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I think the Margaret Cho quote just about sums it all up for me (Well only if gin or vodka are involved, which isn't much these days). Ya know, after I typed my story I felt better, just getting it out helped. If I had been in this same situation 10 years ago I would probably be out of my mind right now. I am very lucky that I have a strong foundation and know this isn't the end of the world. I feel for younger people or any other folks that can't process this kind of thing like I can or have NO ONE, not even an internet buddy, who they can share with . I can for a second see why people consider suicide...but it gets better! It's gonna take folks like us reaching out and putting a little bit of ourselves out there by sharing experiences and helping increase openmindness in order to make a difference...that's what It Gets Better is about. Don't worry about me deary, I mostly wanted to share with people the way I was treated and talked about by the "mean" girls. I am strong. I am WOMAN hear me roar!!!!
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But I am so glad you are doing awesome, and I hope that It Gets Better helps at least ONE kid. But hopefully many more than that.
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I think this project is a joke. Typical of Dan Savage. A friend of mine walked out on him during a speech he gave at my college, because Dan Savage insisted it was the duty of all gay people to come out of the closet. Some people aren't fortunate enough to have that as an option. That's the kind of presumptuous, classist perspective that Dan Savage continues to propogate in his disingenuous "It Gets Better" campaign--maybe for rich white gay men like himself.
I'm sorry, but gay people are just as cruel to other gays as homophobes are--gays kill each other with AIDS, gays use each other sexually, gays glamourize a lifestyle of self-destruction and drugs, gays establish unrealistic beauty standards, gays demand total subservience to the Gay Political Agenda, gays ostracize those who are different or unattractive or (among gay men) too feminine. I'm sure much of this comes from an internalized, learned homophobia and persistent low self-esteem, but to pretend "It Gets Better" doesn't deal with the problem that when gay people survive the pain of adolescence and (often) small-town ignorance, they rarely find in the gay community or urban enclaves a protective, tolerant embrace that fosters kindness to each other and provides the tools to deal with a homophobic culture that exists outside of "small-town" American and is, in fact, PRODUCED in our cultural centers (from Harvard to NYC to Hollywood to DC). To paraphrase Will Ferrell: "Dan Savage can suck it!" ETA: I see I was being somewhat redundant to some of the sentiments expressed in the thread. So I'd also like to add that I'm annoyed by the celebro-centric nature of the campaign. All it does is raise celebrity as a value (another fallacy celebrated in Gay Hegemony) instead of the real value (pop) artists could provide: in making art that challenges hetero and homo hegemony. Do any of these people use their influence to promote or even distribute movies like those by Julian Hernandez? No. Because he's not favored by the media power centers, to which they insist you bow--if you want "it" to "get better."
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But I'm glad I didn't come across that way, anyway - I was just checking, because while I am likely not known for being overly friendly, when I offend people, I tend to want to do it on purpose, and it's mostly done for a reason (even if the reason is "Annie's bored," though I usually have a better reason than that). I don't like offending people not-on-purpose, and try to avoid that when possible. Quote:
At the same time, I can't agree with the idea that telling kids that it gets better - because it DOES get better for a lot of people, so why not you or you or you? - is an entirely bad thing. The idea that my life would probably not be so damn awful when I got older got me through a lot of what was an admittedly ****ty childhood (not only school bullying, but my family situation, which was...not good). Did it get super-fantastic? No, not yet. But it's still better than it was. And maybe it will be super-fantastic later, if I am lucky. If not, at least it's still better than it was. And I do know that is not reality for everyone, or going to be true for everyone. But I don't think being offered a little hope when you have none of your own is an entirely bad thing - and those kids can't get to those urban enclaves that aren't going to be as great as they thought if they don't make it through the right now and stick around for it, anyway. Perhaps there needs to be a companion movement of some sort that promotes tolerance within the community itself, as well? What do you think would work or help? As for the celebrity-centric nature of the project, I think that was just bound to happen, and I'm not sure that's entirely bad, either. As kids, we look up to those celebrities, and I imagine it helps some kids to see that it's possible to be both gay and "successful." Looking at it from purely an adult point of view, though, yes - we should be working to foster that environment that you described, absolutely. But in the meantime, making a little video that will maybe help a suicidal teen doesn't seem like it would be a complete derailment.
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TrueFaith originally wrote:
I'm sorry, but gay people are just as cruel to other gays as homophobes are--gays kill each other with AIDS, gays use each other sexually, gays glamourize a lifestyle of self-destruction and drugs, gays establish unrealistic beauty standards, gays demand total subservience to the Gay Political Agenda, gays ostracize those who are different or unattractive or (among gay men) too feminine. I'm sure much of this comes from an internalized, learned homophobia and persistent low self-esteem, but to pretend "It Gets Better" doesn't deal with the problem that when gay people survive the pain of adolescence and (often) small-town ignorance, they rarely find in the gay community or urban enclaves a protective, tolerant embrace that fosters kindness to each other and provides the tools to deal with a homophobic culture that exists outside of "small-town" American and is, in fact, PRODUCED in our cultural centers (from Harvard to NYC to Hollywood to DC). [/I] *** I have to say that it was brave of TrueFaith to tell it like it is and to share unpopular truths. One part I disagree with is that 'gays glamourize a lifestyle of self-destruction and drugs' any more so than the straight club partiers do. The rest I found quite spot on. What is it with the cruelty thing, anyway, that many gays have towards other gays beyond the two points TrueFaith mentioned- 'learned homophobia' and 'persisistent low self-esteem?' It is so unenlightened, and catty behavior sure can keep progress a ways off. In the 60s, civil rights groups and women's rights advocates both worked at their separate causes, with neither group tearing it's own members apart, they had work to do, got it done, and look at the progress both groups made. Both can be used as examples to illustrate how far gay rights haven't come, comparatively, and how divided some gays still remain against other gays. TrueFaith said it better. Perhaps unrelated- but does else anyone think Kathy Griffin (who is funny) crosses a line between 'appealing' to gays and 'pandering' to gays, and with a slightly hypocritical slant? In season 1 or 2 of her show, she rolled her eyes and made a revealing comment at the thought of a homosexual man perhaps being "religious", like it was an impossibility. Nobody caught it. But she was perpetuating a really unfortunate opinion that gay men can't have a relationship with God because of the very fact that they are gay, which is an incredibly bigoted thing to imply. Her use of "My gays" --is that not pandering? Yet, so many gay men love that. I have a friend who for years now has followed her to all of her many live performances, city by city, throughout the US. She writes new material constantly, from what he tells me, and she's a funny 50-something lady for sure, but I think she exploits her gay audience and really has some of the same cruel attitudes towards gays as homophobes do, but covers it up with humor that appeals to gays, even though sometimes she shows her true feelings about homosexuality, which seem unevolved. Oh well. Not the point I wanted to make. I think TrueFaith brought up a lot of important issues in why he hates the 'It Gets Better' guy. I still hope the program helps some who need assurance, but though I support it more than not, it does seem to be a shallow grab for media attention more so than really helpful, or accurate, for reasons TrueFaith stated well. Last edited by Nikolaj; 11-02-2010 at 11:15 PM.. |
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While I find the intent behind some of this work commendable, I'm getting worried that people are starting to get involved because it's the "trendy" thing to do. Not that even that is such a bad thing, but as has been brought up since the beginning, these types of situations haven't just sprung up wildly recently, they've been covered by the media in such a way that attention is being brought onto them. And that is GREAT. But when you consider that someone like Daniel Radcliffe, a straight young actor known for playing one of the most popular children's literature characters of at least his generation, has been working closely with and speaking for the Trevor Project for ages before this, it kind of makes you wonder where all of these other people have been. I'm a very gray person, so again, I do think it's great that these issues ARE getting attention now and that people who are in the position to make people listen are speaking out and sharing their stories, it just makes me wonder if this support will start to fall away as quickly as it arose. These videos may help to alleviate the pain by providing support and hope and in some cases, advise, but there's a lot more that needs to be done in a situation like this, things that require more than making a video and putting it up on YouTube, and I hope at least a percentage of these people who have been speaking out are planning to continue to take action and awareness when this inevitably starts to quiet.
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