Teri Hatcher "Burnt Toast"

[Brwn_eyes0511]

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Just got the book today.. and watching her on Oprah right now! I can't wait to start reading! I have a new found respect for her after finding out about the sexual abuse and her going forward about it.. because of that he is behind bars! Anyway.. I just love this woman and wanted to let everyone know about the book! :)

[amber]

Oh, I thought someone was making fun of her skin quality when I read the title.

Yeah, it's a shame she went through that, it sounds like it was really debilitating for her in some ways, so I'm glad she came forward as well. Usually if you work on things and talk about them it helps resolve them more quickly in your psyche.
I think she's quite charming, actually - let us know how the book is.

[mylittledemon]

From another standpoint, I don't WANT to know this sort of thing about some people. I think everyone is a victim nowadays...and then writes a book about it. Good grief--some things are better kept between family! Life is SO tough isn't it? In no way am I condoning what happened to Teri, it's awful. Maybe telling the world about it in print is Teri's way of healing...along with making a few hundred thousand dollars on the deal. See my point?

[David]

Plus, Superman 2nd & 3rd season is on DVD.

also, today is released the tennessee williams box set

[amber]

From another standpoint, I don't WANT to know this sort of thing about some people. I think everyone is a victim nowadays...and then writes a book about it. Good grief--some things are better kept between family! Life is SO tough isn't it? In no way am I condoning what happened to Teri, it's awful. Maybe telling the world about it in print is Teri's way of healing...along with making a few hundred thousand dollars on the deal. See my point?
There are far, far worse ways to make money than a famous person talking about sexual abuse. And why should it be kept among family? It's nothing for anyone but the person who did it to be ashamed of. :shrug: That's why this thing perpetuates so much, is silence.
I think her book is about other stuff, too, though, right?
Yes, I see your point, but I don't really agree in this particular case.

[Brwn_eyes0511]

From another standpoint, I don't WANT to know this sort of thing about some people. I think everyone is a victim nowadays...and then writes a book about it. Good grief--some things are better kept between family! Life is SO tough isn't it? In no way am I condoning what happened to Teri, it's awful. Maybe telling the world about it in print is Teri's way of healing...along with making a few hundred thousand dollars on the deal. See my point?

Well it isn't actually ALL about the abuse.. it's about her life in general.. from everything to being a mom, at one point a has-been and struggling actress, and even things to plastic surgery and being an older actress in hollywood.

And like Oprah just said.. when she first heard about the book she though "oh great, another celeb has written a book oh boy".. but when she read it she just thought it was awesome!

and if Oprah likes it.. ;)

[SuzeQuze]

From another standpoint, I don't WANT to know this sort of thing about some people. I think everyone is a victim nowadays...and then writes a book about it. Good grief--some things are better kept between family! Life is SO tough isn't it? In no way am I condoning what happened to Teri, it's awful. Maybe telling the world about it in print is Teri's way of healing...along with making a few hundred thousand dollars on the deal. See my point?

She doesn't talk about it in the book. She had the book written already and then came out with her story. She did this because a young girl committed suicide after being abused by the same man. She didn't want him to have any more victims.

[mylittledemon]

There are far, far worse ways to make money than a famous person talking about sexual abuse. And why should it be kept among family? It's nothing for anyone but the person who did it to be ashamed of. :shrug: That's why this thing perpetuates so much, is silence.
I think her book is about other stuff, too, though, right?
Yes, I see your point, but I don't really agree in this particular case.

I'm going to possibly coin a phrase...I think it's "exploitation of victimization"...that's how I see it. There are things that have happened to me in my own life that have been just as "terrible" but I choose to only tell certain people. I'm aware it's not healthy to bottle it all in...I just don't feel the whole world needs to know about it. It doesn't define who you are.

[mylittledemon]

She doesn't talk about it in the book. She had the book written already and then came out with her story. She did this because a young girl committed suicide after being abused by the same man. She didn't want him to have any more victims.


Oooh....holy crap. Well I apologize for my lack of knowledge on the whole subject, and I stand corrected.

[amber]

I'm going to possibly coin a phrase...I think it's "exploitation of victimization"...that's how I see it. There are things that have happened to me in my own life that have been just as "terrible" but I choose to only tell certain people. I'm aware it's not healthy to bottle it all in...I just don't feel the whole world needs to know about it. It doesn't define who you are.
Maybe it defined who she was. Also, of course everyone has terrible things, but people don't necessarily want to read about what happened to joe shmoe, whereas they do want to read about famous people. So your average joe shmoe doesn't talk about it, and your average famous person is around to give issues more nationwide exposure. They're already famous and attention needy, so to me a book is just an extension of that. Also, as I now read, the book isn't about that, so it really is just a case of a famous person writing a book because they can. But it looks like this book isn't about victimization, so you should be happy about that. :)

[mylittledemon]

Maybe it defined who she was. Also, of course everyone has terrible things, but people don't necessarily want to read about what happened to joe shmoe, whereas they do want to read about famous people. So your average joe shmoe doesn't talk about it, and your average famous person is around to give issues more nationwide exposure. They're already famous and attention needy, so to me a book is just an extension of that.

amber...good point, and I see your argument. And yes, I'm am an average joe...ha! Actually, what happened to me when I was younger (we'll leave it at that) has helped other people in my life as well. So these sorts of things are curses, and blessings.

[Brwn_eyes0511]

She doesn't talk about it in the book. She had the book written already and then came out with her story. She did this because a young girl committed suicide after being abused by the same man. She didn't want him to have any more victims.

Boy I missed that part! :lol:

I should know this though (being a huge Teri fan).. ;)

Thanks Suze for clearing it up!

[amber]

amber...good point, and I see your argument. And yes, I'm am an average joe...ha! Actually, what happened to me when I was younger (we'll leave it at that) has helped other people in my life as well. So these sorts of things are curses, and blessings.
See! that's good you helped someone. :)

You know, not to be unpleasant, but I think everybody and their mom should be talking about the subject, because literally, I am the only person I know (including boys) who hasn't been molestered. (Not counting Ledgies that I know, because I don't know those things about them. Just all my regular friends in my life) That's pretty effing ridiculous, dont you think?

[Richard B]

I am the only person I know (including boys) who hasn't been molestered.
Molestered? I'm sure you are indeed the only person not molestered.

[amber]

Molestered? I'm sure you are indeed the only person not molestered.
Sorry, I watch too much South Park. The one where they told the police all their parents had molestered them, so they could run the town.
"In the before time, in the long, long ago!"

[SuzeQuze]

See! that's good you helped someone. :)

You know, not to be unpleasant, but I think everybody and their mom should be talking about the subject, because literally, I am the only person I know (including boys) who hasn't been molestered. (Not counting Ledgies that I know, because I don't know those things about them. Just all my regular friends in my life) That's pretty effing ridiculous, dont you think?

I agree, shout it from the rooftops. The shame lies with the perpetrator, or it should. But people need to do what they are comfortable with.

Brown Eyes, I read about how she hadn't written about it in the book in Vanity Fair, did you not see that article? It is a must read for a Teri fan. I'm not a huge fan but I do like her, even though she doesn't appear to eat food. During the interview she could not stop crying because a big love interest had just dumped her. The rumor is it was Clooney. Whoever it was just sort of disappeared, stopped calling. I felt bad for her but I bet she is fine now.

[skcin]

Oh, I thought someone was making fun of her skin quality when I read the title.




I don't think it's possible for us to be more in tune to eachother's thoughts. I swear I thought the same exact thing. :p

[SuzeQuze]

I don't think it's possible for us to be more in tune to eachother's thoughts. I swear I thought the same exact thing. :p

I did too! :lol: I thought it was a reference to the tanorexia that is all the rage in Hollywood these days.

[sara1998]

See! that's good you helped someone. :)

You know, not to be unpleasant, but I think everybody and their mom should be talking about the subject, because literally, I am the only person I know (including boys) who hasn't been molestered. (Not counting Ledgies that I know, because I don't know those things about them. Just all my regular friends in my life) That's pretty effing ridiculous, dont you think?
I've not been, either. Thank God! And, as far as shouting it from the rooftops, I whole-heartedly agree. Sara and I have this conversation at least once a month. The doctor and myself are the only ones allowed to touch. And that's only if there's a problem. If there's no problem, I have no right or reason to touch, or even look for that matter. And I'm so proud of her. The doc recently quizzed her about "who can and who shouldn't". Sara was so matter of fact... she said "You (meaning dr.) and mom can look and touch, only if there's a problem." :nod: That's what these kids need to hear from their parents. They need to know it's ok to talk about, and they need to feel comfortable letting mom or dad know something is going on.

[Patti]

I'm going to possibly coin a phrase...I think it's "exploitation of victimization"...that's how I see it. There are things that have happened to me in my own life that have been just as "terrible" but I choose to only tell certain people. I'm aware it's not healthy to bottle it all in...I just don't feel the whole world needs to know about it. It doesn't define who you are.

I would totally disagree with you....sexual abuse DOES define who you are for a very long time. One of the biggest struggle survivors face is not making it the defining factor of who you are. Unless you've been there, you have no idea of what's involved in surviving sexual abuse. My sister and I were abused by my father as children and we both have spent most of our lives trying to get away from the shame and stigma. And yes, it's self-inflicted but you just can't wish it away.

I share my story with a lot of people because it's not MY shame; that belongs to my father. And also, the more publicity about sexual abuse the better. Perpetuating the secret helps no one and indeed, makes me feel the shame all over again. And Amber I, too, have met many people who have been sexually abused. I don't know if we all unknowingly are drawn to something in each other, or the fact that I DO speak about my past that makes people want to talk to me. I will never stop sharing my story, because if I can help one more person come to grips with their abuse, it's all worth it.

[DrummerDeanna]

I would totally disagree with you....sexual abuse DOES define who you are for a very long time. One of the biggest struggle survivors face is not making it the defining factor of who you are. Unless you've been there, you have no idea of what's involved in surviving sexual abuse. My sister and I were abused by my father as children and we both have spent most of our lives trying to get away from the shame and stigma. And yes, it's self-inflicted but you just can't wish it away.

I share my story with a lot of people because it's not MY shame; that belongs to my father. And also, the more publicity about sexual abuse the better. Perpetuating the secret helps no one and indeed, makes me feel the shame all over again. And Amber I, too, have met many people who have been sexually abused. I don't know if we all unknowingly are drawn to something in each other, or the fact that I DO speak about my past that makes people want to talk to me. I will never stop sharing my story, because if I can help one more person come to grips with their abuse, it's all worth it.

What an awesome post, thank you!

I, too, think it's important to speak up! My father is a convicted pedophile - he was out of the picture for most of my life and therefore I escaped the abuse.

But silence only perpetuates a vicious cycle.

SExual abuse is a gigantic problem in today's society - and the only way to combat it is to speak out!!

[jannieC]

I would totally disagree with you....sexual abuse DOES define who you are for a very long time. One of the biggest struggle survivors face is not making it the defining factor of who you are. Unless you've been there, you have no idea of what's involved in surviving sexual abuse. My sister and I were abused by my father as children and we both have spent most of our lives trying to get away from the shame and stigma. And yes, it's self-inflicted but you just can't wish it away.

I share my story with a lot of people because it's not MY shame; that belongs to my father. And also, the more publicity about sexual abuse the better. Perpetuating the secret helps no one and indeed, makes me feel the shame all over again. And Amber I, too, have met many people who have been sexually abused. I don't know if we all unknowingly are drawn to something in each other, or the fact that I DO speak about my past that makes people want to talk to me. I will never stop sharing my story, because if I can help one more person come to grips with their abuse, it's all worth it.
What an excellent post. I am hoping to specialize in working with sexual abuse/incest survivors when I finish school, so I've been following this thread with interest. I think it is so important that women (famous and not famous) are able to speak out loud about their experiences. Sharing these experiences make other survivors feel less alone and different. :xoxo:

[DrummerDeanna]

What an excellent post. I am hoping to specialize in working with sexual abuse/incest survivors when I finish school, so I've been following this thread with interest. I think it is so important that women (famous and not famous) are able to speak out loud about their experiences. Sharing these experiences make other survivors feel less alone and different. :xoxo:


AND Men!! :nod: I have several male friends who were molested as children. And...as per the cycle thing - I forgot to mention, my father was molested by a priest as a child - but in those days you absolutely didn't say ANYTHING and if you did no one would believe you because...hey! It's a priest...so boom...a cycle is perpetuated.

[jannieC]

AND Men!! :nod: I have several male friends who were molested as children. And...as per the cycle thing - I forgot to mention, my father was molested by a priest as a child - but in those days you absolutely didn't say ANYTHING and if you did no one would believe you because...hey! It's a priest...so boom...a cycle is perpetuated.
Yes, yes- you're absolutely right. xo

[SuzeQuze]

I would totally disagree with you....sexual abuse DOES define who you are for a very long time. One of the biggest struggle survivors face is not making it the defining factor of who you are. Unless you've been there, you have no idea of what's involved in surviving sexual abuse. My sister and I were abused by my father as children and we both have spent most of our lives trying to get away from the shame and stigma. And yes, it's self-inflicted but you just can't wish it away.

I share my story with a lot of people because it's not MY shame; that belongs to my father. And also, the more publicity about sexual abuse the better. Perpetuating the secret helps no one and indeed, makes me feel the shame all over again. And Amber I, too, have met many people who have been sexually abused. I don't know if we all unknowingly are drawn to something in each other, or the fact that I DO speak about my past that makes people want to talk to me. I will never stop sharing my story, because if I can help one more person come to grips with their abuse, it's all worth it.

I'm sorry to read you were abused. :( I am glad you have the courage to speak out about it.

My Mom's best friend was abused by older brothers and she has just now, in her mid fifties, been able to have a fairly healthy relationship with a non-abusive man. She got her nursing degree years ago and finally got away from her manipulative, abusive husband for good about 5 years ago. She is an inspiration. If that woman can even get out of bed in the morning, never mind all she accomplishes, it is a miracle. She works with adolescents in crisis as a psychiatric nurse. I don't know how she does it to be honest.

[Patti]

Suze, that's great about your mom's friend. It gives me hope, since I have yet to have a healthy relationship. My marriage was very long and in a lot of ways, very lousy. He was emotionally abusive to the extreme and I feel fortunate that I was finally able to find the strength to leave.

Jannie, best of luck to you in your career. You will have a special place in my heart. :xoxo:

Deanna, I'm glad your dad is behind bars. He deserves to be there. I'm glad you weren't one of his victims.

[Brwn_eyes0511]

I agree, shout it from the rooftops. The shame lies with the perpetrator, or it should. But people need to do what they are comfortable with.

Brown Eyes, I read about how she hadn't written about it in the book in Vanity Fair, did you not see that article? It is a must read for a Teri fan. I'm not a huge fan but I do like her, even though she doesn't appear to eat food. During the interview she could not stop crying because a big love interest had just dumped her. The rumor is it was Clooney. Whoever it was just sort of disappeared, stopped calling. I felt bad for her but I bet she is fine now.

I'll have to get that from ebay..

And her and Clooney did NOT date! :lol: This was cleared up yesterday on Oprah.. as was the plastic surgery rumours and the "why are you so skinny" talk! ;)

[BTFLCHLD]

i found this article interesting with regard to the specific case
as well the issue of reporting and moving forward


well...so what you cant read them :lol:

i will upload another way :sorry:

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[mylittledemon]

I would totally disagree with you....sexual abuse DOES define who you are for a very long time. One of the biggest struggle survivors face is not making it the defining factor of who you are. Unless you've been there, you have no idea of what's involved in surviving sexual abuse.


I should have made myself more clear. I know it doesnt define who you are, because I've lived thru it. I made that semi-evident in later posts.

[JazmenFlowers]

I would totally disagree with you....sexual abuse DOES define who you are for a very long time. One of the biggest struggle survivors face is not making it the defining factor of who you are. Unless you've been there, you have no idea of what's involved in surviving sexual abuse. My sister and I were abused by my father as children and we both have spent most of our lives trying to get away from the shame and stigma. And yes, it's self-inflicted but you just can't wish it away.

I share my story with a lot of people because it's not MY shame; that belongs to my father. And also, the more publicity about sexual abuse the better. Perpetuating the secret helps no one and indeed, makes me feel the shame all over again. And Amber I, too, have met many people who have been sexually abused. I don't know if we all unknowingly are drawn to something in each other, or the fact that I DO speak about my past that makes people want to talk to me. I will never stop sharing my story, because if I can help one more person come to grips with their abuse, it's all worth it.
lord child...don't get me started! being a sexual abuse survivor, it does make you wonder what you'd be like had it never happened to you. :shrug:

[SuzeQuze]

I'll have to get that from ebay..

And her and Clooney did NOT date! :lol: This was cleared up yesterday on Oprah.. as was the plastic surgery rumours and the "why are you so skinny" talk! ;)

I wish I had seen it. So, has she had surgery and why is she so thin? Don't forget that dating, cosmetic surgery, and eating disorders are 3 things acresses lie about most. Friggin' Ally GetReal finally admitted she had an eating disorder during the show.

[Patti]

She said she is not currently dating, but wants to. The only plastic surgery she said she had was some Botox and collagen at one time, but she didn't like it. And she said she is naturally thin and has always had really skinny legs. Oprah then showed a pic of Teri from high school, when she was a cheerleader, and her legs were thin. She says she eats healthy and exercises, but just stays thin.

[Brwn_eyes0511]

I wish I had seen it. So, has she had surgery and why is she so thin? Don't forget that dating, cosmetic surgery, and eating disorders are 3 things acresses lie about most. Friggin' Ally GetReal finally admitted she had an eating disorder during the show.

Patti just explained it all above.. hehe

She stays healthy and fit by doing poll dancing.. here is an example of what she can do! haha..

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[Serrart]

I'm going to possibly coin a phrase...I think it's "exploitation of victimization"...that's how I see it. There are things that have happened to me in my own life that have been just as "terrible" but I choose to only tell certain people. I'm aware it's not healthy to bottle it all in...I just don't feel the whole world needs to know about it. It doesn't define who you are.

When you'll become a celebrity maybe your perspective might change... Maybe you would think that it could help someone lost, alonbe and afraid in the wide world to know that a rich and famous has gone through the same hell once in her /his life.

Romy

[mylittledemon]

When you'll become a celebrity maybe your perspective might change...

Romy


Is everyone just avoiding the last couple of posts I've made on this topic or what? And the above comment just cracked me up. Most celebrities live a jaded, pampered lifestyle and act as if they've got such a tough life. Gimme a break. Must be tough making millions. I didn't say they don't have feelings...but perspective? Pfft...sure.

[Serrart]

Is everyone just avoiding the last couple of posts I've made on this topic or what? And the above comment just cracked me up. Most celebrities live a jaded, pampered lifestyle and act as if they've got such a tough life. Gimme a break. Must be tough making millions. I didn't say they don't have feelings...but perspective? Pfft...sure.

I'm sure many have pampered lifestyles, many are shamelessly spoiled, and some others aren't. Many can't put two words together without a press agent and some others are brilliant and toughtful people. The 'rich and famous' label is a deification invented by industries and tabloids, to see them as an entity just help to create the positive or negative cult. I just think they got to be seen one by one.

Romy