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And yes, I'm very, very thankful to live in an era of plumbing and tampons. I really can't imagine how women did it. But I'm guessing our granddaughters will say the same about us in 60 years. |
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And I've had the occasional stranger in a ladies room ask me for a pad or tampon. Really nothing anyone gets fussed about! |
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1. Name 1 or 2 times that stand out in your memory as something good you did to help someone that showed a positive result quickly . * 2. Did you ever accidentally 'walk in' on either parent when they were naked, and/or having sex? Were you traumatized? Were they? My answers: 1. One time that first comes to mind has to do with one of the sons of my sister. He was maybe 8 years old and feeling badly because he was far behind his peers with being able to read well. His parents were having all kinds of tests done, taking him to specialists, had meetings at the school with his advisor, and he had a tutor. His mom was on the phone with the school and I was down the hall with him. His little face was all distraught because he knew he was being talked about, again. I told him "Don't worry so much about it, they're making too big of a deal out of it. It just takes a while sometimes for your brain to catch up with you. It will. Relax and don't feel bad about it, and don't ever feel bad about yourself. You'll be reading soon and it will be like nothing. You won't even have to try. It will come very naturally to you, when you're ready. Until then, let 'em wait!" (meaning his parents and teachers, tutor and advisor at the school). He smiled, maybe a little chuckle at "Let 'em wait." I saw him 2 weeks later and he was reading beautifully like it had never been a problem. His self-esteem generally seemed 'right there' and he wasn't an insecure child from that point on. Of course, the efforts of his parents and teachers helped him along greatly, I'm sure, but I think I 'gave' him something they hadn't. * 2. I walked in the room once when my mom was undressed, I was maybe 11, and I turned and closed the door and walked away. As I was leaving she called out "I'm sorry" and that was that, no trauma. In fact, a couple minutes later, I went outside, where I knew she wouldn't hear me, because I knew I was going to laugh. I did. Thankfully, no, never did walk in on my parents having sex. I heard them once, and thought 'ick', 'yuck', 'How dare they?- it's daytime'. I was a little older, 13 or 14. Last edited by Nikolaj; 12-10-2010 at 01:30 AM.. |
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I always figured you could FEEL that something was in there, all the time. I guess it makes sense, that pulling a dry(er) one out, would be a little more painful.... |
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And on walking in on your parents, mine divorced when I was nine. But, when I was about 13, I remember walking into my Mom's room, trying to make her get up, to cook me breakfast. Well, I yanked the covers off of her, and although she was alone, her short nightgown was pulled up. Way up. I can only assume she had been masturbating.....
Thanks a LOT, for making me remember THAT!!! |
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^^ I bathed with my mother and my sister at the same time in the same bathtub until I was... 7 (or thereabouts). I am forever traumatized.
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^ Hejira, was your sister older? Somehow, I think it would have been less traumatizing if she were younger than you. I'm guessing you were younger. I could be totally wrong!
Your mom must have been very progressive. Or, maybe it was a practice of 'the old country'-- that's what my relatives called our birthplace, at least. Your memory of her 'stash' of pads gels with my memory of my Mom, also in the 1970s. I remember that they were these HUGE boxes that said 'Modess' on the outside; which made me think of 'modest' and I thought, 'well, modest maybe, but definitely not discreet!' Last edited by Nikolaj; 12-10-2010 at 01:37 AM.. |
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-John You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn't mean you're defective - it just means you're human.
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Another embarrassing story of when I was 12. My sister dressed me up in drag and then took pictures of me. My mom then had those pictures developed and thought they were the greatest thing ever and loved to pull them out and show people. I confiscated those pics tho and now have them stored away somewhere. It's funny to me now, but back then I hated ever posing for those pics!
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-John You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn't mean you're defective - it just means you're human.
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Thanks, a perfectlie. Yes, I think we need to see a specialist or another doctor, but she's burnt out on doctors. She's almost 75, I meant "in her 70s"-- I am wondering about her kidneys, already. She's lost so much weight in one year. Though it has stabilized, she's too thin. While a specialist would be good, it is hard enough for me to get my parents to keep their appointments- Elderly people either are very good about keeping their appointments, or tend to cancel, or postpone them. My parents fall into the latter category. But, it's good to hear your perspective. My sister (older than me, and states away from us) wants us to get my mother on the pump, also. I suspect her doctor is maybe being lazy. Last edited by Nikolaj; 12-10-2010 at 01:23 AM.. |
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APerfectLie- funny about your sister- My sister, 5 years older than me, dressed me up as a girl once when I was about 6. My sister got punished, and my mother said in very hushed tones "I know you did that as a joke, but you will never do it again. I want you to repeat after me: I will never do it again". Dutiful son: "I will never do it again." I never did. It never has been discussed by my mom, my sister, or me. Until tonight on The Ledge! Ha! My father never said a word about it to me, I would bet that my mother didn't tell him. I think she knew she had 'a problem' on her hands and had no idea what to do about it. It just wasn't accepted in the 1970s. Last edited by Nikolaj; 12-10-2010 at 12:32 AM.. |
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I had a pretty good childhood, but I'd never want to go through it, again. If I could go back in time, I might go to 16 or so, but not before that. |
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-John You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn't mean you're defective - it just means you're human.
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Thanks for the many answers on the Tampons. They sound popular. Confusing, though.
I'd think it would make walking strange. Is a woman able to tell when looking at another woman walk 'Oh yeah, she's got a tampon in?' I'd have no idea. Does it ever fall out if you run to catch an elevator, a train, a bus, for any reason? And, what if you're on a rollercoaster, and sometimes they go upside down? If it fell out, would it fly up to your neck after it fell down to your ankles? You can get toxic schock if you forget to take it out? Dang. Do you pull the string to take it out? Why a string and not a small, thin handle? What if the string breaks? Can you attach another string from an unused one, but then what do you do with the one with no string? I guess you can go into a swimming pool with them, I seem to remember television commercials that said you could swim, play tennis, go bowling, horseback riding. But wouldn't high tide at the ocean definitely knock it out? Later tv commercials mentioned some of them having "wings"-- Wings? Maybe that was just a phase. What would wings do? Make it easier to remove? Every month for a week? I guess men should be nicer to women. I'm sorry, I just find it mysterious. Ok- last thing- it does seem like the dozen responses or so maybe have stopped- but there's a contraceptive sponge, right? Wouldn't a box of appropriately shaped sponges on a coated string be a better and more economical solution, and you'd be able to wash the sponges in warm soapy water, let air dry like pantyhose, maybe even in the pantyhose, and then reuse the sponges every month? I think a woman should perfect these ideas invented by men a century ago and make a mint making the lives of women easier every month. Last edited by Nikolaj; 12-10-2010 at 03:36 AM.. |
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