so ...

[carrie721]

am i, like, the only lez here? i mean, 99% of the dudes who post here are gay, and that's sweet. but are there really no gay ladies? on this whole big message board? how odd ...

has anyone else noticed this? gay is so chic these days. but "gay" in pop culture never means gay women. it's like, we're all living in the same gay house, and the lezbos are in the attic training dogs and exchanging flannel shirts or something.

:shrug: just some observations.

[estranged4life]

am i, like, the only lez here? i mean, 99% of the dudes who post here are gay, and that's sweet. but are there really no gay ladies? on this whole big message board? how odd ...

has anyone else noticed this? gay is so chic these days. but "gay" in pop culture never means gay women. it's like, we're all living in the same gay house, and the lezbos are in the attic training dogs and exchanging flannel shirts or something.

:shrug: just some observations.

there are a few lesbians here, so yer not the only one.

I'm in the super minority, straight & married...Sickening aint it? :lol:

[carrie721]

there are a few lesbians here, so yer not the only one.

I'm in the super minority, straight & married...Sickening aint it? :lol:

:laugh: i'm disgusted!

[estranged4life]

:laugh: i'm disgusted!

:laugh: I strive to please in the disgust dept. :thumbsup:

[foxyluva]

:laugh:

OMG, I feel like such a dork - I swear I thought Deanna was gay as well, or is she bi?

There are a few gay ladies over @ the sevenwonders board, Carrie...

[GODDESS6]

sory, straight as hell here;) ~ & tho 100% faithful, i LUV men, well taken care of ones:nod: ~ my best friend is lesbian, her name is bobbie, we have been friends for yrs & yrs~ she lurks here, but i can't ever get her to post~

[strandinthewind]

there are a few lesbians here, so yer not the only one.

I'm in the super minority, straight & married...Sickening aint it? :lol:

I thought you were a lesbian - you certainly dress like one :D :p :p :p :wavey:

[estranged4life]

I thought you were a lesbian - you certainly dress like one :D :p :p :p :wavey:

does that mean, "you certainly dress like one"???

[Rickypt]

has anyone else noticed this? gay is so chic these days.

It is? I think only in really lame ways, like Will and Grace. I realized a couple nights ago just how much people still really hate gay people when I was at the A's game and when the game turned sour, lots of homophobic comments came spewing from the fans (i.e., the Tigers are "f-g-ts"....which, maybe was a compliment, like "gay people are talented, composed, and can perform under pressure.). When things get bad, start yelling antigay stuff.

I don't think gay is chic, and even if it is, I'd rather have things like equal rights than movies with the obligatory gay best friend.

I'm digressing, sorry. Carrie, I think that gay women are actually pioneers in creating an openly gay pop culture. kd, Melissa, and Ellen's coming out set the way in my opinion.

This isn't what you're looking for, but I've always considered myself to be a lesbian trapped in a gay guy's body. Both of my partners moved in within days after we met. What's the joke, what do lesbians give each other as a gift on the second date: a U-Haul. Something like that.

Anyway.

[SuzeQuze]

I don't know, this hot girl hit on me on Sat and for a second... :lol:

[skcin]

I'm straight, but I think Theresa wants to be gay. :angel:

[strandinthewind]

does that mean, "you certainly dress like one"???

Yes, and I am pulling your leg :wavey:

[bikerchic]

I'm straight, but I think Theresa wants to be gay. :angel:

Is it that obvious? :laugh:

[SuzeQuze]

Yes, and I am pulling your leg :wavey:

Watch out or you'll make him tinkle! ;)

[DavidMn]

there are a few lesbians here, so yer not the only one.

I'm in the super minority, straight & married...Sickening aint it? :lol:EVIL BREEDER!!!!!:laugh:

[DavidMn]

:laugh: I don't know, this hot girl hit on me on Sat and for a second... :lol:WHOA!!!!!!

[estranged4life]

EVIL BREEDER!!!!!:laugh:

that is my religious view...Hehehehe!!!

Actually, I prefer none as my religion :thumbsup:

[estranged4life]

Yes, and I am pulling your leg :wavey:

I was being sarcastic (Not having a good morning)

[DavidMn]

I was being sarcastic (Not having a good morning)At least he didnt say the third leg.....:lol:

[DavidMn]

Ok, I have a question for the lesbians out there. I've noticed an interesting phenomenon with lesbians that doesnt occur neraly as much among gay men. 2 ladies will be out together wherever and if someone goes up to one to talk, the other girlfriend freaks and like tells the person to back off. I know this doesnt happen all the time, but I was curious as to why it does?

[skcin]

^ Cuz lots of girls are catty insecure bitches, David. Lesbians included. :laugh:

[DavidMn]

^ Cuz lots of girls are catty insecure bitches, David. Lesbians included. :laugh:Well, us men can be that way too. We're certainly not immune.:lol:

[michelle2677]

I don't know, this hot girl hit on me on Sat and for a second... :lol:


yeah..that happened to me awhile back. Except I was dancing, she came up and was dancing behind me. She was drunk, fell, and took me down with her. That was the beginning and end of my lesbian days. :lol:

[DavidMn]

yeah..that happened to me awhile back. Except I was dancing, she came up and was dancing behind me. She was drunk, fell, and took me down with her. That was the beginning and end of my lesbian days. :lol:Thats friggin hilarious!:laugh:

[chiliD]

I'm in the super minority, straight & married

{raises hand} Chalk up another one here in that demographic. :thumbsup:

[DrummerDeanna]

There are a couple of lesbians on here - or maybe just one since Hillary left.

I hate labels. I've dated women and had some very meaningful relationships, I've dated men and had some very meaningful relationships.

For all intents and purposes I guess I'm "bi" but I HATE that term. I just follow my heart :shrug:

That said, it's been over 3 years since any woman has captured my attention. My last experience with a woman was horrible. It left me shattered, broken and just spent. So I sort of closed myself off to that for a long time.

But I agree Carrie that when people talk about "gay" they are mostly referring to men. There was a story on NPR's Fresh Air this week about the Christian ex-gay movement - anyway - not one mention of women. None. It was all about men. What's up with that?

Anyway...I've not dated anyone in over 2 years - so basically I'm in some weird place right now - but I'm open to meeting anyone who is honest, loyal and just a good person with a good heart - man or woman, I don't care.

That said, I am really really freaked out by butch lesbians :laugh: I mean really. They freak me out.

[DavidMn]

There are a couple of lesbians on here - or maybe just one since Hillary left.

I hate labels. I've dated women and had some very meaningful relationships, I've dated men and had some very meaningful relationships.

For all intents and purposes I guess I'm "bi" but I HATE that term. I just follow my heart :shrug:

That said, it's been over 3 years since any woman has captured my attention. My last experience with a woman was horrible. It left me shattered, broken and just spent. So I sort of closed myself off to that for a long time.

But I agree Carrie that when people talk about "gay" they are mostly referring to men. There was a story on NPR's Fresh Air this week about the Christian ex-gay movement - anyway - not one mention of women. None. It was all about men. What's up with that?

Anyway...I've not dated anyone in over 2 years - so basically I'm in some weird place right now - but I'm open to meeting anyone who is honest, loyal and just a good person with a good heart - man or woman, I don't care.

That said, I am really really freaked out by butch lesbians :laugh: I mean really. They freak me out.That's the way you should be. Always be true to yourself I say,:nod:

[DrummerDeanna]

That's the way you should be. Always be true to yourself I say,:nod:

Indeed - but there are a lot of people who do not believe in bisexuality - they think it's a farce.

Well I can honestly say that I have been attracted to both men and women. I have wanted both in both emotional and sexual ways :shrug:

There is another reason I hate the term "bi" though - it's what it has become. It seems as though when someone is bi it's a ticket to be with anyone whenever wherever, regardless of you is hurt by it.

I knew this man in my hometown - he was living in a threesome, with a woman and a man. To each their own - but when he explained it he said, "well I was married to a woman, but I'm bi - so naturally I also needed a man."

Um. no. that is so not how it works!! No wonder we get a bad rap in society.

When I was with my boyfriend - I was with him. I didn't also need a woman - that is ludicrous to me.

I don't know - I'm not really sure how to explain what I'm trying to get at....

[SuzeQuze]

Indeed - but there are a lot of people who do not believe in bisexuality - they think it's a farce.

Well I can honestly say that I have been attracted to both men and women. I have wanted both in both emotional and sexual ways :shrug:

There is another reason I hate the term "bi" though - it's what it has become. It seems as though when someone is bi it's a ticket to be with anyone whenever wherever, regardless of you is hurt by it.

I knew this man in my hometown - he was living in a threesome, with a woman and a man. To each their own - but when he explained it he said, "well I was married to a woman, but I'm bi - so naturally I also needed a man."

Um. no. that is so not how it works!! No wonder we get a bad rap in society.

When I was with my boyfriend - I was with him. I didn't also need a woman - that is ludicrous to me.

I don't know - I'm not really sure how to explain what I'm trying to get at....

No, it makes sense when you think of sexuality as a continuum as opposed to one or the other. And monogamy as the least complicated and most intimate way to carry out a relationship. The other ways just don't fly.

[DavidMn]

No, it makes sense when you think of sexuality as a continuum as opposed to one or the other. And monogamy as the least complicated and most intimate way to carry out a relationship. The other ways just don't fly.Amen to that sistah.:nod:

[DrummerDeanna]

No, it makes sense when you think of sexuality as a continuum as opposed to one or the other. And monogamy as the least complicated and most intimate way to carry out a relationship. The other ways just don't fly.

that works. I realize there are people who don't believe in monogamy - but I want nothing to do with those people in relationships...I'm a one on one kinda gal :o

[mikeschmike]

I'm a one on one kinda gal

Fine, no Jake Gyllenhaal/Brandon Flowers sandwich for you. :p

[foxyluva]

that works. I realize there are people who don't believe in monogamy - but I want nothing to do with those people in relationships...I'm a one on one kinda gal :o

I agree. I believe in monogamy as well :nod:

[DrummerDeanna]

I agree. I believe in monogamy as well :nod:

Sadly none of the women I've dated seemed to believe in it - or they said they did but were, in fact, evil cheating whores.

The men? All completely loyal. Never cheated. What's that about??

[foxyluva]

Sadly none of the women I've dated seemed to believe in it - or they said they did but were, in fact, evil cheating whores.

The men? All completely loyal. Never cheated. What's that about??

Oh wow - Im completely the opposite. The girlfriends I have had have all been monogamous (although I have never been sexually involved with anyone) and the guys have all just wanted to hit it and quit it :laugh:

[SuzeQuze]

Sadly none of the women I've dated seemed to believe in it - or they said they did but were, in fact, evil cheating whores.

The men? All completely loyal. Never cheated. What's that about??

Sigh, you've got that classic bad girl attraction. :laugh: I actually have mostly chosen very loyal men, except for my first BF. He was horrid.

[DrummerDeanna]

Sigh, you've got that classic bad girl attraction. :laugh: I actually have mostly chosen very loyal men, except for my first BF. He was horrid.

LOL bad girls who seem so nice on the surface...:( I'm not attracted to the outwardly bad girls...well except for my first girlfriend I KNEW she was bad news but I just couldn't help myself.

The un-loyal girls left me with trust issues in relationships...something I've been working on for years.

Still at this point in my life I'm not in a place to date ANYONE - I'm trying to become happy with MYSELF before I let someone else in...I've made lots of progress..and now even think that it may be time, or close to time to try to let someone in...but it's been a loooong time.

[mikeschmike]

To quote a certain guitar player we all know: "I think it's important to remember that no one falls under a certain set of labels."

Rock on with your lesbian/bisexual/heart following/monogomy lovin' selves.

[DrummerDeanna]

^^

:laugh: And that statement is so true - on many levels :nod:

[amber]

2 ladies will be out together wherever and if someone goes up to one to talk, the other girlfriend freaks and like tells the person to back off. I know this doesnt happen all the time, but I was curious as to why it does?

Cause I'm just so attractive as to be that threatening...:laugh:

No, really, it's weird that that happened to me and that you suddenly tell me it's a common occurrence. Did not know that.

[goldustsongbird]

For all intents and purposes I guess I'm "bi" but I HATE that term. I just follow my heart :shrug:





I hate the term, too. I consider myself bisexual, but it's not something I really throw around because it seems to be a trendy thing for girls to be. I think a lot of young teens tend to use it as an excuse to make out with other girls while drunk, or because they think it's something that guys find hot. At least I've always found. :rolleyes: :shrug: And of course, they're in the midst of figuring out who they are as a person. I tend to doubt some people when they're like 13 and all, "I'm bi!!!!11"

I've just always been attracted to both men and women, even when I was really young. It's never been one more than the other. It just... is what it is!

[DrummerDeanna]

^^

:nod: that's another part of it - lots and lots of "trendy bis" as we used to call them. Girls who are not at all bi - but think, for some reason, it's cool to claim they are.

I was burned badly by such a girl my frehsman year of college. Ugh.

I have met very few bi men - do you get a lot of crap for it??

[The Catdancer]

I'm gay and have been with Peg for over 2 years now. She's the best thing that ever happened to me. And we're totally monogamous. I've been in relationships where that wasn't the case and I always ended up being very hurt in the end. This relationship works so well, I'm very happy with Peg. We're talking marriage here :blob1:

[DrummerDeanna]

^^

That's great :nod: I know it can happen - I've a couple of friends who've been in wonderful and monogamous relationships for many years...sigh - but I always mee the pyscho whores with too much drama :laugh:

[Wild_Heart03]

I have met very few bi men - do you get a lot of crap for it??

Speaking as a former bi man (I took the full conversion to the other side some time ago :laugh: ), I can say that it was pretty much on par with being gay. People tend to forget that you do still like women, since they're morons like that. By the time I got up the guts to tell people I was though, I had started realizing that maybe I didn't really like girls, so essentially I came out again.

[The Catdancer]

^^

That's great :nod: I know it can happen - I've a couple of friends who've been in wonderful and monogamous relationships for many years...sigh - but I always mee the pyscho whores with too much drama :laugh:

You don't want to know my track record where relationships are concerned, talk about schizo bitches.... I've had quite a few of those....

[ontheEdgeof17]

You don't want to know my track record where relationships are concerned, talk about schizo bitches.... I've had quite a few of those....

Leave my mom out of this.

[Johnny Stew]

Curtie! I miss you. :xoxo:

[ontheEdgeof17]

Curtie! I miss you. :xoxo:

TA DA!

I'm baaaaa-ack!

:wavey:

[KarmaContestant]

TA DA!

I'm baaaaa-ack!

:wavey:

Hi Curtis!! Good to see you! :xoxo:

[DrummerDeanna]

Leave my mom out of this.

Holy pig in a blanket!!! My heart skipped a beat when I saw your post :laugh:

Then I though...eh must be an old thread...then I rememered which thread I was in :p Welcome back.....

[The Catdancer]

Leave my mom out of this.

I don't know who you are but .... welcome back :D

BTW, I don't think I know your Mom :laugh: