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Okay, on to a serious moment... You're right about different areas being different, obviously. I think the fact that we live in these cities might give us (me) a false sense of the pulse of the country. I think it will spread to the middle, though, soon. I mean, because, there are gay people everywhere. Also b/c more famous people are coming out. But as far as how it is now, you're right. "gay sensitivity" is much more important in some parts of the country than it is here. We (I) probably shouldn't forget that. Shouldn't forget that most of the entire country is behind California, and some other places, in this regard. Shouldn't forget that more "gay sensitivity" is much more needed than in my world. Also, I always hear gay people calling other gay things "so gay". Mainly things such as you described, with variation. Sometimes I don't get it, though, okay, usually. I swear you gay guys are meaner to each other than I could ever be... Which is fine. I mean, I don't get all the subtext, and why should I? I'm not gay. It's still a bit disconcerting, though. Kind of like learning a new language...a language I would have categorized as too girly and catty if my girlfriends had ever said the same type of thing...
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In grade school (the 70's) I would have described Disneyland dancers as being "so gay", as in exhibiting extreme gaiety to the point of ridiculous. I read a lot, and had parents who used archaic terms; I didn't associate it with sexual preference, was ignorant of variety in sexual preference, and would have probably still been unaware of the fear and hatred behind the sneering use of the word—the odd horror at cleancut enthusiasm, and iconic Americanism gone "wrong". After Tab Hunter, how could any strapping, beautiful all-american man be trusted?
Of course, I use that example because I later met a Disneyland dancer who let me know that he, and many of his fellow dancers were gay gay gay. He had leapt, pirouetted, and pranced about me at the clothing store we worked at, and he still had to tell me he was gay. Why was I so dumb, er, I mean, imperceptive? My mother, when she heard me use the word, spent a lot of time telling me not to assume someone was gay (as if it should have been my business, anyway) if they had effeminate affectations. I believe it was she who told me it was an awful word to throw around, because it could hurt, it was a "bad" thing to call someone. Implicit in this, her attempt to enlighten me, was the idea that it was bad refer to someone's behavior as "gay" because it was bad to be gay. And that's why I went on to work in a gay bar. Thanks mom! I miss it still. After I moved to SF, I decided to assume everyone is gay, until they tell me otherwise. This is my long-winded anecdote-laden way of saying that the term was already loaded in the 70's, and I had reason to know better, and kids now can't feign ignorance when told their use of the term term is offensive But, I don't think it should be a legal matter, unless a student is inciting others to hatred, or if it is an issue of slander.
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I know what you mean. The problem with that is that a gay person may think "oh, so you think that I'm silly or can't be taken seriously because I'm gay." Quote:
And OMG, brunch is gay? I had no idea. Last edited by skcin; 03-02-2007 at 01:23 PM.. |
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And I guess I never thought about brunch being gay. But it obviously is, now that you explain it. |
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I guess that means I should pack my bags and head over to the Culture Club forums. THAT'S SO GAY!
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As witnessed where? By calling you out as mean-spirited? How is that the same thing as saying it's okay to call people hateful names?
Also, sparing people's feelings has nothing to do with being holier-than-thou, it has everything to do with being humane. But yeah, I know, having a conscience is hard; it's hard work to keep up with, so just keep being lazy, you know, whatever.
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It'd be one thing if you added .02 about the topic at hand, but you came after me instead. For that, I said go to hell and I meant it. And it's sad really, I was kind of thinking that maybe I was a bit harsh, but now I see that I wasn't. Why don't you just head back over to your cliff and dwell right off it? Get off my back. Teach by example if you want to teach, not by being a smart-ass douchebag.
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^ Let's settle down girls, no need to make this personal. And if you take a gander at my location, I'm already on the cliff dwelling, and I don't think there's room for both of us.
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Okay, fine, but just because you say so, and I have some respect for you.
(As a side note, my next move was gonna be to call him/her/whatever gay. muahahahaha.)
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Hee. After I posted I was worried everyone would say "oh, yeah, well who the f*ck do you think you are, a moderator? Butt out, bitch." Just tryin to keep the peace, man.
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^^Just threaten to close the thread
I'm kiiiiiidding..... |
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i keed, i keed.
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that was my line, but i was at work. goddammit.
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