Fm Band To Attend Funeral

Originally Posted by David

I saw the thread title and assumed the band had the told the press that they planned to attend Welch's funeral. Funny way to word the title. I'd like to think that Stevie, Mick, and John attend the funeral. Maybe Chris, too. I don't see Lindsey doing so.

I thought the same thing!

I seriously doubt Chris would fly back to the states for this. And I don't see Lindsey going either - esp since he's on tour. I would expect Mick and maybe Stevie. John? eh. Probably not. And I doubt and of the other era members would go.

So sad that he's getting the recognition now. His passing really got more press than I imagined. It was all over the radio yesterday morning and I heard Sentimental Lady so many times.

[David A]

man, fm band members are kind of cold hearted , serious, heck I go to services for friends if I need to, pretty sad if u ask me and speakes volumes about fm band members as a whole, maybe ken was right in his book, bunch of ego minded jerks

[PenguinHead]

I won't cast judgement on any of the band members on how they choose to deal with Bob's death. It's entirely an individual choice. I'm sure all them will give respect and support to his family in some manner. At the very least, flowers will likely be sent.

Several members have already spoken about Bob being an important part of Fleetwood Mac's legacy. At this point, any ill will mostly be forgiven.

[Villavic]

Originally Posted by PenguinHead

I won't cast judgement on any of the band members on how they choose to deal with Bob's death. It's entirely an individual choice. I'm sure all them will give respect and support to his family in some manner. At the very least, flowers will likely be sent..

I agree. I wouldn't use the phrase "should go...". Let's think also about what the family wants. I remember Richard Wright funeral was strictly private and as I learned, no Pink Floyd member assisted. That doesn't mean they were not affected about it.

[Tango]

Originally Posted by David A

man, fm band members are kind of cold hearted , serious, heck I go to services for friends if I need to, pretty sad if u ask me and speakes volumes about fm band members as a whole, maybe ken was right in his book, bunch of ego minded jerks

FM band members are kind of cold hearted? Based on what? Your assumption that they won't be going to the services? Don't you think you're getting ahead of yourself on this one David A?

[iamnotafraid]

Originally Posted by Villavic

I agree. I wouldn't use the phrase "should go...". Let's think also about what the family wants.

^This is so true. If somehow all the members of the Mac
showed up it could become a circus.

And I might be the only one who feels this way. But I
find no comfort when friends and family show up at
funerals. When my father passed in 2004, he had well
over 800 people show up at the wake. It's funny when
people are grieving the most, they are the ones who
have to put on a show for everyone else. As a Christian
maybe I shouldn't feel this way. But I found no comfort
at all during the wake and funeral. Or even during the
days and days of visits from friends and loved ones.

So I think sending a card and expressing your condolences
is enough. Unless there's something you can actually do for
the family without intruding on their time of grief and sorrow.

[holidayroad]

Originally Posted by iamnotafraid

And I might be the only one who feels this way. But I
find no comfort when friends and family show up at
funerals. When my father passed in 2004, he had well
over 800 people show up at the wake. It's funny when
people are grieving the most, they have to put on a show for everyone else. As a Christian
maybe I shouldn't feel this way. But I found no comfort
at all during the wake and funeral. Or even during the
days and days of visits from friends and loved ones.

So I think sending a card and expressing your condolences
is enough. Unless there's something you can actually do for
the family without intruding on their time of grief and sorrow.

I agree with you. When my husband's mother died, he and his sisters felt very distraught at having to comfort all of the family and friends at the wake/funeral when they were the one who needed comforted. It made a hard time for the family even harder

[Macfanforever]

I feel its up to them .if they can make it.I already experienced 4 funerals in the family.My dad was the latest one last February.Some people did show up to pay respects and some did not show.I did not hold anything against the friends that did not show up.

Some of them I did see months after the loss did say I'm sorry about your loss of your love one.I tell them thank you.

[Chris_Lover]

Originally Posted by Ulpian

I can't see Christine going, and I am not sure John will.

Christine went to NY very briefly when she was promoting her solo album in 2004, but that was apparently under duresss. I can't see her flying out to the US for the funeral of someone, rightly or wrongly, that she had stopped communicating with in the early 90s and had really lost all contact with.

I think only Stevie and Mick will attend funeral.
As Ulpian said, maybe Chris will never fly out to the US again in her life: over the years she developed a fear of airplanes. It's called "aerophobia" and it's a real illness, so it's better if she stays at home. She's 69 yo now and it's better if she avoid any stress. Anyway I'm sure she sent a condolence telegram to Bob's family.

[iamnotafraid]

Originally Posted by holidayroad

I agree with you. When my husband's mother died, he and his sisters felt very distraught at having to comfort all of the family and friends at the wake/funeral when they were the one who needed comforted. It made a hard time for the family even harder

I'm glad someone understands. It's almost funny
these rituals we have. It's time we re-think the wake
and funeral one.

[Villavic]

Originally Posted by iamnotafraid

I'm glad someone understands. It's almost funny
these rituals we have. .

I agree too. In Peru is a must to serve coffee and cookies at a funeral, and relatives have to be in charge of all that. And if you are not ready with the coffee, they worry and think "what will they say??"
I always found it ridiculous.

[CADreaming]

Originally Posted by iamnotafraid

I'm glad someone understands. It's almost funny
these rituals we have. It's time we re-think the wake
and funeral one.

But, what about all the other non-family who loved them too or were touched by their life? They don't get the chance to grieve or pay respects.

[Villavic]

Originally Posted by CADreaming

But, what about all the other non-family who loved them too or were touched by their life? They don't get the chance to grieve or pay respects.

That's fine I think. But in Peru sometimes the funerals got distorted when relatives, as holidayroad said, felt very distraught at having to comfort all friends, and not only to comfort but also serve. In some neighborhoods men found an opportunity even to drink liquor for free!! Specially when funerals are done at the late's home, not a funeral home.

Ok maybe I'm running out of the topic. But thinking about Bob relatives, or any public figure, I guess relatives got stressed because of the media cover when it should be a private thing.
You have a point, no doubt. For example thousands of people wanted to pay respect to Princess Diana (something the Queen couldn't understand), but I don't know if the family really wanted that ceremony with live broadcasts, the boys walking behind the coffin, etc. Ok Bob's funeral is far smaller, but who knows what the family wants. Maybe paying respect thru a webpage is just ok for them and will appreciate enough. Who knows.

[desertangel]

I too have been wondering if there's going to be a funeral. Wendy posted on Bob's FB that they won't let her have him back until next week and also that she's been real busy. I can't imagine there not being some type of memorial with all the friends he had, but it's also possible that Bob may not have wanted such a thing and Wendy would honor his wishes. I can see Bob being that way; he was unique, intelligent and unconventional... not to mention very talented and gifted. We will see, I guess.

[iamnotafraid]

Originally Posted by CADreaming

But, what about all the other non-family who loved them too or were touched by their life? They don't get the chance to grieve or pay respects.

I think you can pay your respects at the gravesite.
I personally find more peace there in private than
I ever have at a funeral home.

I've said words there that was between them, myself
and God. And while I don't believe the person that's
passed away can hear you, it still gives a bit of closure
to me at least.

If their soul has made it to Heaven, I can't imagine them
looking down on this world as it is now. There's just too
much pain and sadness. The comfort is in knowing that
we have the opportunity to see them again.