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11-03-2008, 11:09 PM
I'm not going to dance around the subject here. I'm going to be blunt about this.
Two years ago, my father had surgery for bladder cancer (I posted about this back when it was occurring), and until a few months ago, we thought that he'd be okay for a while. This morning, I was told that he's dying of cancer, and probably only has a few weeks to live. I've known him for years, and come to accept him as a fatalistic, depressive person. It's absolutely infuriating that no one has ever been able to properly communicate with him, but I guess there's no point in bitching about that now. As upset as I am, I understand that he is more accepting of his fate than the rest of his family. Although my mother and him are technically separated, she wants him to come stay at our apartment so he isn't left alone. Unfortunately, we aren't really equipped to take on the sort of care required for him, and he might have to be taken in by a hospice. We just want him to be comfortable in his last days, to spend some time with people who love him, and to eat properly just for once.
I tend to be an emotionally vacant person, so I'd be happy to accept any support I could get around now. I just don't need a pity parade following me around.
Two years ago, my father had surgery for bladder cancer (I posted about this back when it was occurring), and until a few months ago, we thought that he'd be okay for a while. This morning, I was told that he's dying of cancer, and probably only has a few weeks to live. I've known him for years, and come to accept him as a fatalistic, depressive person. It's absolutely infuriating that no one has ever been able to properly communicate with him, but I guess there's no point in bitching about that now. As upset as I am, I understand that he is more accepting of his fate than the rest of his family. Although my mother and him are technically separated, she wants him to come stay at our apartment so he isn't left alone. Unfortunately, we aren't really equipped to take on the sort of care required for him, and he might have to be taken in by a hospice. We just want him to be comfortable in his last days, to spend some time with people who love him, and to eat properly just for once.
I tend to be an emotionally vacant person, so I'd be happy to accept any support I could get around now. I just don't need a pity parade following me around.