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Originally Posted by cliffdweller

I couldn't agree more. I think the first time, when you're a teenager, is usually uncomfortable and awkward because a.) you don't really know what you want or what your partner wants and b.) you both are not sexually mature enough to even really KNOW what pleasures you both , well, seriously, sex is about enjoyment and pleasure, and an emotional investment (to some, not all) so when you're a teenager (and even in your early 20's) you don't know enough about yourself or your body (or your partner's) to make those judgements or understand what they even mean. Man, I'm about to turn 30 and I'm SOOOO stoked because I'm finally learning these things...man, desire, sexual forthrightness when you're in your late 20's to early 30's means something SOOOOOOO much different than when you're a teenager or early 20's. I like to call it "sexual agency," everyone should strive for it.

Right, plus for me it clouded my judgement. I put him before all else. What a dumb thing for a teen to do!