The Just Thought I'd Share Thread

[Sahara]

Originally Posted by Silver Springs

*Waveth*

I guess not all of us were meant to be such social butterflies when growing up, rather the awkward kid that nobody really knew what to do with. Oh well. In some ways that builds alot more character, because you grow up with less illusions. I'm glad things are looking up for you though! I'm still in transition phase really; I have a select few friends whom I love to death and acquaintences that still bring out the shy child in me. But I'm getting there. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs so it's hard to find something to bond over lol! Did you ever find that you were far closer with your teachers than "colleagues"? I tended to be like that. In fact I'd spend break and lunch in my homeroom tutor's classroom with him to avoid going out and interacting with the other kids who didn't really get me. Maybe I'm just an old soul. I've always maintained that I was born middle aged, and I'm just trying to catch up with myself before I can move forward lol. Possibly why I find older guys such dishes too. Give me Lindsey Buckingham, Alan Rickman or Rupert Everett over Zac Efron or *gag* the Jonas Brothers any day lol.

I think we were separated at birth

[daniellaaarisen]

Originally Posted by Silver Springs

Maybe I'm just an old soul. I've always maintained that I was born middle aged, and I'm just trying to catch up with myself before I can move forward lol. Possibly why I find older guys such dishes too. Give me Lindsey Buckingham, Alan Rickman or Rupert Everett over Zac Efron or *gag* the Jonas Brothers any day lol.

I'm infamous on the Ledge for this. I understand, and you're definitely not alone. It's all about finding other "old souls" and banding together!

[GypsySorcerer]

I've never related well to people my own age. Most of my friends are much older. I also tend to get along well with people younger than I am.

Originally Posted by HomerMcVie

Although I do love a lot of old music...especially old country music.

Me too! We have a new radio station here in Lexington that plays only oldies country....60s through 80s. It's awesome.

Originally Posted by daniellaaarisen

Ends up that one of the guys I called out yesterday is busy saving lives in Jamaica after the tropical storm. He's a surgeon in Montego Bay and I was pissed because he was not making ANY time for me (not responding to texts, etc.) and I was feeling used. So then today he texts me and says that there's been a bad tropical storm in Jamaica and that many people have died and that he's been working nonstop in the ER trying to save people from injuries but now they're evacuating and alkdhfjadklhlak.

I'm sorry. Had his behavior in the past give you reason to conclude he wasn't making time for you?

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by GypsySorcerer

Me too! We have a new radio station here in Lexington that plays only oldies country....60s through 80s. It's awesome.

Didn't we, once upon a time, have a long discussion about Restless Heart, and Diamond Rio???

[GypsySorcerer]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

Didn't we, once upon a time, have a long discussion about Restless Heart, and Diamond Rio???

LOL! Yes, I think we did. I remember it including a discussion about Larry Stewart's solo career. That was a LONG time ago!

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by GypsySorcerer

LOL! Yes, I think we did. I remember it including a discussion about Larry Stewart's solo career. That was a LONG time ago!

At least 5 years ago! Have you seen them, since Larry rejoined? They're still awesome! I've only seen them once, since then, as they never seem to play Indiana. Larry's put on some weight, but basically still looks the same. The only one that really changed, is John, the drummer. He looks OLD, now.
Larry and Greg are FB friends of mine. Larry posts quite a bit, actually. Post some nice pics and stuff, too, of songwriter workshops and the like, that he attends.

[daniellaaarisen]

Originally Posted by GypsySorcerer

I'm sorry. Had his behavior in the past give you reason to conclude he wasn't making time for you?

He's done really minor things (not responding to texts, etc) but nothing to warrant how I reacted. I was screwed over by the guy I was interested prior to him and I'm just assuming that this one will act like the other did.

[Nikolaj]

Originally Posted by daniellaaarisen

Jesus Christ, I am such a bitch.

Ends up that one of the guys I called out yesterday is busy saving lives in Jamaica after the tropical storm. He's a surgeon in Montego Bay and I was pissed because he was not making ANY time for me (not responding to texts, etc.) and I was feeling used. So then today he texts me and says that there's been a bad tropical storm in Jamaica and that many people have died and that he's been working nonstop in the ER trying to save people from injuries but now they're evacuating and alkdhfjadklhlak.

I FEEL SO TERRIBLE FOR GIVING HIM **** YESTERDAY.

No, you are not a b****.
It's good he finally texted you, and you know, something about that story...I am sure you may know him well enough to know the difference, but sometimes the bigger the excuse ("I was selflessly saving dying people!") the bigger the fabrication is. I knew someone brilliant who would come up with the most reasonable excuses for being thoughtless- which made me feel similar guilt or ashamed feelings as you expressed above. Most of the reasons turned out to be lies.
I'm not saying that's the case with the surgeon you know, currently in Jamaica. But I still think he could've taken a minute to reply to you or give you a heads-up and spared causing you the anxiety. He replied after you were angry, took the time then.
A Ledgie must stick up for another Ledgie and let her know she is not a b *word.
I think you had a right to be attended to as being as important as any catastrophe he encountered, and it wouldn't have taken all that much time away from his efforts to tell someone who cares for him and he for you that he was crazy busy.
But, right now, likely you're just thinking how dreamy and wonderful he is, and don't want to hear a word against him.
Just don't blame yourself. He could've let you know and kept you from feeling the way that you did- hurt. It's not wrong to expect a man you care about to consider your feelings; even while in the throes of a crisis involving strangers and his profession.

[daniellaaarisen]

Originally Posted by Nikolaj

No, you are not a b****.
It's good he finally texted you, and you know, something about that story...I am sure you may know him well enough to know the difference, but sometimes the bigger the excuse ("I was selflessly saving dying people!") the bigger the fabrication is. I knew someone brilliant who would come up with the most reasonable excuses for being thoughtless- which made me feel similar guilt or ashamed feelings as you expressed above. Most of the reasons turned out to be lies.
I'm not saying that's the case with the surgeon you know, currently in Jamaica. But I still think he could've taken a minute to reply to you or give you a heads-up and spared causing you the anxiety.
A Ledgie must stick up for another Ledgie and let her know she is not a b *word.
I think you had a right to be attended to as being as important as any catastrophe he encountered, and it wouldn't have taken all that much time away from his efforts to tell someone who cares for him and he for you that he was crazy busy.
But, right now, likely you're just thinking how dreamy and wonderful he is, and don't want to hear a word against him.
Just don't blame yourself. He could've let you know and kept you from feeling the way that you did- hurt. It's not wrong to expect a man you care about to consider your feelings, even while in the throes of a crisis he encounters.

Yeah, but I still overreacted. I could've just waited it out but instead I got kinda melodramatic and pulled the entire, "if you're not going to make this work then I don't want anything to do with you anymore" card. Ugh.

[daniellaaarisen]

On a completely unrelated note.... I just had one of those blissful moments when I felt so, so appreciative for Fleetwood Mac's existence. Ever felt an intense urge to state the obvious and just go, "Holy ****, I love Fleetwood Mac" ?

I do that all the time. Especially after I watch Destiny Rules. I always feel really lame when I get randomly gushy for a BAND, but whatever.

[holidayroad]

Originally Posted by Silver Springs

*Waveth*

I guess not all of us were meant to be such social butterflies when growing up, rather the awkward kid that nobody really knew what to do with. Oh well. In some ways that builds alot more character, because you grow up with less illusions. I'm glad things are looking up for you though! I'm still in transition phase really; I have a select few friends whom I love to death and acquaintences that still bring out the shy child in me. But I'm getting there. I don't drink, smoke or do drugs so it's hard to find something to bond over lol! Did you ever find that you were far closer with your teachers than "colleagues"? I tended to be like that. In fact I'd spend break and lunch in my homeroom tutor's classroom with him to avoid going out and interacting with the other kids who didn't really get me. Maybe I'm just an old soul. I've always maintained that I was born middle aged, and I'm just trying to catch up with myself before I can move forward lol. Possibly why I find older guys such dishes too. Give me Lindsey Buckingham, Alan Rickman or Rupert Everett over Zac Efron or *gag* the Jonas Brothers any day lol.

I was a lot like this when I was younger. I didn't fit well with my classmates. I let some people treat me badly when I should have kicked them to the curb. I also didn't 'party', so people thought I was even weirder. Almost all my friends were older. I was more comfortable around adults/teachers. One of my few friends in high school said 'You're the youngest 40 year old I've ever met!'
Now, I Am almost 40 and I feel like my age is sort of catching up to the mindset I've always had. Still, most of the people I'm around in daily life are far older than I am, so they tend to not take me seriously. That's hard to deal with. I feel since I have lived 36 years, I have a valid point of view on things.
Recently, I came to the conclusion that I have had enough of dealing with people who don't have my best interests in mind. So, I finally blocked my sister's phone number. That may sound bad, but it has been a long time in coming. She's the type who thinks everyone should give to her/do for her/ feel sorry for her and put up with her, no matter how badly she treats you. Well, my days of that are OVER!

[GypsySorcerer]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

At least 5 years ago! Have you seen them, since Larry rejoined? They're still awesome! I've only seen them once, since then, as they never seem to play Indiana. Larry's put on some weight, but basically still looks the same. The only one that really changed, is John, the drummer. He looks OLD, now.
Larry and Greg are FB friends of mine. Larry posts quite a bit, actually. Post some nice pics and stuff, too, of songwriter workshops and the like, that he attends.

I haven't seen them since Larry came back. Unless I've missed it, they haven't been in the area. Surprisingly enough, we don't seem to pull in many of the older country acts here, just the newer artists. (Carrie Underwood's been here probably four times in two years. ) I did get to see Dwight Yoakam about a year ago, who was as amazing as ever.

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by GypsySorcerer

I haven't seen them since Larry came back. Unless I've missed it, they haven't been in the area. Surprisingly enough, we don't seem to pull in many of the older country acts here, just the newer artists. (Carrie Underwood's been here probably four times in two years. ) I did get to see Dwight Yoakam about a year ago, who was as amazing as ever.

They still tour some, but it seems like it's mostly casinos, and what not. They play the Grand Old Opry, frequently, but acts usually only get to do 2-3 songs, then the next artist comes on. I'd be too frustrated, paying $35 for 2-3 songs.

We had a great venue here, in Nashville, IN, called the Little Nashville Opry(that's where I saw Restless Heart, and Diamond Rio, many times). It had been there for about 35 years. The owner torched it, a couple of years ago(they have no proof, but it's common knowledge), and it has yet to be rebuilt. There were rumors that Toby Keith was going to invest in rebuilding, but I think that's died off now.....

Dwight? I LOVE Dwight!!! God, I'd love to see him. I've never had the opportunity. Dwight's an extreme rarity. The real deal, among all the stupid Rascal Flatt crap, that's out there!

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by holidayroad

I finally blocked my sister's phone number. That may sound bad, but it has been a long time in coming. She's the type who thinks everyone should give to her/do for her/ feel sorry for her and put up with her, no matter how badly she treats you. Well, my days of that are OVER!

I'm an only child, and I'm extremely close to two of my cousins. My one cousin, well, we might as well be brothers. We were closer than brothers. Well, he's a terrible alcoholic(now, I drink, but know my limits, don't get in trouble, etc....), and has a terrible temper. Funny thing is, he always took his temper out on everyone else in the family. Not me, even though we hung out a couple of days, every week. Well, last summer(a year ago), he started throwing his drunken tantrums at me, screaming and throwing stuff. Lemme tell ya something, you don't yell at Homie! The fourth weekend he did this, I was done. I love him, but I can't tolerate that behavior. So I fired him. He knows I love him, and I spread word, through the family, on WHY I wasn't going to do anything with him, anymore.

I miss him, but I can't, or won't, restart that cycle. I've considered asking him down one weekend, but we did that for so long, that it would almost certainly lead to us doing it again, on a regular basis. I've grown since then, and won't walk down that path. I feel badly about firing him, but know that it was a "survival move"(lol) for me.

[BTFLCHLD]

Originally Posted by daniellaaarisen

Yeah, but I still overreacted. I could've just waited it out but instead I got kinda melodramatic and pulled the entire, "if you're not going to make this work then I don't want anything to do with you anymore" card. Ugh.

I thought you wrote that they were "past love interests" you ditched.