they say it only comes when you don't want it...

[all the same]

...but i've been pretending i don't want it my entire life. how do you make yourself just not want it? it seems so simple but so impossible. what do i gotta do?

[sara1998]

...but i've been pretending i don't want it my entire life. how do you make yourself just not want it? it seems so simple but so impossible. what do i gotta do?
put it out of your mind. whatever happens, happens. :shrug:

[WildInTheWind]

What exactly is "it"? I can't really give advice or an opinion without know what it is.

[skcin]

Relax, sweetie. You'll get your period one of these days.

[all the same]

Relax, sweetie. You'll get your period one of these days.

but i'm too young to be pregnant! i have my whole life ahead of me! :lol: :laugh:

thanks for making me laugh. i needed it.

[GateandGarden]

Relax, sweetie. You'll get your period one of these days.:lol::lol: +100

[all the same]

What exactly is "it"? I can't really give advice or an opinion without know what it is.

just me wallowing in self pity over my lack of a sex life, that's all.

[all the same]

:lol::lol: +100

nice! you dropped the horse face and added PJ HARVEY!!! Well done!

[GateandGarden]

nice! you dropped the horse face and added PJ HARVEY!!! Well done!:p:p:p

Well, I'm glad you like it. :) The lyric from "The Letter" was added with my Ledgie crush in mind. :D

[DavidMn]

just me wallowing in self pity over my lack of a sex life, that's all.
You know, I said that until I was 26. Boy then all hell broke loose. :rolleyes: :lol:

[mylittledemon]

You know, I said that until I was 26. Boy then all hell broke loose. :rolleyes: :lol:

26!?!!!!!!!!!!!! I am 26 now. Lost my virginity when I was 18...and boy I was ready to blow. I had so many hormones racing thru me then it was enough to kill a horse. There is NO WAY I could've made it that long. I commend you.

[DavidMn]

26!?!!!!!!!!!!!! I am 26 now. Lost my virginity when I was 18...and boy I was ready to blow. I had so many hormones racing thru me then it was enough to kill a horse. There is NO WAY I could've made it that long. I commend you.
Thanks, I appriciate it. sometimes I regret waiting that long, but I guess I'm glad I did.

[WildInTheWind]

just me wallowing in self pity over my lack of a sex life, that's all.


I see. I didn't get any until I was 19. I don't know how old you are, but I'm sure you'll get some sooner or later! After I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years I had close to a year long drought. It sucked but now I have a new boyfriend and all is good :)

[DavidMn]

I see. I didn't get any until I was 19. I don't know how old you are, but I'm sure you'll get some sooner or later! After I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years I had close to a year long drought. It sucked but now I have a new boyfriend and all is good :)
Cool. I'm happy for ya. :D

[WildInTheWind]

Cool. I'm happy for ya. :D

Why thank you. :thumbsup:

[DavidMn]

Why thank you. :thumbsup:
I wish I could say the same thing about my relationship status. It's a long story, but suffice it to say, I admit fault in it too.

[WildInTheWind]

I wish I could say the same thing about my relationship status. It's a long story, but suffice it to say, I admit fault in it too.
Awww....I'm sorry to hear that. :(

[lagringader&r]

...but i've been pretending i don't want it my entire life. how do you make yourself just not want it? it seems so simple but so impossible. what do i gotta do?

Say out loud "I'm never going to have sex or fall in love" and you'll find it within a week. Guaranteed.

[bikerchic]

Coming from a 41 year old heterosexual woman, sex only gets better with age JMO :nod: :xoxo:

[WildInTheWind]

Say out loud "I'm never going to have sex or fall in love" and you'll find it within a week. Guaranteed.

Funny how that works, isn't it? It's so true. Though it can be a bad thing...like "I have never been called for jury duty". And do you know where I was today? Yep.

[DavidMn]

Awww....I'm sorry to hear that. :(
Hey thank you for the support. Men are such asses sometimes, arent they. But when they're good, they are very good...... ;)

[WildInTheWind]

Hey thank you for the support. Men are such asses sometimes, arent they. But when they're good, they are very good...... ;)

This is true! The one I have hasn't been an ass YET. It's been almost 7 months, so I'm sure it is coming soon. The one before him was 4 years of total asshole. I was so glad to finally see him gone :)

[DavidMn]

This is true! The one I have hasn't been an ass YET. It's been almost 7 months, so I'm sure it is coming soon. The one before him was 4 years of total asshole. I was so glad to finally see him gone :)
Well, I'm glad you got rid of him before something bad happened. The thing I hate about gay men is that they're soooo F^^ing dramatic sometimes. :distress: NOt that I'm not prone to that once in awhile, but this guy I'm with now, although he's really a good guy overall, just drives me nuts sometimes. Sounds like fun huh? :woohoo:

[all the same]

You know, I said that until I was 26. Boy then all hell broke loose. :rolleyes: :lol:

Funny. I was 26 too. Not by choice at all. It just sorta happened that way. All hell most certainly did not break loose after that. I guess I just have no idea how all these things work and the older i get, the more weird i get about it all. In the words of Morrissey "The story is old, I know, but it goes on..."

[DavidMn]

Funny. I was 26 too. Not by choice at all. It just sorta happened that way. All hell most certainly did not break loose after that. I guess I just have no idea how all these things work and the older i get, the more weird i get about it all. In the words of Morrissey "The story is old, I know, but it goes on..."
Well, I was sorta kidding with the "All hell broke loose" thing. I mean I havent been with like 400 guys, but for a little while there it was interesting. I guess it's from that pent up energy.

[all the same]

Well, I was sorta kidding with the "All hell broke loose" thing. I mean I havent been with like 400 guys, but for a little while there it was interesting. I guess it's from that pent up energy.

Oh, I've got plenty of pent up energy...

why did you give me so much desire?
when there is nowhere I can go
to offload this desire?
and why did you give me so much love
in a loveless world?
when there is no one I can turn to
to unlock all this love

and why did you stick me in
self-deprecating bones and skin
Jesus - do you hate me?
why did you stick me in
self-deprecating bones and skin
... do you hate me?

MORRISSEY

[Johnny Stew]

What a weird coincidence... I was 26 my first time, too.
I had a lot of stuff to work through (and was still working through a few things even at that time), so I think I made the right decision waiting as long as I did.

I don't regret it... I've always been a quality over quantity kind of guy anyway.

Daniel, if it's a relationship you're looking for, I will say this from experience....
"Good things come to those who wait."
I used to always hate hearing that, but it's true. :D
Try not to dwell on it too much, remind yourself that "what will be, will be," and focus your energies on things that you enjoy. It'll find you when it's time.

But if it's just sex you're looking for... well, that seems extremely easy to find.

[markolas]

But if it's just sex you're looking for... well, that seems extremely easy to find.

Not *good* sex, apparently. :distress: :laugh:

[ontheEdgeof17]

Coming from a 41 year old heterosexual woman, sex only gets better with age JMO :nod: :xoxo:


heterosexual. woman. sex.


Three words that should never be spoken in the same breath. :lol: :lol:

[all the same]

But if it's just sex you're looking for... well, that seems extremely easy to find.


Weird, we've got a pile of 26-ers in the house!

I've been down the just sex path and was left feeling far more empty afterward than I did going in. So, I won't go there again. A client of mine found love for the first time at 40. So, I may just have to wait... and wait... and wait... In all honesty though, I don't want a relationship that often, but when I do, it becomes quite overwhelming.

Once again, to quote Morrissey: "My love, wherever you are, whatever you are, don't lose faith. I know it's gonna happen some day to you. Please wait. Don't lose faith."

[ontheEdgeof17]

Say out loud "I'm never going to have sex or fall in love" and you'll find it within a week. Guaranteed.



I agree with this. I wasn't even interested in finding anyone and BAM! Now he is all I can think about it. :Le sigh:

[all the same]

I agree with this. I wasn't even interested in finding anyone and BAM! Now he is all I can think about it. :Le sigh:


As Rick Astley swells in the background "Together forever and never to part. together forever we two. and don't you know i would move heaven and earth to be together forever with you..." Could I have chosen a more cheesy song? Yup. Pretty pleased with myself right now. :p

[WildInTheWind]

Well, I'm glad you got rid of him before something bad happened. The thing I hate about gay men is that they're soooo F^^ing dramatic sometimes. :distress: NOt that I'm not prone to that once in awhile, but this guy I'm with now, although he's really a good guy overall, just drives me nuts sometimes. Sounds like fun huh? :woohoo:

Well bad things did happen....he moved out of my house and into the state pen. Not only gay men are dramatic. My ex was a total drama queen. Kind of reversed roles I guess. I just wanted him to shut up half the time! Well....most of the time.

[ontheEdgeof17]

Could I have chosen a more cheesy song?

Love Can Build A Bridge. :rolleyes:

[all the same]

Love Can Build A Bridge. :rolleyes:

:lol: :laugh: :lol: :laugh: :lol: :laugh:

And it's so appropriate! :p

[amber]

I agree with this. I wasn't even interested in finding anyone and BAM! Now he is all I can think about it. :Le sigh:
I like how you're french. I was french earlier today to. It's fun, no?

[ontheEdgeof17]

:lol: :laugh: :lol: :laugh: :lol: :laugh:

And it's so appropriate! :p


Everytime I think of that song, I see Zitney's performance of it on Star Search (that they show over and over and over)....with that terrible low howl she does in the end....and it looks like she is going into seizures.


"Innnn thheee power of LUUAHHHH AH OH AH OH" :gag:

[all the same]

Everytime I think of that song, I see Zitney's performance of it on Star Search (that they show over and over and over)....with that terrible low howl she does in the end....and it looks like she is going into seizures.


"Innnn thheee power of LUUAHHHH AH OH AH OH" :gag:

And how overy wobbly her voice was! She seriously sniffs! :lol:

[ontheEdgeof17]

I like how you're french. I was french earlier today to. It's fun, no?


Oui Oui. -puts on a beret-

[all the same]

Curtis, Misty Blue just came on my iTunes "Just the thought of you and my whole world turns misty blue..." I love that song!

[amber]

Oui Oui. -puts on a beret-
:laugh:

- puts on disdainful attitude: :cool:

[all the same]

I like how you're french. I was french earlier today to. It's fun, no?

Oui oui! J'aime le pamplemouse et le jambon! Le poulet dans le rue!

For those of you who actually speak french, what I have said makes absolutely no sense!

[strandinthewind]

I agree with this. I wasn't even interested in finding anyone and BAM! Now he is all I can think about it. :Le sigh:

I have to say I agree. I go years. I am not really into dating at all. But, when it happens to me, it is a loping down the halls belting SYW and My Heart for days. I am such a freak :laugh:

[dissention]

I have to say I agree. I go years. I am not really into dating at all. But, when it happens to me, it is a loping down the halls belting SYW and My Heart for days. I am such a freak :laugh:

Fech. I should have told you to sing better songs. :p :laugh:

[strandinthewind]

Fech. I should have told you to sing better songs. :p :laugh:

Your mouth was full at the time :wavey:

[markolas]

I have to say I agree. I go years. I am not really into dating at all. But, when it happens to me, it is a loping down the halls belting SYW and My Heart for days. I am such a freak :laugh:

I went years. Then I was in a relationship for a while. Now, it's only been a couple of weeks and I feel like I'm going to *explode*. I don't even want a serious relationship. Just a FWB would be nice. :D

[strandinthewind]

I went years. Then I was in a relationship for a while. Now, it's only been a couple of weeks and I feel like I'm going to *explode*. I don't even want a serious relationship. Just a FWB would be nice. :D


Well, my last one and I took YEARS to break up :laugh: But, I met someone recently - so we shall see. I, too, am not really into the whole living in the same house we are so serious you are the apple of my eye kind of thing - I have done that. But, I could be persuaded :cool:

[dissention]

Well, my last one and I took YEARS to break up :laugh: But, I met someone recently - so we shall see. I, too, am not really into the whole living in the same house we are so serious you are the apple of my eye kind of thing - I have done that. But, I could be persuaded :cool:

I couldn't. Ugh, that kind of stuff makes me ralph. :laugh: I've lived with people before and I hated it. It's not for me.

[bikerchic]

heterosexual. woman. sex.


Three words that should never be spoken in the same breath. :lol: :lol:
Oh Curtis, you are too funny :laugh: :laugh:

[strandinthewind]

I couldn't. Ugh, that kind of stuff makes me ralph. :laugh: I've lived with people before and I hated it. It's not for me.


More evidence we are perfect for each other :eek:

[macfanken]

...but i've been pretending i don't want it my entire life. how do you make yourself just not want it? it seems so simple but so impossible. what do i gotta do?


I always thought it was a cliche... but now I'm thinking it's true... it'll happen when you're not expecting it or looking for it. You don't have to pretend you don't want it... that might give off the wrong vibe... just don't look too hard for it. (I'm assuming "it" is a relationship, not just sex!) You're a great guy, definitely a catch for someone... it'll happen.

[DavidMn]

What a weird coincidence... I was 26 my first time, too.
I had a lot of stuff to work through (and was still working through a few things even at that time), so I think I made the right decision waiting as long as I did.

I don't regret it... I've always been a quality over quantity kind of guy anyway.

Daniel, if it's a relationship you're looking for, I will say this from experience....
"Good things come to those who wait."
I used to always hate hearing that, but it's true. :D
Try not to dwell on it too much, remind yourself that "what will be, will be," and focus your energies on things that you enjoy. It'll find you when it's time.

But if it's just sex you're looking for... well, that seems extremely easy to find.Very well said. :)

[DavidMn]

Well bad things did happen....he moved out of my house and into the state pen. Not only gay men are dramatic. My ex was a total drama queen. Kind of reversed roles I guess. I just wanted him to shut up half the time! Well....most of the time.
Well, I've never been the slammer, so I guess I wont complain much anymore, that sucks that that happened to you

[all the same]

I always thought it was a cliche... but now I'm thinking it's true... it'll happen when you're not expecting it or looking for it. You don't have to pretend you don't want it... that might give off the wrong vibe... just don't look too hard for it. (I'm assuming "it" is a relationship, not just sex!) You're a great guy, definitely a catch for someone... it'll happen.

thanks ****face! :lol:

[markolas]

Meh...right now I just want somebody to give me the Big O. Like, really bad. :sorry: :D

[ontheEdgeof17]

Meh...right now I just want somebody to give me the Big O. Like, really bad. :sorry: :D


Looks like Max Wright from ALF is available.

[michelle2677]

Meh...right now I just want somebody to give me the Big O. Like, really bad. :sorry: :D

No ****..I tried that...didn't work out*LOL* for me anyway...he was lucky enough to have a good time tho *L*

[michelle2677]

Looks like Max Wright from ALF is available.

:lol: yeah, but they'd probably have to be his "prison bitch" for awhile *L*

[markolas]

Looks like Max Wright from ALF is available.

Nah...I've decided I don't want to date guys that old anymore. :p :laugh:

[BTFLCHLD]

I couldn't. Ugh, that kind of stuff makes me ralph. :laugh: I've lived with people before and I hated it. It's not for me. i think youd make an exception...
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[WildInTheWind]

Well, I've never been the slammer, so I guess I wont complain much anymore, that sucks that that happened to you
Complain away! Everyone has there own set of problems...if it's a problem for you, it is perfectly fine to complain about! :)

[macfanken]

thanks ****face! :lol:


Anytime scrote-lick! :angel:

[all the same]

Anytime scrote-lick! :angel:

:lol: :laugh: :lol: you're always there for me when i need you, ass rammer! :lol: :laugh: :lol:

[Jessica Leigh]

Relax, sweetie. You'll get your period one of these days.

LMAO i was thinking the same exact thing.

[Jessica Leigh]

Coming from a 41 year old heterosexual woman, sex only gets better with age JMO :nod: :xoxo:

is it true that your sex drive gets so crazy in your 30s and 40s that you want to pull your hair out?

[SuzeQuze]

is it true that your sex drive gets so crazy in your 30s and 40s that you want to pull your hair out?

Yes. Okay, not quite that bad, hehe. I'm the type who doesn't have a very big drive until there is an object for my fancy then it is outta control, like right now. I have a temp BF (sort of) who is moving to Oregon on Thurs. I sure know how to pick 'em! I'm not even sure we are compatible but there is so much passion there that it is intoxicating.

[bikerchic]

is it true that your sex drive gets so crazy in your 30s and 40s that you want to pull your hair out?
40's yes. Pull my hair out, not quite. Let's just say that in my 40's, I have opened my mind to more avenue's ;)