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Lobbying in Sacramento today.....
speaking in front of the Judiciary Committee on behalf of California's children in support of SB 544(Battin). I've been told the CA Judicial Council is dead set against this bill because it limits Judicial discretion. I say its high time we did, especially when it comes to placing the welfare of children FIRST. Senator Battin wrote this bill because I told him about my case and he felt this was an issue that needed to be rectified.
those who are interested in the text of the bill (Jason? Heather?) can go here: http://info.sen.ca.gov/pub/bill/sen/...ended_sen.html an update on SB 33 which was sponsored by PROTECT (http://www.PROTECT.org) SB 33(Battin) passed the Judiciary Committee on April 19th. This is a minor miracle, and I hope a sign that things are changing in CA with respect to the treatment of abusers/abused. (in a nutshell, SB 33 ensures family members who molest children get the same penalty as strangers who molest children. CA has protected these family members for far too long. NOTE: SB 33 is still on very shaky ground as there are influential forces lining up against it. See the most recent update at the PROTECT site. finally, thanks to all of you for your support of me in this cause |
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Who the heck would line up against that?! Maybe if I read the text I will find the answer of why....
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"Do not be afraid! I am Esteban de la Sexface!" "In order to live free and happily, you must sacrifice boredom. It is not always an easy sacrifice" Whehyll I can do EHYT!! Wehyll I can make it WAHN moh thihme! (wheyllit'sA reayllongwaytogooo! To say goodbhiiy!) - |
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nevermind that the child couldnt possibly KNOW about the stuff they are reporting unless it was happening... btw: the bill I went to support yesterday was pulled from the calendar by the Senator, apparently I missed his phone call (he called 1/2 hr after I already left) so, I get all the way down there and sit thru a boring afternoon of ADA arguments for nothing. I did stay to support a similar bill, and I did meet with several other advocates, which was good. but all in all a very disappointing day. then I get home and I have a msg from my attorney (my court date was also that same day) and I am being forced to pay supervised visitation fees to the tune of $600/mo, which is almost as much as my mortgage, and it just looks like things are getting gloomier all the time. I cant understand why I am being punished for bringing forth evidence of abuse!! unless....its because I am a woman and the court's attitude is anti-woman. What else can it be? Ive done nothing wrong and the other side is a CONVICTED child molester and the court is bending over backwards to accomodate him. the whole thing makes me sick |
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Dr. Gardner is now dead thank Gawd. what a crank HE was. He lobbied unsuccessfully to have his manufactured "syndrome" put into the Psychologist's (dont remember the name but it amounted to) "handbook" or professional Journal which details various psychological conditions and treatments etc. Its been shown statistically that when there is no abuse going on, there is usually no contentious custody fight, the parents are able (generally) to work things out. Abusers are far more likely to FIGHT for custody. and 70% of the time, they win custody. In fact, if a mother brings forth evidence of abuse, the court is likely to punish HER by taking custody away from her and making HER have to endure supervised visits. I can get you statistics, but it will have to be later, as I have to get to work. As always, it is dangerous to generalize, but I have researched into this pretty extensively. Women in general are treated very poorly by Family Courts across the nation. the stories are heartbreaking. |
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I noticed when I went to the website you put a link for, that, strangely, a lady senator from SF opposed the protection bill.
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just an FYI: MY bill, the one I went to lobby for was SB 544. different bill, same author. Last edited by irishgrl; 05-04-2005 at 06:09 PM.. |
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as for divorced fathers who only get alternate weekends, that is a pretty common custody arrangement, and generally, courts tend to preserve the status quo as much as possible...in other words, whatever the timeshare arrangement was before the divorce (typically stay at home mom, working dad) the kids stay in the family home to preserve as much stability as possible. In the custody arrangements you speak of, did the parents arrive at a custody arrangement together? or did a Court have to impose one on them? Understand, I am not saying that every father who wants shared custody is an abuser, what I am saying is, abusers are usually control freaks who see a custody/visitation situation as a power struggle that they MUST win at all costs. no matter who gets hurt along the way. its sick. |
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re: the two cases you mention, I cant comment because I dont know the other side....but the one boy who wants to live with his father, how old is he? is he old enough for his wishes to be considered? if so, maybe the father can have a modification of the current arrangement. |
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as for the information I mentioned earlier, I found some links with numbers,facts and figures: Statistics Abuse facts |
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any time a child is abused it is a sad situation, and the PARENT has a duty to protect. anyone who KNOWS of abuse or even suspects it should make a phone call, even if it is anonymous, so that the kids are spared futher harm. Their mother needs to get over herself and put her kids' welfare first rather than her personal belief regarding "divorce" its too bad this is happening, and maybe someone will intervene. Good luck. Last edited by irishgrl; 05-05-2005 at 10:51 AM.. |
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BTW, do you watch Judging Amy? I just started watching, and of course it's over, but I love her. Stevie does too!
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That Judge needs to be defrocked and I wish I knew how...Im considering writing a complaint to the Grand Jury but my mom is afraid it might work against me if I do that before my case is over.... |
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another link online forum for survivors good source of info btw: everyone develops their own coping mechanisms and who is to say whether a person hasnt in fact made peace with the past? If not, I hope those links will help...at least, they will provide a starting point. Last edited by irishgrl; 05-05-2005 at 10:24 PM.. |
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