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kak125
04-29-2011, 09:43 AM
Stevie Nicks Admits Undying Love for Lindsey Buckingham, Dedicates New Album to Fan Who Succumbed to Cancer


After Stevie Nicks released 'Trouble in Shangri-La' in 2001, she thought she'd never record another solo album again. The process was tiresome and besides, she still had her longtime band Fleetwood Mac to satisfy her musical creativity.

Now, 10 years later, she's back with 'In Your Dreams' -- a rich, dynamic album co-written and co-produced by Eurythmics guitarist Dave Stewart, and featuring Fleetwood Mac's Mick Fleetwood on drums and ex-boyfriend Lindsey Buckingham on guitar and vocals. From a San Francisco hotel room, on a rare night off from her recent tour with Rod Stewart, Nicks told Spinner about gaining inspiration from a lost friend, how recording this album changed her life and why she and Lindsey are like Bella and Edward from 'Twilight.'

On your recent tour with Rod Stewart, was there a friendly rivalry between the two of you? Would you ever tell him before a show, "I'm going to go out and wipe the floor with you tonight?"

Oh no, you would never say something like that to Rod Stewart [laughs]. Even though he's only a few years older than me, he is from a generation before me. Rod Stewart was a big rock star before Lindsey [Buckingham] and I even moved to Los Angeles. He was one of my big inspirations: Rod Stewart, Led Zeppelin, Janis, Jimi ...

You and Lindsey got a record deal in 1972 as Buckingham Nicks. Would you have been signed in 2011?

The music business is in terrible shape right now because artists don't sell ten million albums anymore. [Labels are] not making all that money, so they can't have a whole slew of bands that they're helping and developing. Lindsey and I were really lucky. I was just a waitress for four years, and he wasn't [working]. It was okay because we worked on our music, we had a four-track Ampex tape recorder, and we were able to survive.

But I don't see how the kids can do it today. I feel sorry for them. I want it to happen, because in 20 years, I don't want everybody to be just listening to the Rolling Stones and Fleetwood Mac and Led Zeppelin; I want this generation to have their own rock stars that last. But it's going to be very hard for the kids that are popular right now to still be doing this when they're 40.

We're so used to hearing about how your albums have had difficult gestation periods, but you've said that making 'In Your Dreams' was great -- it must be a relief.

Well, this is how it should be. When you make records with Fleetwood Mac, they're difficult. That's not to say they're not amazing -- they obviously are, and that's why I am famous; every time I drive up to my gorgeous house, I go, "This is the house that Fleetwood Mac built." So did we argue? Yes. Did we have fights? Yes. But was the music that came out of it fantastic? Yes. However, it was difficult.

Even making my own records -- between 'Bella Donna' in 1981 and 'Shangri-La' in 2001 -- was difficult. [With this album], I have been reminded that you can make great music and have a good time doing it, and that you don't have to be heartbroken and freaking out. [You can] go back to your poetry from the last 30 years, and if you want those passionate, crazy moments, you can find them in your writing.



How did you start the process?

Dave Stewart came over to my house in the Palisades, and I gave him a binder of my poetry and said, "See if there's anything that appeals to you." Dave always has a guitar around his neck, and he started playing, and I just sort of started reciting my poetry, and all of a sudden, in about an hour, we had this amazing song.

I have never been interested in writing with anybody -- not Lindsey, not anybody. And all of a sudden, I could actually understand why Lennon and McCartney wrote together, or Rodgers and Hammerstein, or any of the great songwriting teams. I don't know 1000 chords, and Dave doesn't have a book of 40 poems. When you put those two things together, you have this amazing amount of wisdom and knowledge. Those five minutes where it all started was a brilliant moment. Stars went off. When it was done, I said, "Well, I'm a changed woman." And we just continued.

We filmed the whole thing. Dave's an amazing cinematographer. He is like a child: he sees the world as a place filled with stars and moons and ideas. It very much rubbed off on me and all my people. Every night, my goddaughter would cater dinners for 10 or 12 people, and it reminded me of what I think it must have been like in Paris in the '20s, where you would have all those crazy artists: Coco Chanel and Man Ray, and [they] would sit around a big, long table and have these amazing dinners and talk about politics and art. We actually did that, and we filmed it. It was the way everybody should live. It was a sparkling moment that forever will live in my heart, and I want to leave this behind to the next generation.

The song 'Moonlight (Vampire's Dream)' was influenced by 'Twilight: New Moon,' and the album teaser, with its vampires, is a bit like 'True Blood.' The rise of fantasy in pop culture right now seems to resonate with your own longtime aesthetic. Is America catching up to you?

I think they are. The first and the third verse in 'Moonlight' were written in the mid-'70s. The second verse -- "She's lonely, lost, and disconnected" -- was written in Brisbane right after I saw the movie. So the song, really, is ancient times up to today.

The chorus -- "It's strange, she runs from the ones she can't keep up with" -- is all about the love affair between Bella and Edward [in 'New Moon']. But "Some call her strange lady from the mountains/Others say she's not really real," that's written in 1976. The same with the third verse: "He loves her, but he loves his life alone as well" -- people would think that was written about Edward, but it was written about Lindsey. So this really is an ancient song that encompasses my strange and everlasting relationship with Lindsey Buckingham, and Bella and Edward, all mixed into one.

There was something vampiric, then, between you and Lindsey?

It is! Our love affair. As much as we fight and have our differences of opinion on almost everything, if anything were to happen to either of us, I would be the first one there and he would be the first one here. So it is a story [about how] love never dies.

'Cheaper Than Free' ends 'In Your Dreams' and you and Dave Stewart sing, "What's more important than freedom?/Being needed." A simple couplet, but it sounds meaningful.

We went to Village Recorders [in L.A.] to do our basic drum and bass tracks, and Reese Witherspoon came down. Dave was [going to be] taking a week in Nashville to do some recording, and she said, "Well, I have a condo there, and if you want to stay there, you can." I said, "That would be cheap, Dave." And Reese said, "What's cheaper than free?" And Dave Stewart and Stevie Nicks looked at each other and went, "Oh my God! What a great country song this could be."

I thought it was going to be a tongue-in-cheek goofy song, and it ended up to be anything but. We were both very surprised. I believe in my heart that that song will live on forever. I said to everybody, "We have to really treat this song with kid gloves, because this may be the best song that [the duo of] Dave Stewart and Stevie Nicks ever does."

'In Your Dreams' is dedicated to "Sara, my sweet girl," tell me about her?

Sara was a girl that had a very rare kind of cancer, and our friend Lisa Loeb connected me and her parents. They brought her to a show, and we became very close. She was about 21 when I met her, and she'd been fighting this cancer since she was 17. I was in very close contact with her and her parents through three years. In 2008, [after a Fleetwood Mac tour], I flew to Pennsylvania and spent a day with her. She died three days later.

I lost my best friend to leukemia 30 years ago. There was a very similar feeling, except that when I lost Robin [Anderson], I was on the road and everybody was high, so it was horrible. I never got to really grieve about that because I was in the midst of this whole big Fleetwood Mac thing. But when Sara died, I was in Mexico in a very quiet house, and I was hit extremely hard. She loved my music so much, and she wanted me to do another record so much, and I was still on that "I'm never going to do another record" kick.

I just loved her so much, and it was very hard to lose her. She fought a really good fight between 17 and 24, and I dedicated the record to her because I felt in so many ways that it belonged to her.

Hence all the references to angels on the album?

Well, I don't know. I felt her presence very strongly when we were making this record, and I felt that if I'd had a daughter, she would have been very much like this girl. I will write a song about her the next time. I've written many, many poems about her, but to write a song about her -- I don't want it to be sad; I want it to be about how brilliant she was. That takes a little while.

Looking back on your life, is there one moment that makes you proudest or happiest?

The opposite of regret is this record, because I didn't really think it was possible to make a record like this. My greatest joy was that I was able to do something that proved I can continue to do this for another ten years. [Beforehand], I really felt I don't want to do this anymore, because it's just a lot of work, and I'm not very happy with what I come out with. Maybe I'm going to flip into "I'm an artist; I have 40 pieces of art that I think are really good," or "I'm a poet. I'm going to write a poetry book," or "I'm going to write the story of my life," or "I'm going to make a book of letters that I've written to people over the last 30 years."

This [album] has changed my life -- it has made me go, "I can't wait to make another record." I would like to start tomorrow, go back to my house and just tell everybody to be there Monday.

A lot of regrets that I had got wiped out by this last 12 months.

http://www.spinner.com/2011/04/29/stevie-nicks-in-your-dreams/?utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=twitterfeed

kak125
04-29-2011, 09:54 AM
this interview makes me so excited for new stevie music in the future. it's so refreshing to hear how much she enjoyed making this new cd.

TheWILDheart
04-29-2011, 09:54 AM
This [album] has changed my life -- it has made me go, "I can't wait to make another record." I would like to start tomorrow, go back to my house and just tell everybody to be there Monday.



:blob2::blob1:DO IT, WOMAN.

I am so happy she is more positive about her career than she has been recently. She has written some of the best songs in the world that will always live on and she deserves to look back at everything, from Buckingham Nicks to In Your Dreams, and be proud of what she has done.

Josh2003
04-29-2011, 09:58 AM
Thanks for posting, Karen. That was a good one.

Interesting to hear who the "Sara" that received the dedication is. I was in bed last night thinking about how: 1) I couldn't imagine Stevie dedicating an album to her unborn child with Don Henley, and 2) It would have been absolutely silly of her to dedicate the album to her dead yorkie. But how interesting that this girl was named "Sara"...

Also, the fact that she is so excited to keep working and making new music really, really makes me happy.

darklinensuit
04-29-2011, 10:00 AM
'Cheaper Than Free'
I said to everybody, "We have to really treat this song with kid gloves, because this may be the best song that [the duo of] Dave Stewart and Stevie Nicks ever does."



:shocked::shocked:Next time, skip the gloves, Stevie.:lol:

Thanks for sharing this interview. I can't remember the last time I felt she was excited about working as a rock star rather than being a rock star. I'm all for her recording again tomorrow.

- Jake

kak125
04-29-2011, 10:01 AM
Thanks for posting, Karen. That was a good one.

Interesting to hear who the "Sara" that received the dedication is. I was in bed last night thinking about how: 1) I couldn't imagine Stevie dedicating an album to her unborn child with Don Henley, and 2) It would have been absolutely silly of her to dedicate the album to her dead yorkie. But how interesting that this girl was named "Sara"...

Also, the fact that she is so excited to keep working and making new music really, really makes me happy.

you are very welcome! i went on twitter today and typed in stevie nicks and this interview came up. also on stevie's twitter it said something about her doing lots of interviews today. yeah it was sad reading about that girl sara that passed away.
it makes me so happy to hear her wanting to do more new music and i love that she had a such a great time doing it this time around. good for her!!

KarmaContestant
04-29-2011, 10:03 AM
This is an amazing interview - definitely one of the best I've read in years. :woohoo:

Artemis
04-29-2011, 10:09 AM
That interview was really amazing. It's so sad to hear who the Sara she dedicated the album too was, as it's the first time we've heard anything about it, but, it makes the dedication so beautiful now. It's a very Stevie thing of her to do, too.

On the plus side, you can really feel the enthusiasm in her again! I do hope this means we won't have to wait ten years between records ever again. :laugh:

CreepingDeath
04-29-2011, 10:25 AM
That interview was really amazing. It's so sad to hear who the Sara she dedicated the album too was, as it's the first time we've heard anything about it, but, it makes the dedication so beautiful now. It's a very Stevie thing of her to do, too.

On the plus side, you can really feel the enthusiasm in her again! I do hope this means we won't have to wait ten years between records ever again. :laugh:

No kidding. I'll probably be dead by then.

tabruns
04-29-2011, 10:25 AM
I wonder if all of this will spill over into a new version of Fleetwood Mac? Would a Buckingham-Nicks-Fleetwood-McVie-Stewart line-up do interesting things?

I wish they could get Christine back but I just don't think that'll ever happen.

JimSATX
04-29-2011, 10:41 AM
<<< This [album] has changed my life -- it has made me go, "I can't wait to make another record." I would like to start tomorrow, go back to my house and just tell everybody to be there Monday. >>>

YES!!! Please say we don't have to wait ten years again for something as awesome as this new album!!!!:blob2:

michelej1
04-29-2011, 10:43 AM
No kidding. I'll probably be dead by then.

Or Stevie will.

Michele

michelej1
04-29-2011, 10:45 AM
No kidding. I'll probably be dead by then.

Or Stevie will.





The chorus -- "It's strange, she runs from the ones she can't keep up with" -- is all about the love affair between Bella and Edward [in 'New Moon']. But "Some call her strange lady from the mountains/Others say she's not really real," that's written in 1976. The same with the third verse: "He loves her, but he loves his life alone as well" -- people would think that was written about Edward, but it was written about Lindsey. So this really is an ancient song that encompasses my strange and everlasting relationship with Lindsey Buckingham, and Bella and Edward, all mixed into one.


I never thought that line was about Edward. He never wanted his time alone away from Bella :laugh:.

Michele

enchanted
04-29-2011, 11:15 AM
http://www.spinner.com/2011/04/29/stevie-nicks-in-your-dreams/

So much we don't know about Stevie. She is such a modest compassionate person!!

Jondalar
04-29-2011, 11:20 AM
great article

wheart
04-29-2011, 11:27 AM
Oh Man...what an amazing interview! thank you for posting. Its nice to hear her being honest about not wanting to record another album and now that has all changed...

skcin
04-29-2011, 11:41 AM
Oh Man...what an amazing interview! thank you for posting. Its nice to hear her being honest about not wanting to record another album and now that has all changed...

I agree! Great stuff!

Jondalar
04-29-2011, 11:43 AM
Oh Man...what an amazing interview! thank you for posting. Its nice to hear her being honest about not wanting to record another album and now that has all changed...

Yeah, and Dave keeps reminding Stevie that they have more poems to turn into songs... so there you go.

skcin
04-29-2011, 11:52 AM
Yeah, and Dave keeps reminding Stevie that they have more poems to turn into songs... so there you go.

He can take on Space Needle next as far as I'm concerned. :nod: Imagine the haunting beauty we'd get out of that.

Musicman408
04-29-2011, 11:56 AM
One of the best Stevie interview I've ever read! This is why I love this woman! :nod:

SapphireSister
04-29-2011, 12:12 PM
Alright I've caved...

She loves him still

DashingDan
04-29-2011, 12:15 PM
She references Coco Chanel and Man Ray...damn I love this koo-koo woman.

jannieC
04-29-2011, 12:25 PM
While the story is sad, I can't tell you how relieved I am to know that Stevie did not dedicate an album to an aborted child.

I love this place Stevie has been coming from lately. I feel like she finally feels free enough to open up and be more real. Some have been making fun of how she changes her story about her "greatest love" but I totally get it. Time gives one perspective, and things look a whole lot different at 63 than they did at 40 or 50.

I am so looking forward to receiving my CD and listening to it on a good system.

danax6
04-29-2011, 12:28 PM
Great interview!

And there's a picture of Sara in the booklet, with a personal dedication. It's sweet.

Josh2003
04-29-2011, 12:36 PM
While the story is sad, I can't tell you how relieved I am to know that Stevie did not dedicate an album to an aborted child.


Yes! I thought that would have been a bit too bizarre, and really not at all something Stevie would have done. Would she really have wanted to open that can of worms for more tabloid fodder?

But...isn't it an odd coincidence that this girl was named Sara?

Dawntreader
04-29-2011, 01:24 PM
Yes! I thought that would have been a bit too bizarre, and really not at all something Stevie would have done. Would she really have wanted to open that can of worms for more tabloid fodder?

But...isn't it an odd coincidence that this girl was named Sara?

My first thought was that she was named after the song, given that Stevie says what a fan of hers the girl was. Perhaps she got her music taste from her parents.

First post, by the way. Hi everyone! :thumbsup:

mezzoforte
04-29-2011, 01:27 PM
My first thought was that she was named after the song, given that Stevie says what a fan of hers the girl was. Perhaps she got her music taste from her parents.

First post, by the way. Hi everyone! :thumbsup:

That's my suspicion as well.

And hello!:wavey:

-Lillith-
04-29-2011, 01:28 PM
My first thought was that she was named after the song, given that Stevie says what a fan of hers the girl was. Perhaps she got her music taste from her parents.

First post, by the way. Hi everyone! :thumbsup:

Hi welcome ! :)

CreepingDeath
04-29-2011, 01:35 PM
My first thought was that she was named after the song, given that Stevie says what a fan of hers the girl was. Perhaps she got her music taste from her parents.

First post, by the way. Hi everyone! :thumbsup:

Welcome to the board. :cool:

cliffdweller
04-29-2011, 01:51 PM
While the story is sad, I can't tell you how relieved I am to know that Stevie did not dedicate an album to an aborted child.


I know! I was thinking the same thing!!

HighPassion
04-29-2011, 02:16 PM
Great interview! So exciting she wants to make more albums. I can't wait to listen to this :lol:

I vote she does like, 2-3 shows and then heads back to the studio :P
I could give her a list of songs she could do if she can't decide.

Maybe she can ask Dave to help her out with the Rhiannon project!:thumbsup:

Man, it's too bad they didn't meet up sooner. But it's better late then never!

Sanne2
04-29-2011, 02:20 PM
Stevie with Sara:
http://i.imgur.com/mppd8.png

CreepingDeath
04-29-2011, 02:22 PM
^^

Aww, thanks for the picture, Sanne.

ontheEdgeof17
04-29-2011, 02:24 PM
Great interview! :thumbsup:

Chris_Sydney
04-29-2011, 08:39 PM
Such a lovely interview. Honest and insightful. Dave seems to really have given Stevie her creative mojo back, after a few years of restlessness (I'd include the whole 'Say You Will' project in that period too - she didn't have anywhere near this amount of enthusiasm for that album).


x

delongpre
04-29-2011, 10:59 PM
The opposite of regret is this record, because I didn't really think it was possible to make a record like this. My greatest joy was that I was able to do something that proved I can continue to do this for another ten years. [Beforehand], I really felt I don't want to do this anymore, because it's just a lot of work, and I'm not very happy with what I come out with. Maybe I'm going to flip into "I'm an artist; I have 40 pieces of art that I think are really good," or "I'm a poet. I'm going to write a poetry book," or "I'm going to write the story of my life," or "I'm going to make a book of letters that I've written to people over the last 30 years."

This [album] has changed my life -- it has made me go, "I can't wait to make another record." I would like to start tomorrow, go back to my house and just tell everybody to be there Monday.

A lot of regrets that I had got wiped out by this last 12 months.

http://www.spinner.com/2011/04/29/stevie-nicks-in-your-dreams/?utm_medium=twitter&utm_source=twitterfeed

I can feel the positive Stevie emerging in this record. It's been a while since she's handed us something with this much confidence. But it's a combination of confidence and resignation. Maybe it's maturity, maybe it's being sober, maybe something else.....but Stevie has done something unique here, and this seems to be the closest the listeners will get to the REAL Stevie.

Hearing her say that this record is the opposite of regret is incredible and makes me want to hug her. I'm so happy to hear the contentment coming from her and I hope she is rewarded for producing something in such a pure, good-spirited way. At 62, finding a new way to become creative and enjoying the process so fully must feel a lot like a perfect natural high, a pure life-affirming experience.

Another thing: I am saddened for her by the loss of her young friend, but I am happy that she was able to mourn for her so completely and freely. When Robin died, I think Stevie and a lot of other people, including myself, did not get to really fully mourn in a way that released the loss from our souls. I always thought of Robin as Stevie's touchstone, and that her loss meant more than anyone realized. I wonder if Stevie's experience of crying for young Sara helped let go of the Robin-loss demons that she had been carrying for almost 30 years. That alone might have allowed Stevie to produce in such a carefree, happy way, finding the making of the record to be more of a true creative process, a labor of love, and less of a day at WORK.

Can't wait to see the footage of those dinners. Sounds like a great film in the making.

Love to all involved in the making of IN YOUR DREAMS and I hope it gets the recognition it deserves!

johnnystorms
04-29-2011, 11:04 PM
Stevie with Sara:
http://i.imgur.com/mppd8.png

of that uneartly radiance! she just seems so RIGHT in her life! total, incomparable beauty!

ricohv
04-29-2011, 11:48 PM
She references Coco Chanel and Man Ray...damn I love this koo-koo woman.
OMG- I swear you plucked the words right out of my brain. Koo-koo is right. God love her, and all that is koo-koo about her!
Ricoh

Jondalar
04-30-2011, 12:55 AM
Stevie Nicks Dedicates New Album To Tragic Fan

Singer/songwriter Stevie Nicks has dedicated her latest album to a fan who lost her battle with cancer in 2008.

The Fleetwood Mac star's In Your Dreams is dedicated to 'Sara, my sweet girl' and Nicks explains the mention is for a fan who became a good friend.

She tells Spinner.com, "She had a very rare kind of cancer, and our friend Lisa Loeb connected me and her parents. They brought her to a show, and we became very close. She was about 21 when I met her, and she'd been fighting this cancer since she was 17.

"I was in very close contact with her and her parents through three years. In 2008, I flew to Pennsylvania and spent a day with her. She died three days later.

"When Sara died, I was in Mexico in a very quiet house, and I was hit extremely hard. She loved my music so much, and she wanted me to do another record so much, and I was still on that 'I'm never going to do another record' kick.

"I just loved her so much, and it was very hard to lose her. She fought a really good fight between 17 and 24, and I dedicated the record to her because I felt in so many ways that it belonged to her."

http://www.contactmusic.com/news.nsf/story/stevie-nicks-dedicates-new-album-to-tragic-fan_1216187

Jondalar
04-30-2011, 12:56 AM
I think it is great that she did this. It makes me like her even more.

jellyman10
04-30-2011, 04:04 AM
I am saddened for her by the loss of her young friend, but I am happy that she was able to mourn for her so completely and freely. When Robin died, I think Stevie and a lot of other people, including myself, did not get to really fully mourn in a way that released the loss from our souls.

Wait - does this mean you knew Robin, too?

Also, I totally agree with your post. I sometimes think that Stevie might have started to spend so much time supporting sick people precisely because she felt she needed to atone for not being there for Robin. She said recently that Robin even told her not to visit, because she was high and people were dying and it wasn't right. That was something I found hard to read.

Jondalar
04-30-2011, 04:06 AM
I did not know this was already under NEW STEVIE INTERVIEW

Could someone please move this.

jellyman10
04-30-2011, 10:41 AM
I only brought this up because I pondered about a connection between Stevie's grieving for young Sara and the incredible feeling of this album.

Of course. And you're right, it's impossible to know what anyone else is feeling. Thanks for sharing your insights, though.

StandbackStevie
04-30-2011, 10:51 AM
great interview and now we know who Sara is so awesome to of Stevie to dedicate a whole album to a fan who battled a tough battle with Cancer and telling she was in close contact with her for 10yrs and her family awesome.

delongpre
04-30-2011, 11:55 AM
Wait - does this mean you knew Robin, too?

Also, I totally agree with your post. I sometimes think that Stevie might have started to spend so much time supporting sick people precisely because she felt she needed to atone for not being there for Robin. She said recently that Robin even told her not to visit, because she was high and people were dying and it wasn't right. That was something I found hard to read.

I hesitate to post this because of the personal nature of the discussion but I am not revealing anything but what I saw and felt, and still feel.

I did know Robin, but not one millionth of the way Stevie knew her. As it is dealing with anyone you love being ill, it was an extremely hard time, and there is always the desire to be strong for the ill person, to respect their suffering, but still the need to feel the balance of your own feelings of loss and desperation, and to address your own suffering. Compounded by the rock and roll lifestyle, tour preparations, relationship issues and a baby, I think the period after Robin's death was a whirlwind of confusion. And while I would never speak for Stevie, I think the situation called for much more of an emotional release than there was time or opportunity for. Do I know for sure how anyone else truly felt? No, I can only speak for myself, and this is said in love and respect and concern for those gone and living. I only brought this up because I pondered about a connection between Stevie's grieving for young Sara and the incredible feeling of this album.

In all, I am thrilled for Stevie for the beauty of this record and I hope it tears up the charts!

TrueFaith77
04-30-2011, 11:59 AM
My first thought was that she was named after the song, given that Stevie says what a fan of hers the girl was. Perhaps she got her music taste from her parents.

First post, by the way. Hi everyone! :thumbsup:

Well, also, I know a lot of girls named Sara(h) who got into the Mac because of the song.

David
04-30-2011, 12:32 PM
As it is dealing with anyone you love being ill, it was an extremely hard time, and there is always the desire to be strong for the ill person, to respect their suffering, but still the need to feel the balance of your own feelings of loss and desperation, and to address your own suffering. It puts me in mind of Arthur Schnitzler's shattering novella Sterben (translated Starving, or Dying), in which the young woman, in love with a young man who is terminally ill, runs from him emotionally in a frantic flight into life, into the land of the living.

We all do this around dying family & friends, to varying degrees. It's something I keep in mind, because when the time comes that I am on my deathbed, I want to understand & not be hurt by the distance that my family & friends put between them & me.

http://www.reclam.de/data/cover/3-15-018429-0.jpg

michelej1
04-30-2011, 06:37 PM
We all do this around dying family & friends, to varying degrees. It's something I keep in mind, because when the time comes that I am on my deathbed, I want to understand & not be hurt by the distance that my family & friends put between them & me.



It is painful. I've had people say, "I didn't want to see him/her that way" and it's made me angry. But it's a natural response. I've done it myself. Although, I did it when someone was brain dead, so they never knew I wasn't there as much as I could or should have been.

I remember Stevie saying how she went to see Robin and how her temperature was higher than Robin's was. I imagine that provoked giddy laughter at the time, but it was masking the awkwardness and pain that everyone must have been feeling.

Michele

Sahara
04-30-2011, 06:52 PM
This is probably my favourite of all the articles / interviews we've read / heard recently. Sara was so beautiful and it seems they had - continue to have - a very special relationship. Stevie has such a big heart :o