Your New Year's resolution..??

[BlackWidow]

We all torture ourselves with this every year....:nod: :D
What is your Resolution (s) ?:shrug:

[SuzeQuze]

I think a better way of looking at resolutions is as something to enrich your life. So you feel like you're adding something positive instead of depriving yourself of something you love. This year mine was to meet new people. I'm not sure yet what it will be for next year.

[DavidMn]

Well, the most obvious for me would be weight loss. I'm not gonna whine about that cause only I can decide to do what I need to lose weight, but I've heard form people in the kinda shape I am that it s harder to quit smoking than to change what you eat.

[skcin]

^ Do you mean to say that it's harder to change your eating habits than it is to quit smoking? I've done both, and I think it's way harder to change your eating habits. Smoking is physically & mentally addictive, but it was actually pretty easy for me to stop (although those drunken cigs are becoming more & more frequent lately after 6&1/2 years...) But that's just one addiction, one habit to break.

To lose weight, you're changing everything - what you eat, what you drink, how you exercise, etc. We joke around about how "it's all about food" but really, it kind of is. :o We eat every day. It's up to you personally to make healthy choices & decide what & how you want to eat. I personally find that planning is key - you're much more apt to eat something healthy if you have it planned out, all ingredients readily available. Same with exercise - I just assume that I'm going to exercise every single day. If you're in a rush, or don't plan things out ahead of time, you may just grab junk food because it's fast & easy.

If you need come tips or moral support, David, you may want to look into The Biggest Loser Club. It's online, you sign up & they send you emails with real people's stories about how they're doing, healthy recipes, exercise tips, etc. I don't think it costs much. Good luck!




I don't really make resolutions. I am going to officially stop the drunken smoking (which end up being 3 or 4 cigs a month) because it's just stupid for me to do, and I notice that I'm starting to do it more & more. I also try to thank God every day for the life I have.

[DavidMn]

^ Do you mean to say that it's harder to change your eating habits than it is to quit smoking? I've done both, and I think it's way harder to change your eating habits. Smoking is physically & mentally addictive, but it was actually pretty easy for me to stop (although those drunken cigs are becoming more & more frequent lately after 6&1/2 years...) But that's just one addiction, one habit to break.

To lose weight, you're changing everything - what you eat, what you drink, how you exercise, etc. We joke around about how "it's all about food" but really, it kind of is. :o We eat every day. It's up to you personally to make healthy choices & decide what & how you want to eat. I personally find that planning is key - you're much more apt to eat something healthy if you have it planned out, all ingredients readily available. Same with exercise - I just assume that I'm going to exercise every single day. If you're in a rush, or don't plan things out ahead of time, you may just grab junk food because it's fast & easy.

If you need come tips or moral support, David, you may want to look into The Biggest Loser Club. It's online, you sign up & they send you emails with real people's stories about how they're doing, healthy recipes, exercise tips, etc. I don't think it costs much. Good luck!




I don't really make resolutions. I am going to officially stop the drunken smoking (which end up being 3 or 4 cigs a month) because it's just stupid for me to do, and I notice that I'm starting to do it more & more. I also try to thank God every day for the life I have.Thank you for the support Paula. Its very much appreciated. I've just been thinking alot more about this since that guy my mom takes care of died the way he did of a heart attack. I'd kinda like to live to be at least 50.:o

[irishgrl]

My resolution is to get healthier and to love myself enuff to stick with it.

[sasja]

Go, David! :thumbsup:

I am with SuzeQuze on the resolutions, but upon some reflection, here are mine:

- to hang in there as best as I can with a newborn and a toddler, after feb 20th (his scheduled section)
- to stay healthy and alive
- to work on peace inside and out
- to make it to the Webster Hall 2008 NewYear's Ball in a glorious new dress! :woohoo:

Sasja

[BlackWidow]

^ Do you mean to say that it's harder to change your eating habits than it is to quit smoking? I've done both, and I think it's way harder to change your eating habits. Smoking is physically & mentally addictive, but it was actually pretty easy for me to stop (although those drunken cigs are becoming more & more frequent lately after 6&1/2 years...) But that's just one addiction, one habit to break.

To lose weight, you're changing everything - what you eat, what you drink, how you exercise, etc. We joke around about how "it's all about food" but really, it kind of is. :o We eat every day. It's up to you personally to make healthy choices & decide what & how you want to eat. I personally find that planning is key - you're much more apt to eat something healthy if you have it planned out, all ingredients readily available. Same with exercise - I just assume that I'm going to exercise every single day. If you're in a rush, or don't plan things out ahead of time, you may just grab junk food because it's fast & easy.

If you need come tips or moral support, David, you may want to look into The Biggest Loser Club. It's online, you sign up & they send you emails with real people's stories about how they're doing, healthy recipes, exercise tips, etc. I don't think it costs much. Good luck!




I don't really make resolutions. I am going to officially stop the drunken smoking (which end up being 3 or 4 cigs a month) because it's just stupid for me to do, and I notice that I'm starting to do it more & more. I also try to thank God every day for the life I have.

Good advice....:nod:

[skcin]

Here's the link, if anyone wants it. Looks to be about $20 a month.

http://biggestloserclub.com/

Weight Watchers really works for many people too. They have an online membership as well, I think it's more than Biggest Loser though. In any event, I personally do OK on my own, but if some of you feel you need more support & guidance, these clubs/organizations are awesome. $20 a month is probably less than you pay for cable, or internet. Plus, cut down on take-out & junk food - I'll bet the money you save would pay for your membership. :wavey:

Also - little changes are more effective than most people realize. Just switching to diet POP or iced tea, using light mayo/salad dressings, increasing fiber/whole grains/veggies in your diet, etc. can make a huge difference. Oh, and everyone should drink more water. :D

OK, sorry I started preaching there. :o I'm no diet expert, but these things have helped me, so I thought I'd share.

[mikeschmike]

I'm not big on resolutions but I am hoping for a nice peaceful year. This one went by too fast for me, and I don't like that. I want to enjoy the company of those around me and hopefully meet some new friends as well.

I've cut way back on a lot of bad habits (smoking, take out, etc), so I plan on maintaining that.

[Rickypt]

I was told by my sister recently that resolutions are old-school and now people make New Year's "intentions". That way there is no accountability! :D She's from Santa Cruz, so maybe enough said on that.

I usually don't do the resolution thing, but my intentions are to complete the Boston Marathon, to live within a budget and pay off debt (that conflicts with going to Vegas in March, but I'll work that into a budget somehow or will just say...hey it was my intention) and to pick my battles at work and stop getting frustrated with every little thing.

I also intend to lay off the hard alcohol during my training and to never post while drunk again. :D

[michelle2677]

eh. Screw new year's resolutions.

mine always go something like this:

try to diet-I always end up eating more
pay off bills-end up further in debt
be nice to people-.....aha....ha ha.....:lol: :lol: :lol: :laugh: :laugh:
yeah right. like I'm THAT naive to think that would happen.
exercise-I end up more lazy than I was before.

so I'm not making one.

[DrummerDeanna]

I don't make resolutions...well at least I never have...

But this year? I want to start reading 8 weeks to Optimum Health after the New Year - and take what I read and implement it into my life. I am doing great with exercise, diet has suffered a bit, but I'm not as stressed about it since I am now working out consistenly again.

[estranged4life]

To 'try' to cuss less (Which I have been doing as of late)

[BlackWidow]

eh. Screw new year's resolutions.

mine always go something like this:

try to diet-I always end up eating more
pay off bills-end up further in debt
be nice to people-.....aha....ha ha.....:lol: :lol: :lol: :laugh: :laugh:
yeah right. like I'm THAT naive to think that would happen.
exercise-I end up more lazy than I was before.

so I'm not making one.

..I like it.

[michelle2677]

..I like it.


:thumbsup: :lol:

[goldie]

I don't ever make any resolutions .... but I really really would like to get back to the gym ...... can't seem to get motivated enough to do it, though. I've got the membership, I just never ever go. Very. bad.

[BlackWidow]

^^^
"Just Do It!"

[goldustsongbird]

^^^
"Just Do It!"

That's my resolution for the new year. :rolleyes:

[ontheEdgeof17]

This may sound pessimistic:


NOT to fall in love.


For me, love turns into pain. I don't want pain in '07.

[BlackWidow]

This may sound pessimistic:


NOT to fall in love.


For me, love turns into pain. I don't want pain in '07.

It is unfortunately the Ying & Yang of life.....
You get the Rose & The Thorns.

[Rickypt]

This may sound pessimistic:


NOT to fall in love.


For me, love turns into pain. I don't want pain in '07.

I have fallen in love twice and I have felt pain twice like nobody's business. One just didn't work out, the other one died. Don't ever say you don't want to fall in love because that means you don't want to live. Rise above, Curtis, rise above. It hurts but don't tell yourself that you don't want to fall in love.

[foxyluva]

I want to work on my abs this year, and I want to move to Sydney at some point as well. And I want to get a boyfriend...

[sparky]

This may sound pessimistic:


NOT to fall in love.


For me, love turns into pain. I don't want pain in '07.


Dude, you sound like Stevie.

[markolas]

But this year? I want to start reading 8 weeks to Optimum Health after the New Year - and take what I read and implement it into my life.

I don't usually make them either, but I'm seriously going to get back on the wagon with following the suggestions in that book. I would love to lose about 30-40 lbs so I can fit into all my clothes again. And I now live in an apartment complex with no less than two fitness centers, so I'm kind of running out of excuses here.

[HejiraNYC]

This may sound pessimistic:


NOT to fall in love.


For me, love turns into pain. I don't want pain in '07.

Quit. listening. to. "Thousand Days."

[BlackWidow]

This may sound pessimistic:


NOT to fall in love.


For me, love turns into pain. I don't want pain in '07.

..sometimes it's a bitch, sometimes it's a breeze.;)

[SuzeQuze]

I don't usually make them either, but I'm seriously going to get back on the wagon with following the suggestions in that book. I would love to lose about 30-40 lbs so I can fit into all my clothes again. And I now live in an apartment complex with no less than two fitness centers, so I'm kind of running out of excuses here.

The book encourages you to move toward actions that make you feel good about yourself. You make small changes week to week that add up. You can recondition yourself to want to do things that are healthier. It can't be a punishment for being bad or it will never work. Also, weight loss is a side-effect of doing things that make you feel good. Just read it! :xoxo:

[skcin]

This may sound pessimistic:


NOT to fall in love.


For me, love turns into pain. I don't want pain in '07.

Aw, Curtis. It hurts my everything to hear you say that. :distress:

[ontheEdgeof17]

Aw, Curtis. It hurts my everything to hear you say that. :distress:

I'm Stevie Nicks incarnate. :laugh:

[BlackWidow]

To get back to the Gym...

[carrie721]

i never make resolutions, but i'm making one this year, and that is to be more adventurous. so i'm applying for a job in alaska.

[DrummerDeanna]

i never make resolutions, but i'm making one this year, and that is to be more adventurous. so i'm applying for a job in alaska.

Are you really?? Alaska? Seriously?

I actually have a friend in Alaska - what part is the job in?

[carrie721]

Are you really?? Alaska? Seriously?

I actually have a friend in Alaska - what part is the job in?

it's a job with the national parks - denali national park. it's 250 miles north of anchorage, apparently! http://www.denaliborough.com/

[foxyluva]

i never make resolutions, but i'm making one this year, and that is to be more adventurous. so i'm applying for a job in alaska.

Good for you - I will be applying for jobs in Sydney in about 6 months as well :)

[carrie721]

Good for you - I will be applying for jobs in Sydney in about 6 months as well :)

cool! hooray for us! :xoxo:

[DrummerDeanna]

it's a job with the national parks - denali national park. it's 250 miles north of anchorage, apparently! http://www.denaliborough.com/

Wow! Well you should apply with parks in Colorado...then we can hang out and watch Golden Girls while I torture you with my Harry Potter philosophizing :D

Anchorage is where my friend lives - she was in the Air Force but they threw her out - she just never left the area...and her brother (who is now one of my closest friends) was just up there in November..the pictures he took are amazing.

[carrie721]

Wow! Well you should apply with parks in Colorado...then we can hang out and watch Golden Girls while I torture you with my Harry Potter philosophizing :D

Anchorage is where my friend lives - she was in the Air Force but they threw her out - she just never left the area...and her brother (who is now one of my closest friends) was just up there in November..the pictures he took are amazing.

ha! i'm applying for any national parks job i'm eligible for in alaska, colorado, and a couple other states, so i may end up near you. :thumbsup: i need a change.

they threw her out of the AF?

[foxyluva]

cool! hooray for us! :xoxo:

Cool, but scary. I don't know if you know anybody in Alaska - but I know nobody in Sydney! Although thats part of the appeal...

[carrie721]

Cool, but scary. I don't know if you know anybody in Alaska - but I know nobody in Sydney! Although thats part of the appeal...

nope, i dunno anyone in alaska. and that has huge appeal for me. :laugh: call me the grinch ... :cool:

[foxyluva]

nope, i dunno anyone in alaska. and that has huge appeal for me. :laugh: call me the grinch ... :cool:

I think sometimes its good to get away and start afresh - thats what I am trying to do anyway :shrug:

[carrie721]

I think sometimes its good to get away and start afresh - thats what I am trying to do anyway :shrug:

me too. i've lived here my whole life ... i need new experiences. :nod:

[foxyluva]

me too. i've lived here my whole life ... i need new experiences. :nod:

Exactly. And, Auckland is starting to feel like a one-horse-town :laugh:

[carrie721]

Exactly. And, Auckland is starting to feel like a one-horse-town :laugh:

lmao ... you can only take it for a ride so many times ... :laugh:

[foxyluva]

lmao ... you can only take it for a ride so many times ... :laugh:

:nod:

And Sydney has a lot more going on in terms of nightlife, which I need, and the gay-scene there is massive...

[carrie721]

:nod:

And Sydney has a lot more going on in terms of nightlife, which I need, and the gay-scene there is massive...

sweeeeeeeet.

i can't say i know much about alaska's nightlife ... :laugh:

[Wild_Heart03]

me too. i've lived here my whole life ... i need new experiences. :nod:

I know the feeling. I'm thinking of moving to Memphis, since I have a friend who lives there. I'm visiting first though, to make sure I like it (and there's not too many crazy Elvis fans :laugh: ).

[DrummerDeanna]

ha! i'm applying for any national parks job i'm eligible for in alaska, colorado, and a couple other states, so i may end up near you. :thumbsup: i need a change.

they threw her out of the AF?

Awesome! Good luck!

Yeah - they threw her out - she was a major alcoholic - and got into trouble repeatedly. And though she's a lesbian she was having an affair with some married Air Force guy and was found out...ya gotta watch out for us Southwestern "lesbians" we're as flaky as they come :p

[carrie721]

I know the feeling. I'm thinking of moving to Memphis, since I have a friend who lives there. I'm visiting first though, to make sure I like it (and there's not too many crazy Elvis fans :laugh: ).

bitch plz. memphis is awesome. omg, maybe i should work at graceland! :lol:

[foxyluva]

sweeeeeeeet.

i can't say i know much about alaska's nightlife ... :laugh:

What, snow not enough fun for ya? :laugh:

[carrie721]

Awesome! Good luck!

Yeah - they threw her out - she was a major alcoholic - and got into trouble repeatedly. And though she's a lesbian she was having an affair with some married Air Force guy and was found out...ya gotta watch out for us Southwestern "lesbians" we're as flaky as they come :p

wow. :shocked:

"lesbians" ... lol. i'll watch my back around you then. :p

[Wild_Heart03]

bitch plz. memphis is awesome. omg, maybe i should work at graceland! :lol:

lmao, well I've never been there so I wouldn't know. but omg that would rock, you could get a job as a Priscilla impersonator! :thumbsup:

[DrummerDeanna]

wow. :shocked:

"lesbians" ... lol. i'll watch my back around you then. :p

Well I guess I don't identify as a lesbian, but honestly the problems I have with lesbians come from the ones I knew in Las Cruces and El Paso -cradle of fu**ed upness fo sho!

Anyway....applying for anything in New MExico? :D

[carrie721]

What, snow not enough fun for ya? :laugh:

snow is nice to look at ... i dunno about much else, tho ... :laugh:

[foxyluva]

snow is nice to look at ... i dunno about much else, tho ... :laugh:

Well, I have never even seen it before, apart from in pictures. But yeah, I hope you go a little crazy and make this move - it will give me some enthusiam to make mine!

[carrie721]

lmao, well I've never been there so I wouldn't know. but omg that would rock, you could get a job as a Priscilla impersonator! :thumbsup:

holy ****. best. idea. EVAR! :D

Well I guess I don't identify as a lesbian, but honestly the problems I have with lesbians come from the ones I knew in Las Cruces and El Paso -cradle of fu**ed upness fo sho!

lmao ... cradle of ****edupness. love it. :laugh:

Anyway....applying for anything in New MExico? :D

if i find anything i'm qualified for, i definitely will. you know i love me some NM!

[Wild_Heart03]

Well, I have never even seen it before, apart from in pictures. But yeah, I hope you go a little crazy and make this move - it will give me some enthusiam to make mine!

:shocked:

you and your warm temperatures. :p no srsly though, snow is fun... long as you don't have to drive in it.

holy ****. best. idea. EVAR! :D

I bet you would look hawt in a bouffant wig, fo sho'.

[carrie721]

Well, I have never even seen it before, apart from in pictures. But yeah, I hope you go a little crazy and make this move - it will give me some enthusiam to make mine!

you've never seen snow? holy cow. you DO live in paradise!! :eek: :lol:

[foxyluva]

you've never seen snow? holy cow. you DO live in paradise!! :eek: :lol:

:laugh:

Well, Auckland does not get snow - its mainly the South Island that does, and the only times I have been down there is when it was summer, so yeah - I have never seen snow before :lol:

[carrie721]

:laugh:

Well, Auckland does not get snow - its mainly the South Island that does, and the only times I have been down there is when it was summer, so yeah - I have never seen snow before :lol:

damn. well i talk a lot of smack about snow but we haven't had any yet this season and i miss it ... just a little. :eek:

[foxyluva]

damn. well i talk a lot of smack about snow but we haven't had any yet this season and i miss it ... just a little. :eek:

I would loove to see it - maybe I should go down to the South Island during winter sometime - Queenstown is supposed to be stunning :nod:

[carrie721]

I would loove to see it - maybe I should go down to the South Island during winter sometime - Queenstown is supposed to be stunning :nod:

you should! i can't imagine never seeing snow ... check it out!

what's the coldest it gets in auckland?

[DrummerDeanna]

holy ****. best. idea. EVAR! :D



lmao ... cradle of ****edupness. love it. :laugh:



if i find anything i'm qualified for, i definitely will. you know i love me some NM!

Take my advice and steer very clear of Southern New Mexico. Horrible.

[foxyluva]

what's the coldest it gets in auckland?

Mmm, in winter, it can get down to 37 degrees, but a winter day is about 50 :shrug:

[Wild_Heart03]

Mmm, in winter, it can get down to 37 degrees, but a winter day is about 50 :shrug:

Fahrenheit or Celsius? lol

[foxyluva]

Fahrenheit or Celsius? lol

Fahrenheit :laugh: We use Celsius here, but I converted it for the benefit of the Americans on the board :laugh:

[carrie721]

Take my advice and steer very clear of Southern New Mexico. Horrible.

i've never been to southern NM, so i will heed your warning. :nod:

Mmm, in winter, it can get down to 37 degrees, but a winter day is about 50 :shrug:

sounds fab! does it get rainy and stuff or what?

Fahrenheit or Celsius? lol

hahaha ... if it were celsius, that would be one hell of a winter! (literally, i guess ... :laugh: )

[Wild_Heart03]

Fahrenheit :laugh: We use Celsius here, but I converted it for the benefit of the Americans on the board :laugh:

lol, I figured that much.. my friend Melissa lives in Queensland and one day she was like "we went swimming today, it was so hot - almost 36" and I'm like "uh... :shocked: that's like Arctic here. :laugh:"

[foxyluva]

sounds fab! does it get rainy and stuff or what?


Well, we are basically an Island, so its usually very muggy - and its usually rainy and cloudy most winter days. It also tends to rain for the first month or so of summer, then we have a schorcher from early jan until about late February :D

[foxyluva]

lol, I figured that much.. my friend Melissa lives in Queensland and one day she was like "we went swimming today, it was so hot - almost 36" and I'm like "uh... :shocked: that's like Arctic here. :laugh:"

Damn, that is hot :shocked: I don't think NZ ever gets to that sort of temperature...

[carrie721]

Well, we are basically an Island, so its usually very muggy - and its usually rainy and cloudy most winter days. It also tends to rain for the first month or so of summer, then we have a schorcher from early jan until about late February :D

way cool. :thumbsup:

[foxyluva]

way cool. :thumbsup:

Ehh, Im over this whole place - I just need to escape :shrug:

[carrie721]

Ehh, Im over this whole place - I just need to escape :shrug:

right. but i'm from ohio, so it's cool. :laugh:

[foxyluva]

right. but i'm from ohio, so it's cool. :laugh:

Dude, I know zilch about Ohio, so as far as I would no, its brilliant :laugh:

[Wild_Heart03]

Ehh, Im over this whole place - I just need to escape :shrug:

ditto to idaho, on that matter. if I never hear another potato joke again it will still be too soon. :rolleyes:

[carrie721]

Dude, I know zilch about Ohio, so as far as I would no, its brilliant :laugh:

let's switch places!

[foxyluva]

let's switch places!

:laugh: How about telling me a little about the place first!

[carrie721]

:laugh: How about telling me a little about the place first!

haha. nevermind, you'd never go for it. :laugh:

[foxyluva]

ditto to idaho, on that matter. if I never hear another potato joke again it will still be too soon. :rolleyes:

:laugh: Well, I guess we all get a little anxious at times, but life is what we make it - so get outta there if you want!

[foxyluva]

haha. nevermind, you'd never go for it. :laugh:

Well, from your pictures it looks extremely pretty, but if its a hick town, no, Im probably not going to be interested :laugh:

[markolas]

The book encourages you to move toward actions that make you feel good about yourself. You make small changes week to week that add up. You can recondition yourself to want to do things that are healthier. It can't be a punishment for being bad or it will never work. Also, weight loss is a side-effect of doing things that make you feel good. Just read it! :xoxo:

I know, I know. I did read it. :) I'm not looking at it as a punishment, just something I need to do for myself, and this new year is seeming like a better opportunity to make a fresher start than most.

[goldustsongbird]

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[estranged4life]

to accomplish is to bankrupt MRMC into permanent closure this coming year.

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[BlackWidow]

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[Rickypt]

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:shocked:

I'm gonna need to buy a turkey baster.

[DrummerDeanna]

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In the year 2007 I resolve to:<br>Spend more time snuggling puppies.</p>
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Heeeee...I like this one :D

[irishgrl]

I know, I know. I did read it. :) I'm not looking at it as a punishment, just something I need to do for myself, and this new year is seeming like a better opportunity to make a fresher start than most.
based on all your comments, I just ordered the book for myself :woohoo:

Im with you markolas, Im using this opportunity to make badly needed lifestyle changes, and the first is an easy start date to remember. I also feel moved to be as good a mother as I can for my son. I love him so much, I want to be worthy of him. Today we are just loafing, probably staying in our PJ's watching movies and being lazy. there's time tomorrow to do little errands, today is just for us :nod:

[irishgrl]

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In the year 2007 I resolve to:<br>Slap stupid people in the head.</p>
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oh YEAH!

or this:

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In the year 2007 I resolve to:<br>Dedicate my life to making someone else's horribly miserable.</p>
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That one ought to be easy. I can think of a few people that I could make miserable without any effort at all!

[irishgrl]

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In the year 2007 I resolve to:<br>Stop being a productive member of society.</p>
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that was LAST year's resolution! quit cheating :D

[BlackWidow]

that was LAST year's resolution! quit cheating :D

..don't make me come get you...:cool: :lol:

[skcin]

Carrie - I think that would be so f*cking cool, to live & work in Alaska. Good luck! :wavey:

[sparky]

nope, i dunno anyone in alaska. and that has huge appeal for me. :laugh: call me the grinch ... :cool:

I have a bunch of friends who used to live in Alaska. Word. Not that many women in Alaska. Tons of horny men though. And a whole lotta white trash.

The park is supposed to be stunning though.

[carrie721]

Carrie - I think that would be so f*cking cool, to live & work in Alaska. Good luck! :wavey:

thanks. the job looks pretty boring (clerical) but the description says it would involve doing occasional talks & dog demonstrations with visitor groups. sweet!

I have a bunch of friends who used to live in Alaska. Word. Not that many women in Alaska. Tons of horny men though. And a whole lotta white trash.

The park is supposed to be stunning though.

the pictures i've seen look ****ing amazing. cross your fingers for me. :D

http://www.americanadventures.com/images/Mount_Mckinley.jpg

[ontheEdgeof17]

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In the year 2007 I resolve to:<br>Get high on sharpies.</p>
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[ontheEdgeof17]

me too. i've lived here my whole life ... i need new experiences. :nod:

Most def!

Good luck on the job hunt. Let us know where you end up....I might swing by there to work for 8 weeks or so. ;)

[sparky]

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In the year 2007 I resolve to:<br>Stop wearing pants again.</p>
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[carrie721]

Most def!

Good luck on the job hunt. Let us know where you end up....I might swing by there to work for 8 weeks or so. ;)

thanks. :xoxo:

so did you decide to go ahead and do it? sweet!

[ontheEdgeof17]

thanks. :xoxo:

so did you decide to go ahead and do it? sweet!

I think so. :cool:

Kris and I had a wonderful New Years in New York City, but the ride back home wasn't so good....and last night wasn't so good. We are suppose to "talk" today. I'm.a.mess. need.a.hug.

[carrie721]

I think so. :cool:

Kris and I had a wonderful New Years in New York City, but the ride back home wasn't so good....and last night wasn't so good. We are suppose to "talk" today. I'm.a.mess. need.a.hug.

awwww, c'mere babe. :xoxo:

hope everything turns out well.

[danax6]

My resolution was to get back into the college game, and as of today I am officially a college student again, at the splendid age of 24. They say better late than never...

Right? :shocked:

[carrie721]

My resolution was to get back into the college game, and as of today I am officially a college student again, at the splendid age of 24. They say better late than never...

Right? :shocked:

right! good for you!

[ontheEdgeof17]

awwww, c'mere babe. :xoxo:

hope everything turns out well.

Thanks.

What do you do and say when someone you love very deeply is doing something you hate very deeply (i.e. smoking)? I refuse to have him choose. It's not fair to him and it would be one, big disaster. I'd rather just walk away from it.....Sometimes I feel he loves those things more than me. I'm at a loss. Is walking away the right thing to do?

[carrie721]

Thanks.

What do you do and say when someone you love very deeply is doing something you hate very deeply (i.e. smoking)? I refuse to have him choose. It's not fair to him and it would be one, big disaster. I'd rather just walk away from it.....Sometimes I feel he loves those things more than me. I'm at a loss. Is walking away the right thing to do?

if you cannot live with it, what choice do you have? you shouldn't have to worry that you're playing second fiddle to a cig. jmo.

[danax6]

Thanks.

What do you do and say when someone you love very deeply is doing something you hate very deeply (i.e. smoking)? I refuse to have him choose. It's not fair to him and it would be one, big disaster. I'd rather just walk away from it.....Sometimes I feel he loves those things more than me. I'm at a loss. Is walking away the right thing to do?Is the fact that he's a smoker the only thing that's standing in the way right now, or are there other things on your 'hate' list? Has he even considered giving it up but been unsuccessful, or is he not even going to try?

What a sucky ass situation you're in Curtis... :distress:

[DavidMn]

Thanks.

What do you do and say when someone you love very deeply is doing something you hate very deeply (i.e. smoking)? I refuse to have him choose. It's not fair to him and it would be one, big disaster. I'd rather just walk away from it.....Sometimes I feel he loves those things more than me. I'm at a loss. Is walking away the right thing to do?You know, I deal with the same thing with Derek. He smokes a pack and a half a day and I've tried to get him to quit forever. I know how that is, good luck my friend!:nod:

[ontheEdgeof17]

Is the fact that he's a smoker the only thing that's standing in the way right now, or are there other things on your 'hate' list? Has he even considered giving it up but been unsuccessful, or is he not even going to try?

What a sucky ass situation you're in Curtis... :distress:

He says he is trying to quit, but I haven't seen effort. It got unbearable in NYC. I stayed in a smoking hotel room and sat in smoking sections of places. They were even smoking in the car. I try not to say anything cuz he already knows....for months now.....and he still does it in front of my face. He even smoked 5 minutes before midnight...right before we kissed.

[GardenStateGirlie]

My resolution was to get back into the college game, and as of today I am officially a college student again, at the splendid age of 24. They say better late than never...

Right? :shocked:

i'm proud of you!! returning to college was seriously the best decision i've ever made and no, it's never too late to finish your education :thumbsup:

[Rickypt]

Thanks.

What do you do and say when someone you love very deeply is doing something you hate very deeply (i.e. smoking)? I refuse to have him choose. It's not fair to him and it would be one, big disaster. I'd rather just walk away from it.....Sometimes I feel he loves those things more than me. I'm at a loss. Is walking away the right thing to do?

I don't know if you're just asking Carrie for advice, if so then just ignore this.

People are probably sick of hearing about my experience, but I'll say that I never thought I'd be with a smoker. Then I met Gil (late partner). When we first got together, I thought to myself that I would get him to stop within a few months...that if he loved me he'd do it.

After awhile I didn't even think about it because I was so in love with him that it didn't really matter to me that he smoked. I regret not talking with him more about the smoking, though, because it did hasten his death when the cancer spread to his lungs.

My point, though, is that I'm not sure someone's smoking is worth breaking up over this early into the relationship? I shudder to think what my life would be like if I had rejected my great relationship so early on.

Smoking is really bad, but I think different than if he were a drug addict or something. You love him deeply--that is huge. Does he have to "choose" right away? Can you keep working on the relationship and then when it hits the really serious moment (i.e., moving in together, etc.) address the smoking? In the meantime, just let him know how much you hate the smoking and that if he wants to grow the relationship he'll have to quit at some point? That way he has time to reflect on it and the make the "choice" at his own pace?

Maybe there's more going on than the smoking, but when I read things like "I love him deeply", then I think the relationship is worth working on.

[Rickypt]

He says he is trying to quit, but I haven't seen effort. It got unbearable in NYC. I stayed in a smoking hotel room and sat in smoking sections of places. They were even smoking in the car. I try not to say anything cuz he already knows....for months now.....and he still does it in front of my face. He even smoked 5 minutes before midnight...right before we kissed.

Maybe this is what you guys can work on first. Instead of his quitting, he can certainly make compromises like not smoking in the car and forcing you to be in smoking sections.

[sparky]

He says he is trying to quit, but I haven't seen effort. It got unbearable in NYC. I stayed in a smoking hotel room and sat in smoking sections of places. They were even smoking in the car. I try not to say anything cuz he already knows....for months now.....and he still does it in front of my face. He even smoked 5 minutes before midnight...right before we kissed.

That seems rude. I dated people before who didn't smoke, and never once did we stay in smoking rooms or eat in smoking restaurants. Hell, those places are skanky. I can go outside to smoke. And would never smoke in the truck. I always asked if I was unsure. I mean, sheesh. I respect the fact that others don't want to deal with it. That being said, I have had bf types want me to quit or cut down. Which never bothered me. They understood I was gonna stop when I wanted to and it was never a deal breaker for them. I didn't hide it, so they knew it was part of the guy they were getting.

It's a tough call man. But it sounds to me like it isn't just the smokes.:shrug: Sounds like it's becoming a power struggle.

[danax6]

He says he is trying to quit, but I haven't seen effort. It got unbearable in NYC. I stayed in a smoking hotel room and sat in smoking sections of places. They were even smoking in the car. I try not to say anything cuz he already knows....for months now.....and he still does it in front of my face. He even smoked 5 minutes before midnight...right before we kissed.Ah yes, that's very rude and not to mention very inconsiderate. If you ask me he's not putting in any effort at all. I'm a smoker myself, and I have to admit that in the past I haven't always been considerate of the people I dated, but I mostly dated people that smoked also, to avoid messes like these. I once dated a guy that asked me to quit, but he wasn't worth my effort, if you know what I mean. I hate to say it, but I think that if a person really wants to, he can quit smoking. Especially if it's to keep that special person close. I'd say that'd be plenty of motivation, if health alone isn't going to cut it.

[GardenStateGirlie]

He says he is trying to quit, but I haven't seen effort. It got unbearable in NYC. I stayed in a smoking hotel room and sat in smoking sections of places. They were even smoking in the car. I try not to say anything cuz he already knows....for months now.....and he still does it in front of my face. He even smoked 5 minutes before midnight...right before we kissed.

do you think he keeps saying it because he knows that even if he doesn't quit, you'll still be there?

at any rate, i'm sorry to hear about your troubles, curtis.

[danax6]

i'm proud of you!! returning to college was seriously the best decision i've ever made and no, it's never too late to finish your education :thumbsup:Thanks, hon. For the longest time I was happy with my decision about quitting, because I had a great job and a great apartment, and I wasn't struggling, so I didn't think that dropping out was going to affect my life in a major way. Then when I lost my job last fall I realized that it was all an -channeling Lindsey here- exercise in denial. That's when I learned that I had nothing to fall back on, and that great jobs like those only come around once in a life time. I was facing a job as a cashiere, or worse, for the rest of my life and it scared me to death. Not to mention all the people around me that were my age and had degrees and great jobs and were buying houses and stuff like that. Luckily, I found a job that allows me to both pay for college and have the time to study. If I put some effort into it, ofcourse. ;)

So, to any youngsters who are reading this: finish school! :lol:

[ontheEdgeof17]

Maybe this is what you guys can work on first. Instead of his quitting, he can certainly make compromises like not smoking in the car and forcing you to be in smoking sections.

Your story broke my heart. :xoxo: Thanks for sharing that with us.


Well, if we do stay together, I will just book my own hotel room and sit in smoke-free sections....without him.

Him smoking in the car took the cake. We got in a little tiff after we ate on the way home. Lighting up in the car seemed like a big "F-You. I'll do what I want.".....cuz he knows very well I don't like that the most.

[ontheEdgeof17]

It's a tough call man. But it sounds to me like it isn't just the smokes.:shrug: Sounds like it's becoming a power struggle.

:nod: :nod: :nod:

[danax6]

Him smoking in the car took the cake. We got in a little tiff after we ate on the way home. Lighting up in the car seemed like a big "F-You. I'll do what I want.".....cuz he knows very well I don't like that the most.Sparky was onto something when he mentioned power struggles...

edit: you already agreed with that also, never mind :D

[Rickypt]

Well, if we do stay together, I will just book my own hotel room and sit in smoke-free sections....without him.


No....if you do stay together, then he will stay in nonsmoking rooms and go outside to smoke. That is what considerate people do. If I were you, I'd consider going a little easy on telling him to quit right now, but I would be firm about the hotel room, smoking in car, etc. He does need to show he can compromise on those things.:nod:

[skcin]

Curtis, Kris is being a total d*ck. He's literally putting your health at risk! I smoked for years, and I never smoked near non-smokers in cars, at houses, in hotel rooms, etc. It's inconsiderate & rude, to say the least. :distress:

Do you think he's doing it on purpose? Like, trying to get to you so bad that you'll break up with him?

[ontheEdgeof17]

Do you think he's doing it on purpose? Like, trying to get to you so bad that you'll break up with him?

I dunno. :rolleyes:

He knows I'm emotional, sometimes weak....a little mentally unstable (haha). I have no idea what his intentions are.

I know I haven't been the perfect bf. I've made many mistakes, but I've never been disrepectful to him....to his friends, yes.

I guess I don't fit since I don't smoke and speak French. :o

[SuzeQuze]

i'm proud of you!! returning to college was seriously the best decision i've ever made and no, it's never too late to finish your education :thumbsup:

I agree. :nod: You're still so young Vanessa! I'm very proud of you also. Plus, you can pass for one of those 20 year olds! :D

[skcin]

I dunno. :rolleyes:

He knows I'm emotional, sometimes weak....a little mentally unstable (haha). I have no idea what his intentions are.



Seems like he's exploiting that. Kind of a "he won't have the balls to do anything about it, so f*ck him" attitude. :mad: That's not love, that's not respect. That's cruel & you shouldn't put up with it.

[amber]

I guess I don't fit since I don't smoke and speak French. :o

Wait wait wait. You're supposed to speak french, too?! Oh, hell no! :mad:


;)

I had a bf who smoked a lot, all the time. This was before I smoked. He couldn't smoke inside buildings, b/c it was illegal, and we didn't have a car, but he smoked everywhere else, constantly.
It seems like your boyfriend could wait, and not smoke in the car or the hotel room - but it might not be a power struggle, some people just smoke a fricking truckload, they can't be without one. :rolleyes:
That doesn't mean you shouldn't insist on a few basic smoking politenesses, I'm just saying his intentions might not be unsavory.

[BlackWidow]

I don't know if you're just asking Carrie for advice, if so then just ignore this.

People are probably sick of hearing about my experience, but I'll say that I never thought I'd be with a smoker. Then I met Gil (late partner). When we first got together, I thought to myself that I would get him to stop within a few months...that if he loved me he'd do it.

After awhile I didn't even think about it because I was so in love with him that it didn't really matter to me that he smoked. I regret not talking with him more about the smoking, though, because it did hasten his death when the cancer spread to his lungs.

My point, though, is that I'm not sure someone's smoking is worth breaking up over this early into the relationship? I shudder to think what my life would be like if I had rejected my great relationship so early on.

Smoking is really bad, but I think different than if he were a drug addict or something. You love him deeply--that is huge. Does he have to "choose" right away? Can you keep working on the relationship and then when it hits the really serious moment (i.e., moving in together, etc.) address the smoking? In the meantime, just let him know how much you hate the smoking and that if he wants to grow the relationship he'll have to quit at some point? That way he has time to reflect on it and the make the "choice" at his own pace?

Maybe there's more going on than the smoking, but when I read things like "I love him deeply", then I think the relationship is worth working on.

You are very wise, grasshopper!

[BlackWidow]

Curtis, Kris is being a total d*ck. He's literally putting your health at risk! I smoked for years, and I never smoked near non-smokers in cars, at houses, in hotel rooms, etc. It's inconsiderate & rude, to say the least. :distress:

Do you think he's doing it on purpose? Like, trying to get to you so bad that you'll break up with him?

I agree..he could be sabotaging....