When life is shit... [Archive]

Johnny Stew

05-25-2007, 12:43 PM

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed! :shocked:I listen to music. I think it just helps to remind me that there's ALWAYS a glimmer of hope out there, even if we have to create it ourselves.

I also allow myself a few days for a pity-party. I'll let myself cry and "woe is me" for a few days, and then I say "that's enough of that," and try to find a more constructive way of looking at things.

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 12:46 PM

Forgive yourself and allow yourself to start over.
You are always at choice.

Gypsy-Rhiannon

05-25-2007, 12:50 PM

Music does seem to help.. as long as it's nothing too depressing! That can just make you feel even worse!

Johnny Stew

05-25-2007, 12:55 PM

Music does seem to help.. as long as it's nothing too depressing! That can just make you feel even worse!My favorite "rainy day" song is actually "Don't Stop."
I can't help but smile when I hear it, and, as corny as it may seem, it helps to remind me that, while today might be awful, tomorrow holds promise for something better.

(If you didn't know already, I'm a big corn-ball. ;) )

GypsySorcerer

05-25-2007, 12:55 PM

I'll get a manicure or pedicure or watch a silly movie or brainless comedy. It also gives me a boost to do something kind for someone else. And some chocolate chip cookie dough does a body good. :laugh: :)

estranged4life

05-25-2007, 01:03 PM

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed! :shocked:

is keep a stiff upper lip and 'soldier onwards".

Believe me, My personal life (ie-marriage) has went to **** and the only thing for me to do is 'soldier onwards' and see where life takes me.

No time for a pity-effing-party, just cut your losses and go foward and try to learn from any mistakes.

I find the way to get those negative feelings out of my head is to type about whatever is going on in my life by updating the blog I have at myspace, More of a self-help thing than anything else...Helps me to unwind!

Plus, I blast my hearing into oblivion when I get somewhat EMO...Death Metal seems to work wonders for me :shrug:

danax6

05-25-2007, 01:14 PM

Conjur up memories from when times were even ****tier than they are now. Watch really sad movies, because seeing how bad others have it always makes you realize your life might not be as bad (you know, Terms of Endearment and the likes...). Play a LOT of music, music is always therapeutic. :wavey:

Oh, and smoke a joint. Or have a shot of tequila.

(I'll wait for markolas to show up now.)

Richard B

05-25-2007, 01:17 PM

I laugh like I've gone insane.

Seriously though, I divert myself with something unexpected. A long walk on the beach usually does the trick. For extreme dramatic effect, try the beach at night. I used to sing my little heart out to the ocean waves crashing.

BTFLCHLD

05-25-2007, 01:28 PM

A soft shoulder or pillow works for me.

Rickypt

05-25-2007, 01:29 PM

I go to therapy.

Richard B

05-25-2007, 01:40 PM

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed! :shocked:

PS
I saw your little tune list. I love Agnetha. In fact, the song 'The Day Before You Came' is playing here on my iPod at work. I love her vocal on this track.

Sarah

05-25-2007, 01:41 PM

For me it depends. There's like, sad ****, hopeless ****, angry ****, etc etc etc.

If it's sadness or hopelessness, a lot of times I'll go for a drive out in the middle of nowhere with the windows down and the music up. Sometimes it's a short drive. Sometimes I don't come back for a long time.

Mostly I just bottle it up and store it way down deep inside and hope it kills me sooner rather than later. That's not my advice for you.. that's just what I do, coming from a family and place where everything is off limits and talking about things is bad.

Good luck.

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 01:41 PM

A soft shoulder or pillow works for me.

She wasn't talking about sex...:distress:

michelle2677

05-25-2007, 01:55 PM

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed! :shocked:

I drink myself to an unconscious state :laugh: ;)

o.k. just kidding. Music helps, but mostly friends. Surround yourself by a great group of people who genuinely care about you and always know those perfect things to say.

are you o.k.??

DavidMn

05-25-2007, 01:57 PM

I like to go for a long walk snd listen to my favorite songs. Very theraputic:nod:

michelle2677

05-25-2007, 01:58 PM

oh, I forgot to mention-all that stuff is for sad moments. When I'm pissed about my boss, or whatever else- I play tennis. and imagine said person's head is the ball. :lol: works every time.

estranged4life

05-25-2007, 02:04 PM

I like to go for a long walk snd listen to my favorite songs. Very theraputic:nod:

along with going for a long drive blasting the music as loud as allowable by law.

Trust me, I will be hella blasting the tunes this weekend!!!

ryan8472

05-25-2007, 02:09 PM

Sometimes I go for walks. Sometimes I listen to music. Most of the time I drink and smoke. :laugh:

Gypsy-Rhiannon

05-25-2007, 02:46 PM

Conjur up memories from when times were even ****tier than they are now.
Ok.... that could work! heh

Gypsy-Rhiannon

05-25-2007, 02:47 PM

PS
I saw your little tune list. I love Agnetha. In fact, the song 'The Day Before You Came' is playing here on my iPod at work. I love her vocal on this track.

Agnetha has an amazing voice! She is one of my faves....

Gypsy-Rhiannon

05-25-2007, 02:48 PM

I drink myself to an unconscious state :laugh: ;)

o.k. just kidding. Music helps, but mostly friends. Surround yourself by a great group of people who genuinely care about you and always know those perfect things to say.

are you o.k.??

Wallowing in **** right now but I guess I have to see it through. I'm sure it will all work out ok in the end

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 03:00 PM

Wallowing in **** right now but I guess I have to see it through. I'm sure it will all work out ok in the end

It always does...:nod:

estranged4life

05-25-2007, 03:20 PM

Most of the time I drink and smoke. :laugh:

I feel like that right now, I need a VERY STRONG drink!!! I need to get obliterated!!!!

BTFLCHLD

05-25-2007, 04:21 PM

She wasn't talking about sex...:distress: um...someBODY doesn't take rejection well. As previously explained, we all have our preferences. Again, I am sorry. No matter how you paint your rainbow I am just not into golden showers dude. :sorry:

xdreamsunwindx

05-25-2007, 04:49 PM

A lot of the times, I will either cut or color my hair. I don't know if that's some kind of compulsive disorder, but it always makes me feel better, like I'm starting anew. The last time I was really depressed, I turned my black a-line into a dark brown shag, and to top it off, I bleached some blonde and red pieces into it. I feel like a different person, which is a good thing, I think.

Also, I love going to shows when I'm down. It really gets my mind off of things. Especially little pub shows - there's always a bunch of people who care about nothing but the band that's playing, and they don't **** around with you, which is cool.

JazmenFlowers

05-25-2007, 05:06 PM

Agnetha has an amazing voice! She is one of my faves....
mine too! I love Frida too...I won't pick a fav cause I love them both too much.

as for your question, listen to some fun music, take a walk and then go shopping! retail therapy is amazing. :)

feel better sweets.

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 05:17 PM

um...someBODY doesn't take rejection well. As previously explained, we all have our preferences. Again, I am sorry. No matter how you paint your rainbow I am just not into golden showers dude. :sorry:

psycho.....:eek:

please get help soon...:nod:

GypsySorcerer

05-25-2007, 05:52 PM

Believe me, My personal life (ie-marriage) has went to **** and the only thing for me to do is 'soldier onwards' and see where life takes me.

Sorry to hear that, man. :( You two have been through a hell of a lot. Hope things look up for you soon.

Wallowing in **** right now but I guess I have to see it through. I'm sure it will all work out ok in the end

I'm sending good thoughts your way, Pip. Hang in there. :wavey:

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 06:15 PM

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BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 06:37 PM

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DeadliestPoison

05-25-2007, 06:47 PM

Usually I go on hour-long walks around campus at night listening to Neko Case or Aimee Mann or something on my iPod. Mostly Neko. I find a spot (mine's by the architecture building) and just hang out for a bit. Sometimes I lay down in one of the fields. But mostly I hang out in My Spot and mope around for a while.

Also, I like to go to the library and read some bound periodicals. Bound periodicals always make me feel better.

sara1998

05-25-2007, 08:02 PM

Act like a bitch to everyone, then drink!

(At least, that's what I'm doing)

Sorry, my inner bitch is showing.

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 08:05 PM

Act like a bitch to everyone, then drink!

(At least, that's what I'm doing)

Sorry, my inner bitch is showing.

You mean "ALWAYS SHOWING!" :xoxo:

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 08:06 PM

You're right Andre. I am sorry I have been behaving horribly. I can only put this to work stress and fam crisis (bro.) No excuse though for my treatment towards you. There may be a little gemini in all of us? :shrug: I'm truly sorry.

you know I love you....you scare me though.:laugh:

sara1998

05-25-2007, 08:06 PM

You mean "ALWAYS SHOWING!" :xoxo:

You're such an ass...

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 08:08 PM

You're such an ass...

You are a dirty hooker with cooties...

sara1998

05-25-2007, 08:18 PM

You are a dirty hooker with cooties...

Your moms a dirty hooker with cooties. :D

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 08:31 PM

Your moms a dirty hooker with cooties. :D

Ever since I dumped you for having panty crickets - you have been just impossible.

sara1998

05-25-2007, 08:41 PM

Ever since I dumped you for having panty crickets - you have been just impossible.

'scuse me?
I dumped you because of your foul....
... eh, I won't go there.

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 08:43 PM

'scuse me?
I dumped you because of your foul....
... eh, I won't go there.

You said it tasted sweet...:p

sara1998

05-25-2007, 08:44 PM

You said it tasted sweet...:p

Was that before or after the crunchiness??

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 08:45 PM

Was that before or after the crunchiness??

before.....;)

sara1998

05-25-2007, 08:46 PM

before.....;)

That was what really got me. :xoxo:

BlackWidow

05-25-2007, 08:47 PM

That was what really got me. :xoxo:

I knew you'd cum around.:xoxo:

Tee Dee

05-25-2007, 09:12 PM

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed! :shocked:

This is for you Pip ~~ I had one of those **** days yesterday.

Unhappy people at work, calling in to scream at me for a mistake I didn't make...stressed...sarcastic...over-caffeinated.... wanting someone to be fired, etc. etc.

Meanwhile I had a personal crisis on my mind = a hearing I had to attend at 2:00 p.m. So I took my lunch hour to type a "pity party" e-mail to all of my friends, briefly explaining my problem and asking for prayers, good thoughts, good karma, crossed fingers, ... basically any good luck charms they could send me via ESP so that me and my kid would not be alone at that nasty unemployment hearing appeal. I mass mailed that E-mail to all my friends in my address book, including some from my high school reunion last year...

When I got home and logged on the computer...there were *hugs* and "cheer-up", and "atta girl" messages. It was really uplifting to read the support and friendships that I had.

A couple of tablespoons of Nyquil later and I was happily snoring and putting that day behind me.

OK...so that's my 2 cents worth...

Hope it helps.

P.S. the damn hearing got postponed....the star witness for the otherside couldn't make it! :mad:

tuigirl

05-26-2007, 12:42 AM

As you can see, everyones answer is different..but when **** hits the fan, there's really nothing better than a good long cry (for days if necessary)...and the next best thing is having your best friend to chat to(theyr'e great for telling you how wonderful you are..and how awful everybody else / your situation is...).If you think there's no light at the end of the tunnel, don't worry, there will be one day, and things will get better (might take a long time , but it will happen)

Gypsy-Rhiannon

05-26-2007, 03:30 AM

Believe me, My personal life (ie-marriage) has went to **** and the only thing for me to do is 'soldier onwards' and see where life takes me.

Sorry to hear that Brian. Take care!

Gypsy-Rhiannon

05-26-2007, 03:32 AM

Gypsy-Rhiannon

05-26-2007, 03:46 AM

Thanks for all the words of encouragement. Today is a new day! None of the problems are solved but I'm doing all I can to stay positive!

Musicman408

05-26-2007, 07:39 AM

I listen to music. I think it just helps to remind me that there's ALWAYS a glimmer of hope out there, even if we have to create it ourselves.

I also allow myself a few days for a pity-party. I'll let myself cry and "woe is me" for a few days, and then I say "that's enough of that," and try to find a more constructive way of looking at things.

Yes, I am the same way JS. Good call. Pip, I hope you feel better.

estranged4life

05-26-2007, 07:49 AM

Sorry to hear that Brian. Take care!

we tried to make it work as best we could, just isnt going to happen.

But things happen for a reason...and I reconnected with the person I met 19 years and fell 'head-over-heels' in love with, so who knows, maybe it was just meant to be.

BlackWidow

05-26-2007, 08:59 AM

:lol: :p ...

The Dora one made me laugh too!

I wanted to give you a laugh or two...:xoxo:

Serrart

05-26-2007, 02:58 PM

.... what do you lot do to pick yourselves up?? Any advice welcomed! :shocked:

I listen to music, see one of my favourite films, and walk, walk a lot.

... And this helps too :

http://www.filesend.net/download.php?f=8e6f501cb39fec9650fe5b6bbbf1362a

Romy