about Nicks' love life, to which she had plenty of responses:

It would be fun if I could find a boyfriend who understood my life and didn't get his feelings hurt because I'm always a phone call away from having to leave in two hours for New York or a phone call from having to do interviews all day long. . . It's not very fun to be Mr. Stevie Nicks.

Uh, first of all, DOUBTFUL. Can you imagine all that unspoiled access to spells and hexes and her potion cupboards? But second of all, Stevie Nicks, you are not that busy. I mean yeah you do the occasional Fleetwood Mac reunion concert for aging Boomers up way past their 9pm bedtimes, and yeah, you're obviously taking Ryan Murphy's calls still. But come on. Something tells me a Mr. Stevie Nicks would be seeing A LOT of you, just sort of twirling around the living room in a top hat all day every day. Somebody please just date Stevie Nicks already! Make her life MEAN something finally. (Note to Stevie Nicks, this is all in good fun, please don't hex me, girl.) [People]

michelej1
03-13-2014, 01:07 PM
[Northern Virginia Magazine referencing Stevie's NYT interview]

http://www.northernvirginiamag.com/mating-call/2014/03/13/exes-and-friendship-does-it-ever-work/

Exes and Friendship. Does it ever work?

Thursday, March 13th, 2014

Stevie Nicks might be my new hero.

Yes, she has the fierce voice and songs to show it off. She at least used to have the fierce looks in her glory days. And she most definitely has the kind of fierce attitude that I’d like to rock well into my 60s.

In a recent New York Times story, Stevie revealed a lot about what makes her tick and how she looks at the world (hint: with a lot of letting dumb drama roll off of her back). Not only does she use Lady Gaga’s music to fuel dance romps around her apartment that conjure up happiness—as I do—but she fosters a healthy attitude about being blissfully independent and never marrying:

In the last 10 years I’ve just said I’m going to follow my muse.
If I want to go somewhere I don’t have to worry about anyone being mad at me.
I don’t have to make up excuses on the phone about why I’m not coming home.
If it were to happen to me I’d be thrilled.
But when I’m 90 years old and sitting in a gloriously beautiful beach house somewhere on this planet with five or six Chinese Crested Yorkies, surrounded by all my goddaughters who will at that point be middle-aged, I’ll be just as happy.

As famous as the diva singer became for her mane of blonde locks she was probably more known for the comingling between members of her longtime band Fleetwood Mac. She reportedly got busy with Lindsey Buckingham and Mick Fleetwood, who later married and divorced a backup singer. And before you knew it, practically everyone had hooked up with everyone else in a “Melrose Place”-style show of incest well before Amanda Woodward was closing the blinds to initiate angry sex with underlings or throwing drinks in other females’ faces.

Yet when Stevie talks about her past relationships now, she’s civil. Apparently, at least when it comes to her and Mick, the trouble’s in the rear view mirror. The tumultuous exes are, in fact, buddies, in each others’ lives in a seemingly healthy way.

My question is: Bloody how?

I don’t mean to imply that I’ll go all “Waiting to Exhale” on any of my exes, setting their cars ablaze and walking off with flames artfully raging behind me. But to call us amigos is a stretch. I tend to think most people fall in my camp, compartmentalizing periods of their life to not get lost in the past.

Men who I’ve dated I wish well. We didn’t work out. That doesn’t mean, though, that they should flail, fail or otherwise struggle. Am I anxious to go to their weddings, meet up regularly or have tea? Hell no.

Perhaps that’s OK. Or perhaps I need to take a page from Stevie.

I know for sure that the immediate period post-breakup should consist of going on separately, preferably without any contact whatsoever. For anyone who’s ever tried to transition to friends too quickly, they know that it doesn’t work. Unless the relationship ended during the the world’s first truly mutual parting, one person has, essentially, told the other that it’s done. Crawling back right away is about the same as saying, “I don’t accept that. I’ll stay around you, and you’ll realize we should be a couple.” It’s a teensy bit pathetic.

If the breakup initiator is the one trying to turn the pairing into an immediate friendship, well that’s just plain cruel. The message there: “You’re not good enough to be my mate, but I guess you can be my platonic buddy who I let hang around me.”

Ouch. I’ve been in both camps.

What’s the right amount of time, then, to go from not speaking to exes to becoming legit friends? Can ex-lovers even become functioning friends at all?

Judging by a recent episode of “New Girl,” the answer is never and no. Jess, initially, believes she and an ex—played by Adrien Brody as a stay-at-home dad with not much of his own life—have found the elusive post-dating friendship. But things go awry when he suddenly—and creepily, in its repetition—declares his love and how he’ll leave his wife for Jess. And, as it turns out, Nick’s earlier assessment is the correct one.

In his words, “Men don’t talk to people they’ve dated unless they want sex, or they’re Winston.”

My exes are, to be fair, my Facebook friends. I have a general sense that they’re not in prison or, if their “About me” sections are to be believed, they’re not working for the Mob. Occasionally, I’ll confess, it’s nice to check in on them, particularly in a nonconfrontational virtual manner. That’s pretty much where I leave it, however. I guess my thinking is that, if we had something truly special, we’d still be together, right?

Or, if things get too weird, maybe I can round them up and send ‘em to Texas together.

Sorry, Stevie. I’m not quite at your level yet.

-Dena

michelej1
04-09-2014, 12:49 PM
Stevie Nicks: The Gypsy You May Not Know By Mike Tuttle ·

Web Pro News, April 9, 2014

http://www.webpronews.com/stevie-nicks-the-gypsy-you-may-not-know-2014-04

Lately we’ve brought you a few different bits of news about Stevie Nicks. First of all, she performed on the AMAs with Lady Antebellum, bringing a little bit of class to the self-congratulatory proceedings of that event. Also, she will be touring with the “classic” (not original) lineup of Fleetwood Mac, along with friend Christine McVie.

Stevie Nicks has been a household word ever since the Fleetwood Mac album in 1975. Of course, she had an album with then-boyfriend Lindsey Buckingham before that. But there is more to the “Welsh witch” than most people may know.

For example, Stevie Nicks and Prince have a musical connection. Stevie Nicks once called up Prince and told him that she was writing as song that she wrote while listening to “Little Red Corvette”, and that she was going to give him 50% of it. That song became “Stand Back” and was a hit.

Then Prince called her up and wanted to do a song with her. He sent her a demo instrumental to write lyrics to. Nicks was so intimidated by the song that she sent it back and told him she couldn’t do it. That song ended up becoming “Purple Rain”.

Stevie Nicks has soft spot for and does a lot to help wounded American soldiers. Back before it became vogue to do so, she would visit Walter Reed Hospital and give out hundreds of free iPod Nano players loaded with music, sitting with soldiers, listening to their stories.

Stevie Nicks had a really bad addiction to cocaine. But she checked herself into the Betty Ford Clinic and kicked her addiction. She once said in an interview:

“I saw how [Janis Joplin and Jimi Hendrix] went down, and a part of me wanted to go down with them…but then another part of me thought, I would be very sad if some 25-year-old lady rock and roll singer ten years from now said, ‘I wish Stevie Nicks would have thought about it a little more.’ That’s kind of what stopped me and made me really look at the world through clear eyes.”

Nicks is now 65, clean and sober, about to start a tour with the band she helped put on the map in the U.S.

DashingDan
04-09-2014, 04:29 PM
Stevie Nicks: The Gypsy You May Not Know By Mike Tuttle ·

Web Pro News, April 9, 2014

http://www.webpronews.com/stevie-nicks-the-gypsy-you-may-not-know-2014-04

“I saw how [Janis Joplin and Jimi Hendrix] went down, and a part of me wanted to go down with them…but then another part of me thought, I would be very sad if some 25-year-old lady rock and roll singer ten years from now said, ‘I wish Stevie Nicks would have thought about it a little more.’ That’s kind of what stopped me and made me really look at the world through clear eyes.”


I would love to hear her expand on "part of me wanted to go down with them". I'm taking that as, "I was getting so high, so often, with such quantity and recklessness and without desire to stop that I figured I was going to die anyway but at least I'd be a legend".