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So, to answer your question...yes I probably would be mad. Most guys tend to get protective and jealous in those situations, and I'm one of them. But, I'd probably forgive you after you let me touch your boobies, and then maybe have some sweaty pig-sex. ROFL!
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^ Now what would hubby think if I let you touch my boobies .
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Hmm.. I think my train of thought on this would be right along yours, Paula. To me, sleeping in the same bed as a gay guy is akin to sleeping with a girlfriend. IE, just not a threat. But I wonder if your hubby wasn't so upset about that than he was at the fact that he found out in front of your other mutual friends? Maybe he felt a little embarrassed. Just a theory i throw out there. I'd definitely be jealous if my boyfriend or hubby slept in the same bed as another hetro girl - but if he slept in the same bed as a gay girl? I don't think I'd be upset. Actually, I know I wouldn't be. It's not like a gay person just chooses to be gay one minute and chooses not to be gay another (sorry, that would be me stating the obvious). Either way, sorry to hear you got into it over this... did you have great make-up sex at least??
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Sorry, Miss P, *hehehehe*, but I think he had a rare case of TIHS right then.
(totally illogical husband syndrome). I don't think I would care, either, if my husband shared a bed with a hot lesbian, because, in both cases, no one is getting any, no matter how hot they are. Even if your husband was attracted to said theoretical hot lesbian, or you were attracted to Ryan, still nothing would happen, and you'd both (in theory) still be attracted to said gay people whether you slept on a cot or in the bed. I think it's nice you compromised with your husband, though. |
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I am just about the least jealous person there is. I wouldn't be upset if I knew the gay guy, but if I didn't there might be the sneaking suspicion that this guy is not have any loyalty to a friendship with me & might be pretending to be gay to get into bed with my girlfriend. In any event, you are wise to have told your husband it won't happen again if for no other reason than that it upsets him. - Jake
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I think the best way to handle it would be to understand that his feelings are valid TO HIM, and that you will respect his discomfort and not do it again.
That being said, I don't think that it would be something that I would be upset about because there is no threat of anything physical happening. To me, I think the determining issue would be whether or not it places you in a vulnerable position (i.e. one where you would be likely to be unfaithful in some respect). Which in this case is NO. Do I get jealous when my boyfriend goes out to the bars or even a strip club on a "Guys-Nite-Out"? NO. Provided there is no lap dances. Do I get pissed off when my boyfriend suggests meeting for dinner and drinks with a girl that he used to date while in Washington D.C. for business? YES. Especially with the knowlege imparted by my oh so upfront boyfriend that they had amazing sex. Why create a situation where you know that you might be tempted to cheat? Its better to avoid those situations all together, IMO.
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I was thinking along the same lines as Cat, in that perhaps he was more embarrassed by "finding out" in front of other people (even though you probably had mentioned it, and it went in one of his ears and out the other), so he reacted the way he did more out of embarrassment than jealousy.
Then again... if I remember correctly from the pics you guys posted, Ryan's hot. Maybe your husband was insecure about the fact that you were sharing a bed with a hot guy, even if he does happen to be gay!
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It wasn't me who took 1 1/2 hours to get ready to leave. That belongs to your "other". ...and I'm sorry to hear your hubby got mad. I can vouch for ya since Ry was asleep hours before we were. Like someone else said, he could just be jealous of the Mac bond you share with others. Just assure him that there are bonds between you two that only you two have....and that's more special than anything else.
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Well, my initial knee-jerk reaction was to think your husband was a jealous lout, but I can kinda see where he is coming from. Obviously Ryan is not into girls (no offense, Ryan ) but you are obviously a heterosexual female. And as much as gay guys can be classified in the "girlfriend" column, they are still guys. So if your gay friend looked like, oh, Brad Pitt, regardless of his orientation, I suspect that you would be thinking unChristian things while you were in bed with him. Just like if your husband had to sleep with a lesbian that looked like, oh, Pam Anderson.
The only way this is 100% alright is if you were a lesbian sleeping with a gay man- the repulsion is totally mutual . |
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