Is anyone faithful anymore??

[DrummerDeanna]

I mean this question in terms of relationships...not religion.

Anyway, I recently broke up with my boyfried, we had a good two year run during which we were both completely faithful to one another...

But in the last two days I've found out about all these people I know who are or have slept with married people! I'm appaled...

First a good friend of mine, he lives a highly highly promiscuous (sp?) lifestyle...which hey..whatever floats your boat...I just don't wanna be hearing about it ya know? Well yesterday I got a picture of just how much he gets around and i was like.."Dude..I just hope you're using protection.." and he said, "Oh yeah...well except for the guy who was already in a relationship, we didn't use protection, and another guy is married with kids, and we didn't use protection.." So I am like freaking out....these people are in relationships...and my friend...I was like "What the hell are you doing sleeping with married people!?!" I was infuriated (even though it really is none of my business...

Okay then another friend of mine is seeing a man who is married and has kids (okay, she's actually the sister of a good friend of mine) but I think that's just not cool...at all...

Anyway, this is mostly a rant because I have some trust issues anyway...and hearing all this crap it's like...are people incapable of staying faithful to one another? I'm losing my faith in that concept...etc...it's just really disheartening...and it freaks me out in regard to any future relationship I may have haha...

Ok..end rant.

[Pisces Queen]

I hear ya ~ believe me loud and clear. I have been single for almost 2 years and I decided it was time to get back in the game. I met a guy on match.com and we started dating. Every Tuesday or Wednesday evening he would be AWOL . Couldn't reach him ~ cell turned off etc. This went on for like a month and then I got a call from........drum roll please......his WIFE. I thought I was going to die. I told her that I met him on match and that she could view his profile. Needless to say we aren't dating anymore. I am disgusted and mad. I will get over being hurt. I can only imagine how his wife feels. I was married for a short time when I was young and my husband slept with anything that walks. I divorced him when I was 23 and raised my son on my own. Now I am 33 and everyone always ask me "why aren't you married?" Well buddy here's reason # 1,012.

[gldstwmn]

I was sitting in Hartsfield Airport last Sunday watching CNN while waiting to board my plane. The story about the porn industry AIDS cases came on and they were interviewing a woman who had gotten out of the industry and become a doctor and was working with porn stars now to take precautions and be tested regularly. The interviewer asked her questions about how they were paid and she and he made the point about the risks these people take for a relatively small amount of money. The interviewer admitted to watching porn but not "watching very much." I laughed out loud at that one. The dimwit hausfrau sitting next to me said "Oh my God, I cannot believe we are watching this on CNN" with some indignation. I kept my mouth shut. Then the lady next time me made some sort of milder comment like "can you believe this is on the news?" Well, they tore open one of my Liberal wounds and my Liberal blood started a flowin'. First of all, I told the milder lady, I'm GLAD they are publicizing that PEOPLE GET AIDS FROM HAVING UNPROTECTED SEX. Then I informed her in a voice loud enough for dimwit hausfrau to hear that the US lags far behind other countries in it's availability of low cost treatments for AIDS patients. I closed by saying that nothing that I saw on the news really shocked me anymore. A guy with a ponytail who later asked for the vegetarian plate on the plane turned around and looked at me for a minute. Hmph. I hope dimwit hausfrau's husband, who she was on the phone with at one point, doesn't screw around on her. I think maybe people who have been denied the right to marry for so long might be able to show us what a commitment is all about. I, personally will never marry or be in a relationship again in my life. I look at it as something I've already done and am quite happy and fulfilled with the life I have now. People screw around. It's a major human flaw. Some people can resist it and some can't.

[CarneVaca]

Originally Posted by Pisces Queen

Every Tuesday or Wednesday evening he would be a-wall.

Wow! How does he do that?

Anyhoo, don't lose faith.

[DeeGeMe]

NO--and I think it's only gotten worse. There just doesn't seem to be a stigma attached anymore to having an affair with someone who is married. I found out not too long ago that my father was cheating on my mom. And he's a senior citizen! I guess you never get too old these days, what with Viagra! Then I found out that two of my (married) former co-workers had had an affair and that they'd had a baby together. Her husband stayed with her but the other couple ended up getting a divorce. They had 3 kids under the age of 5! Then not long after that, I found out a current co-worker had had an affair with one of our interns! His wife was pregnant with their second child btw. And when the President of the company found out, he fired the co-worker and the intern. I've seen it happen to friends, to family members, co-workers, and neighbors. I just think it's such a selfish act-countless people get hurt in the end because of someone's desire to have sex with someone who isn't their spouse. Either be married or be single. I'm sick of people thinking they can have "it all". Yeah, they might have it all-alright. Did you know that one of the fastest growing AIDS demos is in people over the age of 60? Some folks think just because they're married that it can't happen to them. It can and it does-every day. And people wonder why I'm not married!

[skcin]

Originally Posted by CarneVaca

Wow! How does he do that?

Anyhoo, don't lose faith.

Heehee, I caught that one too, Carne.

Paula

[Pisces Queen]

Originally Posted by CarneVaca

Wow! How does he do that?

Anyhoo, don't lose faith.

He did it with his super cheating powers

[Johnny Stew]

It's hard to be single these days. Whether you're straight and single, or gay and single.
The world is populated with people who have become very self-involved. It's all about instant gratification and what will make YOU happy. Very few people seem to take into account other people's feelings or happiness. In any matter... small or large.

Have a significant other that you're unhappy with it? No problem... just go out and sleep with someone else behind their back. Who cares if anyone gets hurt in the process, just so long as you're happy!

Your relationship requires work? Bah! Dump 'em and find someone else!

Like I've said before, no one has a sense of personal accountability anymore. And no one else matters, other than ourselves.

I've met some seemingly nice guys, who I wouldn't date for all of the money in the world. I don't want an open-relationship, nor would I want to date someone who wouldn't be above fooling around with someone behind my back.

Ah well, that's the end of my rant.

[DrummerDeanna]

Hmm..so we all seem to be a little jaded then eh?

Haha..now see I'm also having a dilema in that I just don't want to associate myself with these people who are having the affairs...two of them are friends...


In my previous post I didn't mention another friend who is seeing a woman...(she's also a woman) and like this woman is married with three kids, but since her husband doesn't suspect anything (cause their both women) my friend goes to their house for dinner, hangs out with her and her kids etc...all under the husbands nose...I have no respect for that...and am so disgusted...disgusted beyond belief....

There have to be people out there who don't cheat, right? haha...I just hope I can find one...I don't wanna go through that crap again...

--And..I found out recently that my grandpa had a long standing affair back in the late 80's early 90's...that one really shocked me...

[Johnny Stew]

Originally Posted by Pisces Queen

He did it with his super cheating powers

I think CarneVaca was making reference to the fact that it's actually "AWOL" (absent without leave).
But don't worry... if a door can be ajar, then a man can be a-wall.

And I'm sorry to hear about your experience... some people are just asses, period.

[dissention]

You have to be faithful these days. You screw the wrong person and your arm falls off.

[Pisces Queen]

Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

I think CarneVaca was making reference to the fact that it's actually "AWOL" (absent without leave).
But don't worry... if a door can be ajar, then a man can be a-wall.

And I'm sorry to hear about your experience... some people are just asses, period.

You guys make me laugh!! Thanks Johnny Stew. I will fix my post to read grammatically correct. I just get so mad when I talk about it. ERRRR

[gldstwmn]

Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

Hmm..so we all seem to be a little jaded then eh?

Haha..now see I'm also having a dilema in that I just don't want to associate myself with these people who are having the affairs...two of them are friends...

I had a friend who had a looong history of going after married men. Her husband died of cancer after they had been married for about five years (they had no children). After that, she ALWAYS dated married guys. Fast forward about ten years-she reappears in my life after we'd had sporadic contact and she is at rock bottom. I loan the woman money, give her a job and then-she tried to steal from me! Thing is, she's still trying to deny it. I caught her dead to rights. Are the two character flaws related? I'll let you be the judge.

[estranged4life]

I have been in my current relationship with Debbie for 14 years this June and have been married for nearly 11 years (11 years to be exact on this upcoming Monday) and we have both been faithful, Except with occassional fling with absolute BOREDOM...LMAO!!!!

Btw, If we want to annoy the religious right putz in this area, We usually bring up our nightly "bed sharing" with 2 males & 1 female...That is of course 2 males & 1 female of the feline sort (Sometimes 2 females if "Sioban" comes out from under my stereo where she has taken up residence), We just leave the feline part off to watch the look on the faces of these "fake healing bible thumping nimrods"

[gldstwmn]

Congratulations to you Brian and to everyone who is faithful. Johnny Stew is right. It's about more than the instant gratification.